As you know if you read some of the statistics on the survey which two members of the archive took last year, most members of the archive are heterosexual, and maybe a third are gay. Because of this, there seem to be a substantial number of both gay and heterosexual members who have had orchiectomies, and I would guess that there is a similar substantial population of individuals with both orientations, who have taken Androcur or some other testosterone-reducing drug. It seems that gay men are more likely to live alone, and perhaps have less support from "significant others" than do the heterosexual men. And it seems logical to suppose that this circumstance, along with other factors, might affect the different aspects of adjustment to the changes which are produced in orchiectomy. Also, there might be differences in perceptions of personal identity and outlook for the future, related to orchiectomy--a heterosexual eunuch might view the possibility of marriage differently than a gay eunuch would think about finding a lifetime partner.

So my question would be, for those who have had interaction with individuals of both orientations, who have either had orchiectomies or who have used pharmaceuticals to reduce male hormones for a long period; are there noticeable differences in the nature of adjustment to the changes after orchiectomy, between the two orientations?

I would tend to suspect that the adjustment might be easier for heterosexuals who have had hormone reduction, simply because they are more likely to be married or to have long-term female companions. This, of course, doesn't really relate to any fundamental difference between the potential for gays and for heterosexuals for long-term relationships. The unfortunate fact is, that society provides a framework for forming long-term heterosexual relationships, while it doesn't do this for gay relationships.

It would also be interesting to find whether there is a difference between the time it takes for persons of the two orientations to "stabilize" after the reduction of hormones occurs. Of course, this is something which would be subject to interpretation, and some people feel that they are always in transition to a new state.

for me, having only been threw the surgery, never having had any chemical castration,the adjustment has been a roller coaster!

not that i would take any of what has happened back.

admitting that i inflicted this journey apon myself is easy, yet takeing this road alone is very hard. i think that if i would have been in a close relationship with another that i may have had more of the support and comfort that i needed.

i am not really of one orientation, as i think you may know. that is probably why i have had a great deal in coming to terms with my new sexuality. i must say that i had no thoughts in my mind before the castration that my sexuality was going to change so greatly.

is that at all an answer you where looking for?

z

In short. I used to think of myself as being homosexual. I don't anymore. I now look at myself as being a Eunuch and that is neither heterosexual nor homosexual in my book.

I am interested in the responses above. I consider myself to be bi with a more predominant gay orientation but interested to a degree in the straight side as well Am I to take it that there is a distinct "eunuch" sexuality? I suppose that this would be a more or less neutral status. I am curious to understand how that feels vis-a-vis gay or straight? One of the outcomes for me being both orientations is a degree of confusion and internal conflict (being neither beast nor fowl to use an analogy) which is the reason I think about elimination of the main causes. Some eunuchs have reported the negative outcome of depression which worries me a bit since I lean that way myself. I wonder if that is an outcome of having a neutral sexuality? or whether it is just disappointment in the eventual outcomes and end results? I can see that it could become a lonely existence.

I just celebrated my sixth year as a eunuch. I love being a eunuch. I think of myself as a eunuch. I look forward to spending the rest of my life as a eunuch. The change was easy. Of course, I still look male. Perhaps if I was as lovely as homptydumpty, I might hold a different view

I'm just looking forward to being a male without a sex drive.

When I was young in my 20s I would fantasize about getting 20 females pregnant.I kept my wife very pregnant during those years after trying everything not to get her pregnant.Just one mistake or slip up and she was

pregnant .Good thing I married her when I was 25.We would have 10 kids by the time I was 30.

After the first 2 children she got scared to have sex with me and started turning me down a lot. I was so frustrated for 3 years.My wife started telling me I needed to be fixed all the time when I would beg her.The first time she said it to me it got me aroused more.Thats when my fantasy started to change to getting castrated.Instead of getting 20 women pregnant now they were tying me down and castrating me.

I told my wife this and thats when she started the castration with the burdizzo game.We played the game for 4 or 5 years .She got so aroused several times that we had sex and she got pregnant again.

7 months after that day she started asking me if she could go all the way with it.That aroused me more yet and my fantasy changed again to my wife shackling me over a bench and castrating me from behind with the burdizzo.

I told her about this and she couldnt wait to do it.

After I was finally castrated my fantasies completly ended.I started having hot flashes almost every day after 2 months.The doctor ran a test and I was sterile.I told my wife and she wanted to have sex.I can still get erections it just takes a lot of work and I can orgasm tho it is completly differant than it was before.

No more fantasies at all anymore.My wife is 50 now and wants sex 4 times a day.2 times a month is enough for me.I get a lot of complaints.

Ironic isnt it.

When you have a female wanting sex after the man is castrated it sort of makes him have to preform.It takes 6 hours to work myself into it.I would just forget about it if it was just me.She wants me to provide it for her so I do.

Being around a female keeps you seated in that Orientation.

Its been almost 15 years since I was castrated and it just keeps changing .

sduyck_2000 (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 08, 2007 3:22 pm When I was young in my 20s I would fantasize about getting 20 females pregnant.I kept my wife very pregnant during those years after trying everything not to get her pregnant.Just one mistake or slip up and she was

pregnant .Good thing I married her when I was 25.We would have 10 kids by the time I was 30.

After the first 2 children she got scared to have sex with me and started turning me down a lot. I was so frustrated for 3 years.My wife started telling me I needed to be fixed all the time when I would beg her.The first time she said it to me it got me aroused more.Thats when my fantasy started to change to getting castrated.Instead of getting 20 women pregnant now they were tying me down and castrating me.

I told my wife this and thats when she started the castration with the burdizzo game.We played the game for 4 or 5 years .She got so aroused several times that we had sex and she got pregnant again.

7 months after that day she started asking me if she could go all the way with it.That aroused me more yet and my fantasy changed again to my wife shackling me over a bench and castrating me from behind with the burdizzo.

I told her about this and she couldnt wait to do it.

After I was finally castrated my fantasies completly ended.I started having hot flashes almost every day after 2 months.The doctor ran a test and I was sterile.I told my wife and she wanted to have sex.I can still get erections it just takes a lot of work and I can orgasm tho it is completly differant than it was before.

No more fantasies at all anymore.My wife is 50 now and wants sex 4 times a day.2 times a month is enough for me.I get a lot of complaints.

Ironic isnt it.

Ironic - yes. It also sounds like it sucks! Are you taking any hormones? Have you considered it? I think it might dial your sex drive up to a level that is more compatable with hers and you can't get her (or anyone) pregnant.

Please tell me you didn't really have her use a clamp on you. Ouch!

sduyck_2000 (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 08, 2007 3:22 pm After I was finally castrated my fantasies completly ended.

My wife is 50 now and wants sex 4 times a day.2 times a month is enough for me.I get a lot of complaints.

Ironic isnt it.

Wow! If my wife wanted sex that often, I wouldn't need to be thinking about castration. You should have settled for a vasectomy. Want to swap?:D