What Would My Mother Say??

[Andrew (imported)]

I thought you did have prostate cancer, although it was only at stage A, where using castration to treat it woul

d have been overkill for most people.

Nowadays, it probably is, but it put an end not only to my stage A, but to my VERY REAL excessive libido problem. You might say I killed two birds with one stone. Or should that be two birds with two stones?



In any case, the PSA is less then 0.1 and I am back in control of my sexuality and life. No regrets.

[wannabe_alto (imported)]

You're not the only one - I'm not even sure who I shld first put forward the idea that I wanna be castrated.....

[numnuts (imported)]

If people can choose to have face lifts, liposuction, implants, and hair transplants for nothing more than reasons of vanity, then I think people should not be considered weird to desire castration for very real medical, transgendered, and libido problems.

[thefraj (imported)]

Glad you dragged this one out of the vaults Wannabe It's a good thread.

Parents will feel like their son is removing a perfectly healthy part of the body.

Try to imagine if you had a son who wanted to remove a leg, or a hand - there was nothing wrong with it - he just felt like he had to have it removed. (amputee fetishism)

Thats how most parents will be feeling. I've never been able to talk much to my parents about this, and I doubt many people will. (Especially fathers!)

From what little I've learned, there's a lingering feeling of "faluire as a parent". Thoughts of "what did we do wrong?" My folks went all through family albums and video to look for clues. But of course there are none!

The truth is, nothing is wrong! That's like parents blaming themselves for their son being gay! Some people are, it happens, it's different and nothing to be ashamed of.

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For fathers, this will be almost impossible to talk about. As the male role model, the feelings of faliure here will be particularly intense : and often so deeply routed that simply talking may be painful.

That being said, mothers will react differently.

Although the shock and horror of it all will be difficult to overcome, often mums will "just want their child to be happy", whatever path they choose, and may - at some stage later in life - open up. But no guarantee!

~Rog

[tugon (imported)]

I never felt my family needed to know. I never thought that knowledge would improve the relationship. I had no desire to go any farther with mods so what they can't see I thought can't freak them out. The friends I have felt comfortable to tell dealt with it best. Follow your gut instincts when you are ready to share.

[sag111 (imported)]

I have told some of my friends about my castration and the women are ok with it but the men cant handel it so i elect to not let most of my male friends in on my secret.Most of my friends are women anyway as being castrated has not changed how i look at women i just love them more but dont lust for them like i used to.

[Blaise (imported)]

I have told some of my friends about my castration and the women are ok with it but the men cant handel it so i elect to not let most of my male friends in on my secret.Most of my friends are women anyway as being castrated has not changed how i look at women i just love them more but dont lust for them like i used to.

I don't know why, but your experience makes sense to me. Not lusting for women (or anyone else for that matter) for over a decade was interesting. I liked that. However, I am not ashamed to lust again!

In New Orleans, people seemed to accept other people and their sexuality without violating privacy. I doubt anyone whom I know cares much about my sexuality.

[wannabe_alto (imported)]

Overall, I think I wld agree with Tugon - tell those who need to know (why do I suddenly feel myself back in the 70's again?)

[SplitDik (imported)]

I think telling your parents is unnecessary. You need to think very carefully about why you want to share it. If you're looking for some sort of acceptance you may be sorely disappointed!

I think you should only tell people that it affects, and that is probably a small set of people. For example, transgender people should tell their parents because showing up to family gatherings in your new gender will affect them. But what's in your pants is no one's business except you and intimate partners -- not even your parents.

If you're going to tell your parents, it should be after you are fully comfortable with it yourself, so their approval/disapproval won't affect your content with your castrated state.

[thefraj (imported)]

I didn't share mine voulentarily Dr. Kimmel kindly decided to call home to check I was 'all set for surgery next week', and I was out at work at the time.

And at 21, was still living with my parents.

Of course there were one or two questions waiting for me when I did finsih work that day

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Fortunately I moved out to my Univeristy campus two months after that, and we didn't speak for a good month or two later. But thing's are relatively patched up. But let this be a warning to anyone wishing to tell family. Some simply will never understand.

~Rog.