I have often puzzled over why the people who visit the Eunuch archive chatroom do not utilize the open chat rooms.

The sort of things that spring to mind for me about the way ppl use private chats so often are:-

*they are ashamed of their interest in castration

*they are quietly wanking off

*they don't want people to know if they are a eunuch or not

*they have difficulty in accepting their desire/interest in castration

*they are in the chat to 'pick up'

What I am saying is i do not see the reason for being so secretive, after all most folks who DO visit this chat room have some form of interest in castration, whether it be a desire to have it done, a sexual turn on thinking about it, wanting to do it to someone else, or simply fantasy etc etc.

What is there that we can try to do to bring people to use the chat rooms rather than most folks private chatting?

There is nothing wrong with a private chat, but when you have 4 or 5 ppl private chatting with you at once, all in private, all asking basically the same things it gets really tedious. I try to get ppl to use the open rooms, sometimes sucessfully, sometimes not.

I realize that this secretiveness is part of the 'personality' of this chatroom, but it does not suit everyone.

So what if someone that is viewing the chat in an open room is getting their rocks off,

So what if someone else is only fantasizing about castration and would never consider actually having it done,

So what if someone else wants T replacement after castration,

So what is someone else wants to try chemical castration to see what it is like,

So what if someone else is chasing after female hormones and getting rid of their masculinity

So what if someone else wants a penectomy but keep their testes,

So what if someone else wants a meatotomy,

So what if someone else is a eunuch,

So what if someone else has had a sex change,

So what if someone else .................etc etc

After all these things and many more are the DIVERSITY that makes this an interesting group of people. They are also very interesting things to chat about, to sit and 'listen' to how someone else feels about their body, what they want, what they have done, join in and tell of your own feelings, desires and experiences. Doing this would make a vibrant and very interesting chatroom... I've seen it happen, and it is magic when it does. I am sure we are all mature enough to be able to respect each others views, but still express our own at the same time.

Food for thought, I hope I have stirred at least 1 person into joining in in one of the open rooms.

kicking her soapbox to one side!!!!

Good points, Pippa.

I recall finding the EA chat late one night, in fact, it was the very FIRST chat on the Internet that I ever got into. I thinking things like "what happens if I click this?" "Am I doing this right?" "Did I get in?" Oh the days of being a newbie, and the relief that I felt to find that there other people who not only shared the interests that I did, but WOULD TALK ABOUT IT TOO!

In fact, I recall a few late nights spent chatting with YOU!

Of course, the chat scene has changed. Back in 97-98-early 99, before I sacked the chat thing, the room was much more active and everyone talked in the open much more. Of course there were still private chats, msg windows, etc., but the main board always seemed to be jumping. IRC finally died off me as well - in fact, that got old fast. Sometimes I miss the old days, per say, of the chat.

I hope we can sort of resurrect it again.