Androgens

[cronoserge (imported)]

alot of you claim to be neither male nor female, so what it the appropriate way to refer to you? for example i use

ma'am or sir to be respectful to others, as well as he or she.

i ask because i don't want to offend those i meet in real life

[Hash (imported)]

Well it depends on the setting or location or atmosphere. If you're addressing me here, eunuch is best. If you're addressing me at home, I prefer that you be discreet and respectful, few people know that I'm a eunuch and it wouldn't be in my best interest for them to know. If may jeopardize my relationship(s), my job, my mental health. So, yes I'm a fully castrated eunuch and I like being a eunuch, however, not everyone will understand this and most people will probably be appalled by it. Some might feel sorry for me, my doctor felt this way until I told her that I liked being castrated. So again, it depends on where you are and who your with. I think most people transsexual or eunuch will feel this way.

[C&TL2745 (imported)]

alot of you claim to be neither male nor female, so what it the appropriate way to refer to you? for example i use

ma'am or sir to be respectful to others, as well as he or she.

i ask because i don't want to offend those i meet in real life

I'm glad you asked that question, because it's been on my mind, too. I hope a consensus answer develops, because I've seen some postings in which people say they were offended by an inappropriate form of address or pronoun usage. I tend to avoid pronouns as much as possible, because I, too, want to avoid offending, but it would be very helpful if I had a rule to go by--say, for example, an additional item in people's profiles saying how they'd prefer to be addressed in the forums.

Sandi

[_g (imported)]

It fully depends on the setting. In public you should always address the person as they present themselves male or female, and unless you know the person it always should be a formal address. In private after you know the person then what they prefer to be addressed as.

_g