greetings!

i am a 56 year-old male and i have read widely on this excellent web site. i come to those who have already been castrated, desperately asking for your help: could you please share with me your experience on how castration has effected your desire for sex?

in short, i cannot tell if it just happily erases and nullifies a person’s sex desire, or if it just lessens it somewhat, or if the sex desire stays in place (because perhaps it is mental and not biological).

here is my situation: i know it sounds maudlin and even a little silly, but to be honest i feel that i am very addicted to sex. i understand that sex is by its very nature a biological addiction, which is neither good nor bad. it is a necessary part of biology on this planet. but the thing is, i think i have had my fill! i have had tons of great sex with my various girlfriends and wives. loving, wonderful sex. but even though i recognize that i have had my fill of the sex experience, my desire for sex just will not leave me alone. i am single currently and live alone with no girlfriend, but i still manage to masturbate with ridiculous frequency! sure, maybe all males are ‘sex addicts’ or whatnot, but perhaps not all males get to the point that they feel they have had enough.

and this is where i am in my life. i do not want any more sex desire. i have learned from it greatly, but i really want to move on. but sex will not leave me alone!

and here is my other question for this very kind group: from your experience of being not-castrated and then later castrated, how much is the sex drive coming from the testicles (their testosterone) and how much of it is coming from the mind? i really cannot figure this out!! what i suspect is that it is a little more complicated than just either/or: does the sex drive begin in the balls when we are teenagers, but then becomes rigidly cemented into place in the brain by the time of late adulthood?

this is a very critical question for me, because what is the point of going thru the big trauma of getting castrated (the thought still scares the hell out of me, but i will try to be brave), if i am still left with this big resevoir of sex desire in my mind? is castration just a good first step to dissolving this mental knot of sexuality? or am i wrong and simply all the desire lies in the testicles?

please share your experience to help me figure this out! many many thanks!

-j

I am a former sex addict and now a eunuch. I went from being controlled by my drive to now being the one in charge. I still like sex but only with the person I love. I do not think about another person sexually. I used to date but was always on the lookout for other oppurtunities. The addiction ruined relationships and drew me into a profoundly bad relationship. Once my levels were down the addiction was gone. So for me it was caused by hormones and it was not something that moved to my brain.

Castration is a very big step and it can affect people differently. One thing we agree on is to try chemical castration to see if reduced or no hormones is right for you. Always try the reversible methods before something permanent. If you are interested my thread Desperate to be a Eunuch deals with my addiction and how far from the path of normal I wandered. I know others will give advice and good luck in whatever you decide.

emailforjmp,

Testosterone messes with the mind, but its effects go away when the T goes away. I went from masturbating daily (out of need, so I could get work done) to not at all. No need, no desire.

As far as mental desire: My former fantasies have absolutely no appeal or grip on me. In fact, if I bring them to mind, genuine disgust develops.

I feel as though my mind has returned to its pre-pubertal state.

(NOTE: My transsexualism was present before puberty, so T or the lack of T isn't to blame for that. Males are still "men" after castration; I'm an exception.)

Terri

I'm really not sure how to or if I should answer this. You say your age is 56 in your posting but your profile says you were born in 1971. That would place you at about 35 years old.

i am a 56 year-old male...

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emailforjmp (imported) wrote: Fri Sep 22, 2006 1:37 pm could you please share with me your experience on how castration has effected your desire for sex?

...how much is the sex drive coming from the testicles (their testosterone) and how much of it is coming from the mind?

...does the sex drive begin in the balls when we are teenagers, but then becomes rigidly cemented into place in the brain by the time of late adulthood?

We have a great FAQ and a wonderful Search facility where you will find answers to most, if not all of your questions. Please give them a try. If you have questions after your exhaustive search for information on Eunuch and/or castration issues we would be happy to accommodate your request.

I do have a question for you. Please explain the difference in age stated in your post and that found in your profile.

Regards.

Robby (imported) wrote: Fri Sep 22, 2006 7:31 pm I do have a question for you. Please explain the difference in age stated in your post and that found in your profile.

Regards.

And the explanation is??? --FLO--

emailforjmp,

You didn't expect the Spanish Inquisition about age, did you?

Have a nice day,

Terri

bryan (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 23, 2006 2:33 pm emailforjmp,

You didn't expect the Spanish Inquisition about age, did you?

Have a nice day,

Terri

Or coming from me, maybe it's the Scottish Inquisition. --FLO--

Pending clarification from emailforjmp about his true age, the critical response to make is YOUR MILEAGE WILL VARY!

There is no way to be certain what the physiological response will be. There is no way to know if it can be reversed with HRT, if surgery is chosen. ANYONE here contemplating castration needs to try six months to a year on reversible chemical castration first!

hello and a great thanks to the two folks who have shared their personal experiences...

about my age: i am fifty-six years old. but when i signed up for this message board, i put in a lot of ´fake´ information in order to not get "caught" on this site by nosey people who may be intercepting my computer usage (like co-workers, my boss, people that run the internet cafe, etc). i even made up an entirely new email just for this purpose! i mean, come on folks, my name is obviously not emailforjmp... you have to understand that the topic of the website is not at all considered "normal" or "good" by most people, so i am doing whatever little things i have to do to protect myself... to no harm at all to anyone else.

i have to admit that it is very frustrating that people would actually hold back sharing helpful information with me because they are not sure about my age. its kind of like asking the drowning man why he fell in before you agree to help him. maybe i am not making clear how incredibly desperate (maybe even a little suicidal, but that´s another can of worms) regarding my sex addiction.

robby, yes, i have searched a lot on this web site and many others regarding my questions (specified in bold in my orginal post for your convenience), but they are not specifically addressed anywhere.

the main query being: to what extent is the sex drive physical or mental? and what is the relationship between the two aspects... for example, does the sex drive become cemented in place mentally at some point due to the physical influence? or does the physical influence simply fuel the mental aspect?

and because of the great variablity among people, it is so wonderful to hear the many many different answers that you good folks might provide. you are a very unique (no remote pun intended) group of people and can really lend some insight into this query... i look forward to any more responses.

again,

many many thanks for any personal insight you can share!

-j

(p.s. yes, i have tried androcur. the thing is that it was just way too expensive to do a proper trial of six months. i could only determine that i needed quite a bit (250 mg per day) for it to have any effect at all. but the amount of time that i could afford to be on it was not long enough to demonstrate to me how the mental knot of sexuality might eventually loosen itself from my mind.... if ever. i have health insurance that will pay for the orchiectomy by the way. they just dont cover androcur because it is not fda approved.)