Gender Dysphoria hindrance or not?

[tugon (imported)]

I have observed some of the brightest people posting on the web to be members of the EA. Many of us have struggled to overcome our gender issues. Some have succeeded in life despite those issues and others have been held back by the struggle. I sometimes wonder what I might have achieved if my issues were corrected at an earlier age. Have others felt the gender issues were a hindrance to their goals or did they excell despite them?

[kristoff]

Perhaps they were neither a hindrance or a spite, but instead the motivation to one's achievement(s), success, greatness, to life in our own choosing......

[JeffEunuch (imported)]

I have observed some of the brightest people posting on the web to be members of the EA. Many of us have struggled to overcome our gender issues. Some have succeeded in life despite those issues and others have been held back by the struggle. I sometimes wonder what I might have achieved if my issues were corrected at an earlier age. Have others felt the gender issues were a hindrance to their goals or did they excell despite them?

We're all whom we are. I now have the love of my life because I am whom I am. We're planning a life together on an island about 25 km from the mainland, tentatively beginning in February '07 - 2 guys hobby farming 160 acres. That his home sold very quickly, and mine's large enough for 2 of us in any event, means that we'll be together in mine for a couple of months before making the big move from the mainland to an island connected to here by 2 ferries a day. I test on gender tests as androgynous. He's further along the female dimension on those same tests. He's also beautiful in a feminine sense - nil body hair. Yet he's fully male sexually and enjoys being the top most of the time. I luv having him cum in one of the 2 orifices suited foir the purpose.

My own androgyny seems to carry through in how I feel about my genitals.

I don't really consider that I'm gender dysphoric. I like the gender to which I was born even though I sometimes also enjoy being effeminate. One psychiatrist explained that she considered that I was likely genital dysphoric. It seems to be fairly common. While having no testicles was also dictated by congenital abnormalities that had resulted in numerous infections and then the accumulation of scar tissue, I definitely don't miss them and also don't think I'd miss my cock if it were to be severed. I'm lucky to have a BF that accepts that I'm ballless and even loves my empty crotch, especially fondling the 2 rings I've had inserted in my empty sac. He also knows how I feel about what I've got remaining. We're both just whom we are, and it's beautiful that we can be accepting of that.

[tugon (imported)]

I spent so many years and much energy trying to fit in a world and role that was not me. If I had become a eunuch at say 19 or 20 all that energy trying to be something I was not could have been channeled into other pursuits. Twenty one years of confusion and struggle might have been avoided.

[satanherself (imported)]

I think it is harder the older you are as ,,many things are more deeply ingrained. Also some forms of change are easier at a younger age. I wish I had know sooner and then acted on what I knew sooner.

[Hairless (imported)]

My gender dysphoria has done more to hinder my personal life than my professional life. In trying to be the man I thought I was suppose to be, I have involved my wife in my problems. Although she is doing a little better dealing with my castration, she has a great hatred for the transgender issue. The other day we got a card from Dr. Alters office advertising that he was going to be in more Dr.90219 episodes. This just set her off and brought back all the hurt she has had about my dysphoria. It brought back her memory of walking around Beverly Hills while I was in surgery, wishing she could die. She thought of me as her big strong man. I have fallen off the pedestal and landed in a heap on the ground. Now we are trying to salvage what we can. We are both very committed to our relationship and Love each other very much. One of the theropists I saw at the LA Gender Center, E. T., didn't like it when I said that I was not "Normal". She said being normal was not hurting someone else. I guess she didn't think of my wife. I am hurting the one person I love the most, I am not "Normal".

As far as my job goes, It is done by both men and women. The one transgender women that did the same job I do, transitioned the last two years she worked before retiring. The people I work with made it pretty tough on her and she is only 5'7". How would they treat me being 6'4" tall and 250 lbs? I guess my circumstances have done more to hamper my Gender Dysphoria than the other way around. It sucks being in the wrong body. Steve