I find this type of relationship off balance. One has hormones and interest in sex and other have very little interest or none at all. At least intensity of sexual requirements is very different.

That does not mean that there is no exceptions or long lived relationships of this type.

If anybody on this board have ever had similar relationship, please can you comment on this! How did you solve different need for sex? Was Eunuch side allways passive? Is intact male need for sex intolerable for eunuch side or just nuisance or something else?

erik

I will try to answer your questions. My partner is an intact male. We have been living with some seperation but when we first dated I was still an intact male. We went our seperate ways for awhile and by the time we were back in touch I was a eunuch. He knew that being a eunuch was something I was interested in but did not think I would go through with it. As we talked and became reacquainted he found he liked the new me even more than the old me. He liked that I liked myself.

As far as sex is concerned I do not think it is much different than any other couple. He deffinately thinks about sex as a male. My desires for him are based on my love for him. I still want sex but just with him. I now can not imagine sex without love. There will be times one of us will be in the mood and the other will not be in the mood. I have always told him that if I am not in the mood he is welcome to try to get me in the mood. He knows me well enough to be able to change my mood. He also loses interest if what he is doing is not pleasing to me. He is also very affectionate during sex.

We are a eunuch and a male that love each other and like any relationship we have our problems to work through. During the seperation we have developed trust and respect for each other. We have planned many of the ways we will handle daily situations and tasks. We have our dreams we want to work towards. I guess what I am saying is if the love and compatability is there you can work through anything.

I will try to remember to update this post when later this month or the first of next month he will have moved in with me. I may have new information to offer after weeks of being together 24/7.

Thank you tugon, for your sincere and honest answer! I hope I understand that type of situation better now.

erikboy (imported) wrote: Sat Oct 14, 2006 5:32 am I find this type of relationship off balance. One has hormones and interest in sex and other have very little interest or none at all. At least intensity of sexual requirements is very different.

That does not mean that there is no exceptions or long lived relationships of this type.

If anybody on this board have ever had similar relationship, please can you comment on this! How did you solve different need for sex? Was Eunuch side allways passive? Is intact male need for sex intolerable for eunuch side or just nuisance or something else?

I'm not certain that the relationship between an eunuch and an intact male is an unbalanced one at all. And given that ~99% of the male population might be described as intact, it's not too hard for gay castrated men to find intact lovers. Finding life partners - castrated or not - is always difficult.

I'm also in a loving relationship with an intact guy. We've seen ourselves as partners for ~2 years. He was initially the first guy that I'd dated that wasn't 20 years younger than me. I've always had an interest in younger men, mostly because I'm attracted to physically attractive guys, but also because guys my age were never sexual enough for me. I'm glad I finally found someone with similar life experiences and outlook with whom I can share life. The sex part isn't difficult at all. I'm usually the bottom, and I luv making myself available to him and receiving his ejaculate in one or the other of the 2 orifices suited for the purpose. Being ballless, it's also an advantage that both of us derive erotic pleasure from my empty crotch. While we've lived separately most of the time, we're in the process of disposing of our individual places (both are on the market) and acquiring a house together. We found our ideal one - lovely small place on 160 acres in the Gulf Islands (Strait of Georgia) and immediately adjacent to a 350 acre provincial park - last week, and will be making an offer together this coming week.

JeffEunuch (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 15, 2006 11:22 pm I'm not certain that the relationship between an eunuch and an intact male is an unbalanced one at all. And given that ~99% of the male population might be described as intact, it's not too hard for gay castrated men to find intact lovers. Finding life partners - castrated or not - is always difficult.

I'm also in a loving relationship with an intact guy. We've seen ourselves as partners for ~2 years. He was initially the first guy that I'd dated that wasn't 20 years younger than me. I've always had an interest in younger men, mostly because I'm attracted to physically attractive guys, but also because guys my age were never sexual enough for me. I'm glad I finally found someone with similar life experiences and outlook with whom I can share life. The sex part isn't difficult at all. I'm usually the bottom, and I luv making myself available to him and receiving his ejaculate in one or the other of the 2 orifices suited for the purpose. Being ballless, it's also an advantage that both of us derive erotic pleasure from my empty crotch. While we've lived separately most of the time, we're in the process of disposing of our individual places (both are on the market) and acquiring a house together. We found our ideal one - lovely small place on 160 acres in the Gulf Islands (Strait of Georgia) and immediately adjacent to a 350 acre provincial park - last week, and will be making an offer together this coming week.

Jeff I am so happy for you and your partner. Your new home sounds like it will be perfect. What a great place to build a life together. Wishing you the best.

Not sure if a castrated male on HRT counts. but I am in a relationship going on 13 years. and things work out well. my partner still does not understand why this was important to me, just that it was important and has been very supportive.

erikboy (imported) wrote: Sat Oct 14, 2006 5:32 am I find this type of relationship off balance. One has hormones and interest in sex and other have very little interest or none at all. At least intensity of sexual requirements is very different.

That does not mean that there is no exceptions or long lived relationships of this type.

If anybody on this board have ever had similar relationship, please can you comment on this! How did you solve different need for sex? Was Eunuch side allways passive? Is intact male need for sex intolerable for eunuch side or just nuisance or something else?

erik

Isn't this an issue with any relationship? Even with two ravishingly libidiness male homosexuals, there are going to be some difference in sexual interest. Differences in sex drive are an absolute cliche for heterosexuals. Just see what works for other people. Sexual counselling could help -- in fact, it's probably an ideal solution. Helping couples where one partner is incapable, unwilling, or challenged with regards to sex is a big part of what they do. The counsellor you see may not have dealt with any voluntary eunuchs, but I guarantee he or she has helped some couples where the man has lost his testicles to disease or an accident.