Are we in the wrong bathroom or are you?

[homptydumpty (imported)]

This question was hurriedly asked to my by an elder gentlemen in the "mens" room the other day. Not the first time. Really i have been looked up and down on almost all of my trips to the bathroom. Well unless i use the womens room, then no one looks me in the eyes and goes about there thing. I do get a kick out of mens reaction in most cases, however, sometimes the attention is unwanted, when its negative mostly. Like last night in the "mens" room, some guys around my age wouldn't stop staring at me and asked me if i was a chick w/ a dick on my way out! it scared me a bit.

Why are women unfaded by me using the "womens" room yet men are so shocked?

any one else get the double take?

z

[kristoff]

Why are women unfaded by me using the "womens" room yet men are so shocked?

any one else get the double take?

z

Because the men are afraid of their perception of you. You represent a challange to their self-imagined masculinity, and the threat manifests in an aggressive, posturing response. Sometimes the best response to it is direct, gentle, yet challenging.

I was in an elevator in a parking ramp one time. I'm a bit butch, but the friend I was with was a big flamer. Two young fellows got on, and one challenged us, asking, "Are you guys fags?" My friend started getting defensive and said someting like that's none of your business. Instead, I just said, "Yes. Would you like to be?" As soon as the door opened, they ran like hell. Sometimes it works....

[numnuts (imported)]

You should have told the guys, "Thanks, but NO Thanks. What you guys are into is your Own business".

[jemagirl (imported)]

I hate that there are two bathrooms any way. It isn't fair to all the people who don't fit in either the F or the M box. On the other hand if they do go to unisex bathrooms then some of the boys will have to learn to lift the seat.

[kristoff]

I hate that there are two bathrooms any way. It isn't fair to all the people who don't fit in either the F or the M box. On the other hand if they do go to unisex bathrooms then some of the boys will have to learn to lift the seat.

eewwww! I do NOT like lifting the seat or using it in a public restroom. Disgusting! Instead of paper seat covers alone, such places need also offer disinfectant wipes, and latex gloves!

[numnuts (imported)]

Bar urinals and toilets are for puking only! Also can be used as a head rest.

[plix (imported)]

I actually usually hear that it is the other way around. Usually most people say that women will look you in the eyes and talk to you in the bathroom, and guys will just go about their business. But I have gotten some pretty strange looks in the guys room (I was only in the womens once and there was no one else in there).

[Slammr (imported)]

Korea has unisex bathrooms. I was eating at a restaurant and had to go to the bathroom. I opened the door and there was a girl brushing her hair. The urinals were right next to where she was standing, so I went back out and waited until she left, then went in to take a leak. It was all for nothing. While I was standing at the urinal with my dick out, another girl came in and stood next to me, brushing her hair while I peed.

When I was in college, during the early days of women's lib, the undergraduate library only had one restroom, for guys. Women had to go outside the library then downstairs where there was a women's restroom. One day, the women liberated the men's room, making it a "people's room." Someone wrote above the urinal, "Don't look now, but a girl just walked in," and they often did.

[EricaAnn (imported)]

I've never really been bothered using either restroom. During the week when I'm in "male mode" I naturally use the Men's Room, which has always been just the Men's Room. You get in, take care of business and get out. Never been challenged and there has never been a lot of chit chat.

On the weekends when I live my life as me, I use the Women's Room and have never been challenged by anyone. I have come across a friendly smile and some well meaning small talk from the other ladies while using the facility.

I guess my presentation in either mode is convincing enough not to really attract any undue or unkindly comments.

[JesusA (imported)]

When I first went to Japan as an undergraduate, there were three restrooms on every floor of the Isetan department store where I did some of my shopping. Two very small ones were labeled "Men" and "Women" in every language you can think of, except Japanese. The single large one in the middle was just "Restroom" in Japanese.

One of the train stations in Tokyo where I often got on and off the train has (and still has) a large restroom at one end of the platform. While it's separated into men's and women's sides, there is a long row of urinals just inside the men's side with a floor to ceiling window at one end looking out onto the platform so that you can see if your train is coming while you're standing there - and those taking a piss are equally visible from the other side, of course.