I'm wondering if anyone here is in contact with The Fraj. I understand that he regretted his castration. It seems like it would be VERY helpful and educational to hear a first hand account from the other side of the story. We hear so many stories here of guys whose lives have been changed for the better by having the surgery. But as I consider having it done myself, I can't help but hear the little voice in the background saying "Yes, but what if..."

I'm sure the last thing The Fraj wants is to dredge up painful memories, but perhaps he could help save someone from making the same mistake.

Colinwexler (imported) wrote: Sun Aug 07, 2005 12:41 am I'm wondering if anyone here is in contact with The Fraj. I understand that he regretted his castration. It seems like it would be VERY helpful and educational to hear a first hand account from the other side of the story. We hear so many stories here of guys whose lives have been changed for the better by having the surgery. But as I consider having it done myself, I can't help but hear the little voice in the background saying "Yes, but what if..."

I'm sure the last thing The Fraj wants is to dredge up painful memories, but perhaps he could help save someone from making the same mistake.

While the Fraj's story is not on this site, the thread, 'Consequences of Castration', within the Non-Fiction Articles forum contains several personal accounts of the experience of several guys in choosing to be castrated and living with it afterward. Mine is included as well: 'Living Without Balls.'

The good sister is correct. You likely shouldn't proceed if you have any doubts whatsoever. Follow your instinct. You'll know if and when you can live with the results afterwards. That you've provided no information about yourself in your non-profile certainly doesn't help in offering any advice.

I was with thefraj when he was castrated, there was no stopping him, I know I tried. He will agree that in his state of mind nothing was going to stop him. His wake up to reality came about 8 to 10 months later. His family is very suportive and there is one member of the archive that visites him a couple times a year. He is doing ok.

River

I also visited TheFraj a few months after his Castration, at the time he seemed very happy and felt it was the right thing for him to do, I believe it was about 5 to 6 months after when the Reality of what he did set in and things did go from bad to worse.

I know myself I'm at a crossroads with my decision to become a full fledged Eunuch, I have been on Androcur for the past 7 weeks I do like all the results so far.

If I were you I would take a test with the Chemical Castration first to make sure you are happy with the results of that before going under the knife.

Thanks for all the good advice here because not everyone should be cut.I am one that castration has been a blessing but by know means look at my experance and think you will be as happy as i am .I will always preach to anyone thinking about this TRY CHEMICAL CASTRATION FIRST for at least 12 monthes or longer as i did 24 monthes.I had a good test drive befor i bought this and i feel i did the right thing but even with this i still take premarin because i needed some hormones and this has given me the calmness i needed.So take care and read all you can on this because you can never put them back once their gone.

People in general always get caught up in the "grass is always greener" mentality, and I suggest that this is the sort of thinking that trips up guys like Fraj.

While we have balls we'll blame our problems on them and feel confident that life would be better without them. When we lose our balls we decide that life would be better with them.

The even worse problem is that testosterone can alter our decision making ability, and lack of testosterone can lead to depression. So it is quite possible to go from an attitude of "just cut them off" to "my life sucks now".

The reality though is that I suspect that life for Fraj would not have been much better if he'd kept his balls. What would he do with them if he had them?

It is possible to live life with balls even if they cause trouble/discomfort. It is possible to live life without balls even if you miss the vigor/agressiveness/horniess they provide. If you're not happy either way then perhaps something else is your problem!

Just to inject a bit of humor here, but I feel it may need to be said, theFraj did keep his balls, I have seen them, they are in a container that you can see on his picture here.

The Fraj was heard from today and is doing well. No worries.

tal

Well, I worry that he can't get Twinkies in his area of the UK.

Is it illegal to import Hostess Twinkies to the UK?

Before I went over to see theFraj in 2002, I did send him a HUGE care package of the things he sampled here in the US when He was here. Not sure why the UK doesn't have Twinkies, Who Knows they could be considered a Bio Hazard?

Ken