A bottom seeking advice.

[ideal_idealist (imported)]

Hi,

I'm a full time bottom in a healthy relationship with a top.

What I'd like to know is: is there a way to stop my erections? I don't want to lower my testosterone levels and I would not consider castration, mainly because my partner likes me the way I am.

What I'm looking for is basically a way to stop me from having erections yet retain my libido.

Is there such a thing?

Sincerely,

Idealist

[nvrgag44 (imported)]

Well, that's an interesting first post, especially for a guy who lists his profile orientation as straight. If your partner likes you the way you are, why do you want to eliminate erections? Do you get hard while bottoming? I think you might be in the minority if you do. It may sound strange but many bottoms can become highly aroused but not erect during anal sex.

[Riverwind (imported)]

Yes ... erections are part of the deal. As long as you have testosterone flowing you will get erections unless you cut the penis off and I am not sure that is your goal.

And, you might want to update your profile, we don't care what your sexual orientation is here, we take everybody ... Welcome to the zoo.

River

[Arokthis (imported)]

Try simple blood pressure medications. One of the most common complaints by men on them is "I'm horny as hell but I can't get it up."

[kristoff]

Try simple blood pressure medications. One of the most common complaints by men on them is "I'm horny as hell but I can't get it up."

Bad advice. if you don't have high blood pressure and take this stuff, you could potentially lower your blood pressure too much.

[ideal_idealist (imported)]

Ok. A bit more about me... here goes nothing...

I'm a 35 y/o straight male. I define myself as straight as I don't like men. I'm not into men, never have and never will. However, now here is the interesting bit. My partner is a MtF transsexual. She is the top and I'm the bottom.

Now a bit more about me: I've always ben crappy in bed with women. I have a tendency to lose my erection quickly, it took a lot of effort for me to become hard and the worst thing was when I did achieve an orgasm. I would become depressed (for a long time I didn't know that it was depression. thought it was normal). All this was the cause of all my failed relationships and a emotionally costly divorce. All this was bothering me to no end until I met my current partner. We started talking and just clicked.

My partner on the other hand had other issues. She lives as a full-time woman and the major issue she had with her previous relationships was that all guys expect a MtF transsexual woman to be bottom as well. She honestly hates it and this was the cause of her numerous failed relationships.

Ah, a long read... I will try to keep it short.

Now, with her I don't have to worry about my being unable to perform as I'm not the one performing. On the other side she doesn't have to cringe at the thought that I would want to top her as I don't. So sexually we are more than compatible.

Now the saucy bits: During sex I don't get hard at all. I can even achieve orgasm (on average every 5th time) which doesn't cause depression! Now what I find annoying is when we just relax, or cuddle. I sometimes get a "chubby" and I don't like it. Simple.

Phew... this was long.

As I asked earlier, any help with my peculiar issue would be much appreciated.

Kind regards,

M.

[_g (imported)]

Ok. A bit more about me... here goes nothing...

I'm a 35 y/o straight male. I define myself as straight as I don't like men. I'm not into men, never have and never will. However, now here is the interesting bit. My partner is a MtF transsexual. She is the top and I'm the bottom.

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Now the saucy bits: During sex I don't get hard at all. I can even achieve orgasm (on average every 5th time) which doesn't cause depression! Now what I find annoying is when we just relax, or cuddle. I sometimes get a "chubby" and I don't like it. Simple.

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Kind regards,

M.

There can be some medical reasons for you condition:

High blood pressure (hypertension)

Diabetes (high blood sugar)

High cholesterol

Nerve diseases (such as Parkinson's disease or multiple sclerosis)

Abnormal hormone levels (testosterone, prolactin, or thyroid)

Lifestyle factors (like smoking, drinking alcohol in excess, being overweight, not being physically active, or using recreational drugs)

Side effect of some medications (including high blood pressure medication and antihistamines)

You need to be checked out, also if your over weight fat makes estrogen, and that can unbalance you hormone levels.

_g