A little time after my orchie and related surgery, I let the T fall, mostly to avoid painful erections until healing was well progressed. About the time hot flashes set in, my usual skin oil had mostly vanished, and with it went a distinct change of odor. I suspect that I didn't smell like a man, but more like a girl. About that time, I noticed that natural inclusion in male circles was markedly less, and the ladies no longer offered even any minor joking flirtation. Maybe they didn't see me as a man. They were civil, mostly tolerant, but not group-inclusive.
Other fine nutless folk round here have also reported smelling like a girl, when the T is low or gone. Most seem to like it, I think. How much of our closer social interaction is signalled by smell? I added TRT, and the old relationships came right back, but it took a few weeks.
Friends and acceptance are important human attributes of a regular life. Did others find a smell-related low-T change in social status? Would it be important enough to be added to the host of things to be considered when folks are considering castration?
M->F, M-E, F->M? Do they all have social changes associated with pheromones. Maybe I just stink!
Pheromones and social inclusion after castration
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Re: Pheromones and social inclusion after castration
We have discussed how people react to us after castration in previous posts. I do not have it as strong as some members here but children are very comfortable approaching me. Shy toddlers will reach out to me when their own uncles are not able to hold them. Once the parents are close they have no problem with their child being with me. I seem to put people at instant ease instead of viewed as a threat. Being a eunuch also seems to help the elderly in my care. Clients with dementia do not perceive me as a threat so they never feel the need to strike out to protect themselves.
Dogs even those trained to guard come up to me. Their handlers are sometimes shocked at the dogs enthusiasm to see me. When I volunteer at the Humane Society a dog that is nervous and afraid comes right up to me. I get a kick when they say "we are surprised that dog was abused by a man". Little do they know I could surprise them more.
As far as negatives I have lost some friends and I think it is due to changes in interests. Suffering with a sex addiction many of my friends were also sexually compulsive. Once the drive drops they became very uninteresting. Some friendships were based more on how they could feed the addiction vs. the quality of people they were. People who had not been around me were surprised by how at peace I was. I think I changed and outgrew some of the friends and I think that created distance between us. Since so few knew about my castration I think they withdrew due to a lack of knowledge as why I was different.
Today being more comfortable with myself and that ease I feel helps people feel at ease with me. I think for me not having T in my system other males do not feel the need to assert social dominance or be competitive. I often hear straight guys say wow I can tell you anything. I must be like a guy to them with a woman's understanding and acceptance. Being gay I have always socialized well with women but now they do not mind if I meet the husband or boyfriend.
Dogs even those trained to guard come up to me. Their handlers are sometimes shocked at the dogs enthusiasm to see me. When I volunteer at the Humane Society a dog that is nervous and afraid comes right up to me. I get a kick when they say "we are surprised that dog was abused by a man". Little do they know I could surprise them more.
As far as negatives I have lost some friends and I think it is due to changes in interests. Suffering with a sex addiction many of my friends were also sexually compulsive. Once the drive drops they became very uninteresting. Some friendships were based more on how they could feed the addiction vs. the quality of people they were. People who had not been around me were surprised by how at peace I was. I think I changed and outgrew some of the friends and I think that created distance between us. Since so few knew about my castration I think they withdrew due to a lack of knowledge as why I was different.
Today being more comfortable with myself and that ease I feel helps people feel at ease with me. I think for me not having T in my system other males do not feel the need to assert social dominance or be competitive. I often hear straight guys say wow I can tell you anything. I must be like a guy to them with a woman's understanding and acceptance. Being gay I have always socialized well with women but now they do not mind if I meet the husband or boyfriend.