Hi guys and gals...

Remember me? I don't post very often. (I'm a born-that-way female just so ya know....)

I have a pretty serious question to ask...

I was laying in bed early this morning and I began to wonder if I weren't going crazy... (Crazier than usual that is...) I was thinking of things my new boyfriend and I have talked about. Just soundbytes replayed. I cannot stop thinking about it for very long since we got together Saturday afternoon. At the time, I told him he was wonderful and several other similar adjectives. I told him it was nice to finally find someone who loves and understands nuances the way I do. We also had a conversation here and there about this "eunuch friend" I have online- not from here actually. He got himself castrated and now regrets it terribly. So one day he sent me an IM out of the blue and I just happened to be talking to this boyfriend so I said "This eunuch IMed me and..." - started telling him the story. So of course along the way, said boyfriend and I have talked about genital mods and such because I have a site on circumcision- the subject of circ is one of my interests, but not because I want or need my boyfriends circ'd- in fact my sons are not.... we talked about this Saturday over lunch actually. He told me he'd had one undescended testicle when born but it was fixed.

Well, we'd been at his place and watched a movie. He'd said before that he'd pictured cuddling with me when we talked about what we'd do when Saturday finally arrived. (Our 3rd date btw.) He'd kissed me on the cheek on our 2nd date and I told him there was something different and "WOW" about it and that I looked forward to some "real kissing". Well, that "real kissing" Saturday was something I'd only ever imagined. It was me plus him of course... And I told him I'd never had the right person to reciprocate. He reacted like no man I've ever talked to or been with has. Not only that, but he was gentle and nuanced back.

Well here's where this applies to this board. This nuancing went on for hours and was lovely. No pressure but wonderful. He kept sighing- saying it was a very happy sigh. And we talked about men and emotions .... As a side not to what I'm about to say, he very obviously had an erection - though it must be stated nobody had any clothes off. (Okay- I think I took my socks off... )

On the way home, however, I say "When are we going to have that talk?" He knew what I meant. We'd touched on the subject in fair detail two days prior- the talk about birth control and STDs etc. before things got "any further". I'd thought we would've had it that night, but we really didn't (He actually stopped things on purpose saying "This is where I draw the line for now..." Shocked the hell out of me that a man would and could do that, but he'd warned me prior of this ability....) Earlier we'd actually talked about the eunuch friend and I'd said "Doesn't do it for me.... same with women. They just don't have the right equipment!" and gave some detailed reason as to why, of course, which doesn't need elaborated on here.

Well no deal on the talk in the car of course. He wants it to be in person I guess and not while driving. But he brought up the eunuch subject again. Odd - I thought I was the one with the weird fixation (being a woman and all...) Always have had an interest... So he says "You know some eunuchs still can get erections..." "Well this guy online," I object, "Says he can't at all..." totally letting that tidbit go straight over my head.....

Now, do you think I"m putting the wrong pieces together, or is this just a little bit too weird? I was reading the thread in this folder about how being a eunuch changes your sex drive...... Hmmm..... Any feedback is appreciated!

The question of sex after castration is one of those YMWV. In general, the older you are when castrated, the more likely you will wind up impotent. But younger eunuchs can carry on quite a sex life.

Also, the longer you are a eunuch, the more likely asexuality will set in sooner or later.

On the other hand...and I do mean "hand", active masturbation may prolong the period of sexual response in the eunuch.

If a eunuch wants to have sexual ability after it has gone, he can always take testosterone.

In my case, I have more or less drifted into asexuality, relax and enjoy it, and have no intention of taking replacement testosterone. Just finished coming of the Premarin I had been taking to suppress hot flushing.

as im hoping to be castrated sooner rather than later i m looking forword to the fact that after it i hope my sex drive will go down to zero and looking forword to being a lot calmer so the day i get castrated cant come soon enough

.....I have a pretty serious question to ask...

Moreschi (imported) wrote: Tue Dec 21, 2004 6:42 am Now, do you think I"m putting the wrong pieces together, or is this just a little bit too weird? I was reading the thread in this folder about how being a eunuch changes your sex drive...... Hmmm..... Any feedback is appreciated!

My own rationale for castration ~5 years ago was not to reduce sexuality. Each of us is different, and I'm receiving HRT (AndroGel). My sex drive seems as strong as it ever was. I still find my empty crotch erotic. My ability to orgasm is a bit reduced, and my recovery time is longer, but I ascribe both to age as much as anything else.

Remember that there are thousands of young men per year who lose one testicle to testicular cancer. There are hundreds who lose BOTH. They most certainly are eunuchs, but nearly all receive silicone prostheses and full HRT. Other than being completely sterile, they are, for all practical purposes, fully male and functionally so.

JesusA (imported) wrote: Thu Dec 23, 2004 10:16 pm Remember that there are thousands of young men per year who lose one testicle to testicular cancer. There are hundreds who lose BOTH. They most certainly are eunuchs, but nearly all receive silicone prostheses and full HRT. Other than being completely sterile, they are, for all practical purposes, fully male and functionally so.

Jesus,

Count those guys who get silicone prostheses lucky... The reason I say they're lucky results from personal experience.

December 1993 was my day of reckoning, "Robby, we want to remove your left testicle. We believe there is a great possiblity you have cancer. The only way to prove this theory is to remove the testicle and send it to the Army laboratory as they know the most on testicles. The Army will slice the testicle thinly in order to make a determination. If they tell us cancer, we will agressively treat your condition immediately."

Wow, was I stunned. Of course I said, "Sure, take it out." Then a bit of vanity set in when I asked, "Can I get an implant to replace it?"

"Don't be silly young man. Why do you want to put a foreign object in your body? By most accounts, they are only rejected over time.", said the doctor.

I guess my lot in life is not lucky as five or six Urologists have told me the same. They don't believe in putting objects in a guy's sack.

If you hear of a doctor who does this procedure, please let us know. I may be a willing subject...

Robby (imported) wrote: Fri Dec 24, 2004 5:31 am Count those guys who get silicone prostheses lucky... The reason I say they're lucky results from personal experience...December 1993 was my day of reckoning, "Robby, we want to remove your left testicle. W

ow, was I stunned....

Robby (imported) wrote: Fri Dec 24, 2004 5:31 am Then a bit of vanity set in when I asked, "Can I get an implant to replace it? Don't be silly young man. Why do you want to put a foreign object in your body? By most accounts, they are only rejected over time."...five or six Urologists have told me the same. They don't believe in putting objects in a guy's sack. If you hear of a doctor who does this procedure, please let us know. I may be a willing subject...

Robby, Jesus is correct. Many guys, especially those whose testicles are removed for medical reasons, have prostheses inserted. The main issue, as I understand it is silicone. The newer implants are not silicone.

Implants should be a metter of personal choice. My suggestion would be for you to go through the manufacturers and find out which medical practicioners make use of their products in your area.

My own choice has been not to seek implants. I think the reason is that I had so many problems with testicles when I had them that I'm quite happy without. I've been tempted to have the wrinkled remnant of a sac removed for aesthetic reasons. I recently had 2 rings inserted in the empty sac because I do think the wrinkled organ isn't so attractive. Fortunately it disappears totally into the base of my cock when I'm hard. I've also been supported socially. My BF says he finds my empty crotch very erotic. Other occasional sex partners have been supportive as well. And I do enjoy having it fondled.

JeffEunuch (imported) wrote: Fri Dec 24, 2004 8:55 am Robby, Jesus is correct. Many guys, especially those whose testicles are removed for medical reasons, have prostheses inserted. The main issue, as I understand it is silicone. The newer implants are not silicone.

Implants should be a metter of personal choice. My suggestion would be for you to go through the manufacturers and find out which medical practicioners make use of their products in your area.

Jeff,

Which manufacturers do you recommend?

Moreschi (imported) wrote: Tue Dec 21, 2004 6:42 am Hi guys and gals...

Remember me? I don't post very often. (I'm

JeffEunuch (imported) wrote: Thu Dec 23, 2004 7:29 am a born-that-way female just so ya know....

)

I have a pretty serious question to ask...

... Now, do you think I"m putting the wrong pieces together, or is this just a little bit too weird? I was reading the thread in this folder about how being a eunuch changes your sex drive...... Hmmm..... Any feedback is appreciated!

Moreschi,

I don't think your questions really got an answer so far in the discussion, so I'll try.

First of all, if you're having a good time don't ruin it by overanalyzing it. Otherwise you'll be like those Seinfeld episodes where a perfectly good partner is discarded because of some minor issue.

Next, there is some truth underlying stereotypes and if someone doesn't act like you expect someone of his/her gender then it is probably true that they are somewhere on that continuum of genders or asexuality. But again, as long as you fit well together who cares?

Furthermore, he may be worried about some aspect of his genitals or sexuality. Or maybe his erection was enhanced (viagra, or such).

Lastly, maybe he is a eunuch for any number of reasons (born intesex, FTM transgender, undescended testes, accident, cancer, or voluntary).

Sounds like you already have children, which might have been something to worry about. Cancer and stuff could be difficult to handle -- it is one thing to deal with if you've known someone for a while, but much more difficult to start a relationship with someone whose health is fading.

In any case, you know you're open minded and you know you are having fun. I'd just make it an interesting guessing game. See where you can steer the conversation. Get frisky and check his reaction to slipping your hands down his pants and fondle his balls.

Cheers!

Even without testosterone, it seems that some memory of desire endures. Touch is marvelous. This thread intrigues me. Our sexuality is deeply a central aspect of who we are. Meanwhile, I listen for other posts.