Hi, I am a new member, just joined yesterday but I have been browsing here for a while now. I have a problem that I need some help and advice on from this sort of community. There is a growing sexual divide in my marriage and I want to put it right, castration may be the answer and I would be prepared to have it done to (A) save my marriage and (B) stop me going insane with frustration. My wife has lost her libido almost completely, we are trying to discover why and get it corrected but it looks like it has gone for good. I have a full libido, hence the inbalance. I have never cheated on my wife and would not even consider it but I am getting more and more desperate and am seriously considering methods of lowering my sex drive. I wondered if anyone out there had similar experiences and how they went about the thought process or the change process? Castration would never have entered my head until one day about 10 years ago when me and my wife had probably the most satisfying and (we thought amazingly kinky) sex session involving a garden knife and twine! If anyone is interseted I will write more, but the experience opened up a new thought-path for me. Maybe now you can see my plight, the reason for the mail and my search for answers. Can anyone help?

Jon, there are quite a few married men in here with similar problems. With me, I am on the chemical path with depo-provera for the past year (one year tomorrow). It really has equalized our libido and vastly improved our relationship and my fustration, rage even.

I, and many others here, recommend at least a year chemical so you can make a decision based on your experience before doing something irreversable.

Good luck,

Don

Jon,

You are not the first person to arrive here seeking to reduce your libido to match that of your wife. Nor, will you be the last, I’m certain. However, you are probably the youngest to do so.

Most males think that they would rather die than lose their libido. When reality hits, in the form of prostate cancer or some other lethal alternative, they usually change their minds. There are a few others, whom you will find here on the Archive, who decidedly do not want to retain their libido for a wide variety of reasons. Some of them would almost rather die than to retain it.

Over the years, a vast storehouse of information about castration, both chemical and surgical, has been collected here. Spend some time to research what has already been provided, and then ask specific questions. You will find the members to be very sympathetic and helpful. You will (mostly) get good advice here. DonnyMac’s brief post is a good starting point for you – definitely don’t do anything irreversible until you are absolutely certain. Chemical works very well for libido reduction.

It is very important that your wife be the central focus here. She needs to be throroughly checked out for whatever is causing her reduced libido. Solving that problem would be the best way to solve yours.

Your wife’s primary care physician may be the one to prescribe chemical castration for you WHILE her problems are being examined. He or she should see the two of you as a team that needs joint treatment for what is clearly a joint problem.

Should your wife’s problem prove untreatable, you would already have a track record of the use of chemical castration. You and your physician could make an informed judgement about your best way forward. And, you will discover that there are many options open for you.

At least one member of the Archive was able to use such a tactic to get his surgical castration covered under his medical insurance policy. It was performed in a major hospital by a fine surgeon.

You and your wife are still young. I hope that you can find a solution that suits the two of you. From what you write, a return to high libido for both of you would be the ideal, but matching your libidos at whatever level would be next best.

I wish you the best in your journey.

jon, the previous post from jesus is very good and rite on the money. You are not alone with your problem, I know several guys that are in the same boat with you.

My circumstances are similar, but, yet different in that, My wife was a raving nymphomaniac and over about 20 + years just wore me out. Anyway, a few years back she ended up having total reno kidney failure due to several different doctors prescribing conflicting medications without confering among themselves, etc and damn near killed her. She recovered somewhat with about 60% kidney function, but, her sex drive is now completely gone from all the steroids and other chemicals used on her and very probably will be for the rest of her life. Anyway, you can guess, that after a long break from being more or less forced in to having sex everyday to please her, to going completely dry overnite, my labido returned. It ended up being more stress than I wanted to cope with along with all else, so, I decided to go the chemical castration route. Everyone advised to try it for at least a year and it has been almost a year now and it has been great for me so far. Since she will probably not have her drive to ever recover, i've decided that if there are no changes in the next few months with her condition and circumstances, I will go for surgical castration later on towards the last of this year. I've not missed any of it at all and now don't even hardly think about sex at all.

Anyway, take what jesus advises and don't jump into anything that cain't be reversed and give the chemical route a good try first, I think you will like it. If all goes well with that and then later on things get better with your wife's condition, you can always backtrack,but, sugery is final !!!

many thanks for the sound advice, you have all given me much to think about.

I need to understand about this drug and any possible side effects when taken with my current medication (just statins to reduce Cholesterol) and any psychological impacts.

Also, while still working on my wife's libido, try to get her to think about this drug strategy. She knows nothing of my thoughts at present and she would obviously have some reaction.

But you have all given me hope and its good to know I can get help as the situation unfolds in the future.

Many thanks again

Jon