My fear started out ever so slightly. I begain relating to my coworkers more completely, before this place, the EA, I was a really "shut down" human. They now understand my inability to assert/communicate a normal male sexuality. They mostly empathize with the complete embarassment, humiliation and inadequecy I feel when naivigating the sexual nuances of sanctioned sexuality in America. ie Mounting a woman is a huge problem here ok.
"Bob", a coworker, is a very out and near hostile gay male. He does not like women, and just left a relationship after being used by a female partner of many years. Bob is determined to take control of the work place by any means necessary.
My gender/sexual idenity would be noncastrated bisexual psychological eunuch, but mostly like women. Bob has made it known that he is fond of my situation. I'm terrified that Bob will come after me in his quest for power. We work in a female dominated profession.
I see two possible outcomes;
1.Once Bob is outted as a "woman hater" he will implode and run up my ass.
2.In his quest for power he will lord his sexuality over me in an attempt to either;
A.Humilate me, ie "I'm gay and he should be just as out as I."
B.Fuck me hard physically, psychologically whatever, he's a control
freak.
If I resist Bob he will "out" me by turning up the heat. If I do not resist I will be...
A drill sergeant tried to fuck me in a cinder block basement twenty years ago, had me turning around bending over, I thought he was going to rape me, not good. But I had a great private relationship with a dominant gay male while serving too.
What should I do?
And don't say "grow some balls!"
I am mortified of Bob committing a workplace colonscopy!
chilli-
Perhaps a combination of avoidance and gentle humourus humiliation, or a serious talk and in the worst case run...run...run...to the superior.
Cilli as a former union officer I can attest to what River said is right. However it mit not happen that fast. What ever you do you shod report him now to protect your self. Give management a chance to check it out. My already be aware of him.