Another Argument with Mom

[Leona Lee (imported)]

Hi Plix! This is the same situation that has been plagueing me ever since I tried to come out in my transition. My heart hurts for all TS girls because this

is what we must go through. Christ has helped me so much. If not for him, I would be another TS girl with a suicide for other's to talk and feel sad about.

This same story line is what we all face. Only other's who have experienced this really understand. I had to quit transitioning and with Gods help, I'll be fine. Female hormones are in excess and fixed to the point that it becomes difficult to cope. Females by birth have hormones that are regulated. They don't have to deal with the same issues. It's extremely difficult. You may e-mail me anytime for help. I love my TS sisters. Great Big Hugs, Leona

[plix (imported)]

Before you close yourself off to faith, visit my church's website.

http://sixthchurch.org/

Terry

I don't really know a whole lot about that denomination. When I was a Christian, I

was always non-denominational.

Maybe he did.



Plix,

With regard to your mom: remember that many a churchgoer lacks exposure in dealing with such issues. My vision opened up bigtime this past year.

Christianity isn't a matter of staying within the law. Law sets out boundaries to restrain the selfishness in us. If all we do is stay within prescribed limits, yet remain in the driver's seat of our lives, we haven't entered into true Christianity. Christianity is a matter of surrendering to Christ (which takes faith) and giving him control. So the question isn't whether our actions are within religious law. The question is, "What would Christ my master have me do?" Our selfishness has to yield to him. So Christianity can be more demanding than law, yet frees us from being slaves to the letter of the law.

Is SRS okay in God's sight? There are various factors to consider: Is a marriage involved? Are children involved? (Neither, in your case.) What is the chance of status quo working out? (Suicide is not an option.) Does the transition have a good chance for success? What are the reasons behind the transition -- mental/emotional health, or something else?

I'm honestly struggling with the question.

Here's an approach to try. Assume for now that transitioning is okay with the Lord. But take it at a slower pace for the time being. (Castration was a big step, and there's no need to rush things. Let your body and mind adjust.) At the same time, seek the Lord the best way you know how. That way, you will have Someone at your side to guide you.

Eight months ago when I was trying everything possible to diminish/decommision Mr. Penis, I was surprised at how faith (divine guidance) operated. I found some things I did were acceptable (but weird and unmentionable nonetheless), but others crossed an invisible line in my gut and weren't to be repeated. (Castration has brought much relief.)

I won't tell you, "Go ahead and do it if it's what you want to do." No -- we want to make sure the outcome is a good fit. It's interesting to hear that some on this forum have found peace at a point inbetween the genders even after transitioning. So fully transitioning isn't a guaranteed win. Nice if you can avoid the extra effort in the first place.

What is your interest in being female? (That's rhetorical.) One of the biggest changes will be your social opportunities. Instead of being with guys for the most part, you will be with the girls. Subject matter of conversations, generally speaking, will be very different.

For others of you reading this: I like the tolerance displayed at EA. Plix raised the question, and I tried answe

ring. Please tolerate me too, okay?

Praying for you,

That's what I'm usually told. If I give myself over to Christ, I will eventually lose the desire to transition as he takes control.

SRS of course isn't really my priority. If it happens, good. But if it doesn't, I'll be happy as long as I can be accepted by society as female. I think too many people put way too much of an emphasis on SRS as part of transition. I see that as the least important part. If it were to happen, it likely wouldn't be for many years. But of course, we are all different, and we all have different priorities I've just never had the overwhelming hatred for the genitals that many TSs describe. I've always been indifferent toward them.

But no matter what I do, I do need to slow down. I know that I have always been an impatient person, and that's really not doing me any good right now. If I could learn to slow down, I think I'd be a lot better off.

I don't think the change in social opportunities you described would really be all that different. After all, I never have been one of the guys. All my close friends have been female, and I am very aware of what it's like to be around them

However, I do hope to have more social opportunities with guys as a girl.

As a guy I cannot fit in with them at all, but I'm hoping we can get along better if I'm treated as a girl.

In fact, I think your transition may be actually EASIER by being able to cut all your ties and start fresh.

I've considered that, but I'd miss my sister. She's so young, and she doesn't deserve to have to lose a sister just because of this.