Todd - screen name change to Danya

[Danya (imported)]

Hi Pauline,

I appreciate the comment, especially the 'much younger' part!

Danya

[tugon (imported)]

I thought of a gentle and sweet elementary teacher.

[twaddler (imported)]

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I thought of a gentle and sweet elementary teacher.

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I agree.

[bobbie (imported)]

Changing ones name is making a very bold and powerful statement when it comes to changing it on a gender basses. I am very happy for you in making this very serious step in your life. Wish you the very best in this.

[kennath7 (imported)]

danya its great to here that you are doing better

great name

[Danya (imported)]

I hadn't thought of the 'gentle and sweet elementary' teacher aspect, but I really like it. For many years I wanted to be a teacher. I just had never imagined the possibility of being a female teacher but I like the nurturing visions that goes with that

Bobbie, I really appreciate the best wishes. You and I had emailed quite a bit the first time I tried chemical castration. You were very helpful then, although I only stuck with it for 10 days. Things are really different now.

Kennath, you've been doing remarkably well yourself and I appreciate your noticing that I'm doing better. My life path has changed dramatically and in unexpected ways since my start on Androcur in November. Very important, then, for people to remember the famous EA mantra, your mileage may vary (YMMV) and it may vary in ways that are surprising but ultimately can be part of finding who we are.

Danya

[Toni (imported)]

Danya,

Lookin good. Enjoy that road ahead, and keep happy.

Hugs, Toni x

[Danya (imported)]

Hi Toni,

Thanks for the compliment and good wishes. I just got an email from the leader of a local TG support group who thought I really passed well in the picture and that it would help things.

My best to you

Danya

[Danya (imported)]

I've posted before about legally changing my name at some future point. It now looks like that time will be here sooner than I thought.

Elsewhere, I've mentioned how I will transition from male to female at work, and in the rest of my life, sometime soon. Soon now looks like the last half of May. What I didn't realize is that I'll need to legally change my name before transitioning at work.

The reason is I'll be Danya from then on, not only in the office but in total. Let's get real here. Danya cannot get by with Todd's driver's license. She'll have to have a license with her picture. Nor can she get away with using credit cards that aren't in her name and don't match the license.

So, folks, I anticipate going through this legal name change very soon. Up until now, when the whole name change thing was more of a mental exercise, I gave only passing thought to changing my last name, too. There was the thought of keeping things as comfortable as possible for my relatives by continuing to use my current last name.

There are some advantages, though, to going with a new last name. A major one is that Todd's last name is not very common and all kind's of internet records will retain this information. Does Danya really want to make it easier for people to tie her to Todd by keeping Todd's surname? Does it matter? It's not as if I intend to hide anything from people in my life. I'm not 'going stealth' by quitting my job and starting a new life in a new city where no one will know my history.

Nonetheless, I'm still bothered by what would be continuing, obvious (for those who want to look) links between Todd and Danya lying scattered around the net. There's also the fact that by changing my last name I'd feel more like I'm completely affirming the new woman I am becoming.

It is not my desire to needlessly upset my family (two brothers, a sister-in-law, a niece and a nephew are it) by changing my last name. I have read a number of accounts, though, of transitioning women retaining their surnames for this very reason but later regretting it because of the trail it leaves behind.

I'm more or less clueless here on how to proceed. I'll discuss it with my gender therapist tomorrow.

-Danya

[NaziNuts (imported)]

Hey there Danya babe,

Takes balls to not let balls run your life.

I salute you, and not one of those Heil motions either. May you find everything essential. Thank you for sharing your courageous journey.

-NeinNaziYahLittleNuts, but a sincere friend nevertheless and all the more...