Introducing myself to the members: i am presently 47, and living in New Jersey. From early childhood, i have had fantasies about fireplay cbt, which i started to put in practice at 12 after my first dark violent wet dream.

Although i have played with several less sane fireplay toys, the most acceptable these days would be a cigar. This also is the easiest toy for other men to understand and use.

i have marked my dick, and have had marks given to me by other men.

burning play is seldom in a master/slave dynamic for me, not that it couldn't be, but it's mostly about the sensation: the pain drives me to better orgasm.

this is not to say that i continually look for scars or extreme pain, but occasionally when i meet a partner with corresponding interests, i can be coaxed to a wonderful level of endorphin-high.

i really miss the days of the Mineshaft and the Everard baths, when it was much easier to find kinky play of this type.

any other men interested in this (preference given to doms) are welcome to send a private note to me.

being new to posting, i am still shy about posting publically about myself, but some of the archive stories are quite hot and speak to some of my fantasies.

and although it seems like i am in the minority when it comes to this in the first place, it seems that the majority of men interested in fireplay are looking for a grilling, which is not part of my eroticism.

whether this post gets replies or not, i am happy to have a place to chat about these things.

Thanks to all who made it happen.

You describe yourself as pyro-erotic. What a fascinating combination. (Not for me though.) I am continually amazed by all the varoius combinations of weird sex that get posted on here. As for the cigars, I would hope that you aren't smoking them, as I had several dear friends die nasty deaths from heart disease and lung cancer.

Kangan, thanks for your post. I was just going to let it go, but today I changed my mind. I do indeed smoke cigars. I neither smoke incessantly nor as regularly as I would like. I find that it's impossible to play with a lit cigar unless one actually is smoking the cigar. The art of cigarsmoking is erotic to me whether I do it myself or whether another man is smoking.

The dangers of occasional cigar smoking, or even regular cigar smoking, are best left to individual adults to judge for themselves.

I thank you for your concern about my health, but cigars are a passion and a fetish that I won't be giving up any time soon. I also enjoy smoking a pipe from time to time.

Tobacco these days is an increasingly political subject. I didn't expect the need to defend my fetish here, but I am certainly willing to do so.

I assumed that you smoked the cigars. Naturally the choice is yours to smoke them or not, but I did lose some very good friends to heart disease and cancer. I wasn't trying to be political or anything - just expressing my concern for your future health. I don't smoke, by the way - never have, never wanted to, never will.

Since I don't smoke, do drugs, drink alcohol, or gamble - that leaves sex as my only vice. I've done some kinky stuff over the years too. Thanks for sharing your fetish with all of us at EA.

Again, thanks for a reply. I've had more interest from the chatroom in fireplay than the boards so far, which surprises me a bit.

I did want to ask you about your tagline, which I have not found to be true.

Realization of fantasies, at least in my experience has proven fulfilling. And usually after a particular fantasy has been achieved, I find new fantasies take the place of the realized one.

Your tagline makes fulfillment sound depressing. Perhaps I'm missing something in my interpretation?

I guess it would depend on your fantasy. An actual castration or penectomy would terminate the need for the fantasy.

I have had a lot of fantasies come true over the years - usually there is an unintended or unanticipated consequence that could or did cause a problem. In your fantasy things are always perfect - in real life things don't always follow the fantasy script.