This might be a bit to personal for most of the eunuchs on this board. And I understand this type of querry is much different than the intellectual debate raging on the whole crime and punishment issue. Indeed this is not an opportunity to hone your arrows.

I am curious as to how you approach the whole issue of castration with a real or potenial partner.

What have been some of your experiences good or bad in the bedroom?

Does affirmation from your sexual partner contribute to your sexual satisfaction, or are you more satisfied if he/she views your castration as a point of humiliation? In other words do you seek positive reinforcement or negative feedback from your partners?

Assuming a long term, sexually active relationship; How does it feel to be an object of desire? I would assume that after repeated stimulation of your partner he/she would be compelled to percieve you as an object of desire similar to what feminists call a "sex object".

I will not be surprised if the nature of these questions is to personel.

What an interesting question. I have just recently started taking androcur to experience chemical castration. Largely my desire for castration is to reduce my sexual desires. For many years, my sex drive pushed me into relationships and situations that were not very positive. I felt that much of my life was directed by a need for sex at nearly any cost.

I have tried for a number of years to just stop. In essence I have lived an asexual life for a couple years. However, sexual desire continued to be a major issue. Castration looks to be the only way I can reclaim my life. The trial with chemical castration should help me understand the longer term effects of castration...and help me determine if physical castration is truly an option.

Given that, I am hopeful that I can find a relationship. Once I can concentrate on the emotional aspect of a relationship--instead of the sexual side, I feel that I can be a good partner.

I intend to be open about my castration. If that is an issue up front, there is no reason to consider more involvement. I am confident that I will find love and a lover.

I have found chemical castration to be a great gift to myself. It has given me the oppurtunity to look into relationships and emotions without the testosterone clouding my thoughts. Sex no longer becomes the focus. One is much better able to view relationships in a long term sense. The day to day interaction also may improve. For example, I can make sexual innuendo without feeling totaly shameful or flustered. So the conversation and company improves. But......

Their is a feeling of loss, or incompleteness with castration. One feels that they are unable to complete some primal urge after instituting a relationship. Since many social interactions are rooted in sexual drive, you may feel excluded or empty at times. You may get sick of yourself. Perhaps these feelings will disappear once a relationship is established and you and your partner become used to one another.

I think that many of the issues before castration remain after. You still must confront your fears. Slowly exposing yourself to knew situations. You must learn to focus your attention on thoughts other than your own.

The androcur should help ease the sexual urges and help you achieve a higher state of function. At least this has been true with myself. Good luck Artie.

-plezherus

First I must remind readers that I am an unwilling eunuch, I never wanted to be one.

I have had 4/5 relationships since my castration. I have No sex drive what so ever. I always pleased my lovers, and they always wanted to make it a permanent thing. I always was the one to say goodby.

After my last try which was about a year and a half ago, I had gone clear across the country, a women executive, upper middle management, and she is about to be made a VP of the company, the largest in the field, a international Corp. I realized that I felt cheated, in that all of my lovers were having 4 to 10 orgasms when we made love, and I was having none.

I came to know, after much thought, that with me, before there is Love, I Must have Lust. In all of the people who I loved, even just a little, First I lusted after them. Now that I have no lust, I am just going through the motions, bringing them off, in all of the ways a man can.

All the while being totally dispassionate about it inside my head, and between my legs. I am a classically trained actor, with Broadway and off Broadway work of several years, never tried to "Make it," as I never had the fever to be a star, I got involved to help overcome shyness. I was more then good enough to fool the people I was with, into thinking that I was having a great erotic time.

Well I was not! I was bored and feeling cheated. I guess it took a while to sink in through this thick head of mine. In any case I am not going to persue love/sex any longer, I now that for me, it is ALL in the past.

Limpone-

Geez. Sorry to here that.

We've hopefully all had a good dose of reality in sexual adventures. For me, plenty of girls wouldn't allow intercoarse. I was ok with that, we just did other things. They would "get-off" and I would have to cool off. As long as they were respectful, and did not mess up my head I felt satisfied.

I wanted to know what types of relationship qualities would leave you satisfied in sacrificing your personal gratification. As you stated the women, I am assuming hetro partnerships, were satisfied.

I'm not trying to be pushy, or disrespectful, just very very curious.

-plezherus