Sex Addict Seeking Help

[nephiloc (imported)]

I am a 24 year old male and I am addicted to porn and illict sex. My addiction started when I was young and has gotten worse and worse. I have been in Sex Addict Anonymous and that helped me a lot, but I've moved away from Fort Worth and am no longer near any meetings. I've tried faith based programs, but they don't work if you don't trust God. I don't want to be compulsive anymore. I can honestly say that I hate where I am right now and am considering suicide. People don't understand how much I hate this. They think I just need to get laid or that its normal. I am not happy and I want to chemically castrate myself. I know that people say it is unsafe and that there are alternatives, but these motherfuckers drink and drive, smoke, and use recreational drugs. There are far worse things that I could be doing that are deemed socially okay. I am tried of listening to these assholes who think I am wrong for wanting to be a less sexual man. My desire for sex has become perverse and I won't stand for it any longer. I just ordered some Tamoxifen and I was hoping for some dosage advice. I am 24, 155lbs, and I am very active. I would rather not have to use Andocur or Depo-Povera because I lift weights everyday and am proud of what I've accompished. I was hoping that Tamoxifen would lower my libido and not affect my body. Could anyone offer any dosage recomendations for someone with my goals?

[Twinsenboy (imported)]

Hi!

The brain is the most powerful tool. Just remember that your body is the temple of your mind,

and that your mind is your Soul. So I hope this might help:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3usXJZt ... re=related

[nullorchis (imported)]

If you have any kind of punitive self-harm or suicide thoughts you must contact a local government or private psychological counseling service. Such situations are not well served via self-help or by internet postings of other people. A trained medical professional is the path to take for help. Do it asap. Don't self-administer.

[nullorchis (imported)]

Let me add to what I said. You could just have extremely high testosterone level. You might want to try contacting a medical doctor such as a urologist first before doing the psych approach. Abnormally high Testosterone levels can conribute to out of control behavior. Or there could be other hormonal imbalances in your body that, once stabilized, won't require you to seek psychiatric assistance.

[loveableleopardy (imported)]

Firstly. what nullorchis says is spot on. Don't self administer (and don't possibly take all the internet advice from people who don't know what they're talking about like myself! I believe that in any situation humour can be of benefit - laughter is the best medicine). Most men have a high testosterone level when compared to females, but as nullorchis suggests, yours may be extra high.

Although you are maybe not seeking help from the best possible source yet, the EA does have many compassionate and knowledgeable people, with a knowledge that tends to be centred around the desires for humans to change their sex, or to just remove or reduce it.

I can understand some of the frustration you are feeling, especially regarding how other men can't (or couldn't) understand how or why you would want your sex drive reduced/removed. In the past 14 months I too have wanted to reduce my sex drive - my reasons are maybe similar to yours - I've viewed women as viewing me just as a friend and don't see the point in having my sex drive as a lowly alpha male, etc.

Your frustration seems to be a lot to do with the fact that other men can't look beyond their penis. You don't want your penis to rule you anymore. Is this right? That would also be the same as me as I converted to a religion on the basis of a woman that I found very attractive but whom I had very little connection with. If I didn't have my sex drive then I don't believe that I would have gone down that particular path.

Try not to be as frustrated with these men that annoy you. Try to see things from their perspective. I think that we humans are slaves to things, and often the more that we are a slave to something the more that we are unable to understand another person thinking differently in that respect to us. Sex is what men are typically a slave to the most, so this is why some ignorant straight men are aggressive and fearful of homosexuals, and this is linked to what you want to do, because it gets down to the same point that they can't understand.

"How can you not want to do everything in your power to get the pussy?!!!"

A lot of men just cannot see past that.

Or try to imagine some people who love to drink. They have a similar lack of tolerance for people who do not drink. Same with some people who believe in God/Allah. They cannot understand how another does not share the same belief.

I also have a problem with porn, though it sounds like it is not as deep as your is. But like you, this is another reason for me wanting to at least reduce my sex drive.

I have been seeing a psychiatrist this year. There are good doctors out there who can help you. At the moment I am taking Lexapro/Lexam which is an anti-depressant that can also reduce sex drive (it does not reduce my physical strength and energy). It has reduced mine a little, though I still want to reduce it more. But different medication can work better for some people than it does others. There will be medication out there that can help you.

But like nullorchis said, check your testosterone levels before seeing a psychiatrist.

Best of luck to you.