Have those who have already been castrated come out to family and freinds? If so, was it before, dureing, or after you were snipped? What were their reactions? Were they supportive before, dureing, or after?

And for those who have yet to be snipped, have you come out to family, friends, or relatives about your intentions? If so, how do they feel about it? Are they supportive or confused?

I've only mentioned my desire to a couple realtives. One nephew who is actually very supportive, and jokingly to my Mom. In return, she jokingly stated that she doesn't see any reason not to, given my well known libido and lack of desire to be married to a woman. I think we were also mutually serious, as we've both brought the subject up many times. Even if only discussed for a few moments.

I wonder if there's this need for validation. A semi-conscience desire for permission from those you trust and are close to. Or, if somehow they may even be responsible for the desire.

Anyway, I'm still curious about what responses there are here to my questions. Thanks in advance to all who answer.

numnuts (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 21, 2006 5:43 pm Have those who have already been castrated come out to family and fr

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numnuts (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 21, 2006 5:43 pm ing, or after you were snipped? What were their reactions? Were they supportive before, during, or after? And for those who have yet to be snipped, have you come out to family, friends, or relatives about your intentions? If so, how do they feel about it? Are they supportive or confused?

I am “out” to most everyone – friends and family. Entirely after the fact. Let ‘em wonder as to why…. Most were non-responsive, and over time don’t give a shit. No big deal. Most just forget about it.

numnuts (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 21, 2006 5:43 pm I've only mentioned my desire to a couple relatives. One nephew who is actually very supportive, and jokingly to my Mom. In return, she jokingly stated that she doesn't see any reason not to, given my well-known libido and lack of desire to be married to a woman. I think we were also mutually serious, as we've both brought the subject up many times. Even if only discussed for a few moments.

When discussing HRT with my mom, I got many stories about her issues with menopause. Her advice: just tough it out, don’t mess with the shit – get over it. “Why mess around.” “You’re better off without T.”

numnuts (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 21, 2006 5:43 pm I wonder if there's this need for validation. A semi-conscience desire for permission from those you trust and are close to. Or, if somehow they may even be responsible for the desire.

Yes, I do think many of us have some need for “validation.” Not an unreasonable need, I suspect. Suspect my Mom thinks it’s all quite OK; dad won’t discuss… Crossed legs syndrome.

I have told only a handful of friends and no family. More knew I was considering it than know I did it. People and family comment on a positive change they have noticed but do not ask the cause. I have two friends I would like to tell but something always stops me when I get ready to open up.

I'm about to get "snipped" this coming Friday, at long last, and the only person I have shared this with is my spouse, who will be going with me the end of this week to Philadelphia and Dr. Kimmel's.

No, I feel no need for any kind of validation for what I'm about to do from anyone. It's my body and my parts and I'll do with it what I want regardless of what friends and family think.

Thank you!

EricaAnn (imported) wrote: Wed Mar 22, 2006 3:25 pm It's my body and my parts and I'll do with it what I want regardless of what friends and family think.

How do you know what your friends and family think? How do you know it would be a negative response? That's part of my inquirey.

And btw, good luck on your appointment with Dr. Kimmel. I'm glad you're finally getting what you want, please let us know all about your trip.

Numnuts,

If I would every reveal to them, family and/or friends, my desire to be castrated I'm sure their first question, after coming back to, would be, why? The second response would be "are you crazy"? What the hells the matter with you?

There is a lot of testosterone that flies around in my family being very male dominate.

I would then have to share with them the secret I have kept to myself for my entire life, the fact that I'm transgendered and want to be a female. This is a secret that I have shared with only one person in my day-to-day life. That person being my spouse and I didn't even tell her until about two and a half months ago!

I'm not ready to share this "little secret" with them....not at least at this time!