Hello Everyone!

I'm new here, 35 and a straight male. I'm seriously considering getting myself fixed to kill my desire for sex. This is due to the fact that my extreme enjoyment of sex contributes to my current state of ease of manipulation by desirable women. Instead of doing more for the common good, I find myself always in a situation where I am left as undesired and used. My lament is intense as I always strive to build my life around the woman I love and in the end I am always rejected and used in short order due to subconscious justifications that are transparent at best. This is due to my extreme generous nature and desire to prove my love. My true nature is never recognized and is always simply dismissed as an angle to gain their access and/or companionship. (I'm always left accused of attempting to "buy" love.)

I wish to devote my life to the betterment of others. Sadly, I always find myself a caterer to a woman who does not want or recognize my true nature and insists on utilizing my financial position for their own greed or some other sort of selfish motive. I am wealthy, and this leaves me in a situation where I am always ripe for usury, as I love to please the ones I love in anyway I can. Naturally my financial stance is found attractive moreso than my company as I seem to be unable to find a "soulmate" whom can accept me alone in my totality and I usually wound up hurt, betrayed, and used.

I understand many of you in here are gay. I am not and never could be. I'm interested only in a means of killing my sexual desire for women in a way that is irreversible as otherwise I would in short order revert to my current state of being. I aim to adopt as many unwanted children as possible in a poor country to achieve a recognizable state of selfless sacrifice that cannot be credited to a selfish or immoral slant on my part for any reason (sexual in particular).

I understand that all the benefits of castration are not positive on an emotional level. Can someone please tell me more about this? Also, has anyone here ever had the procedure preformed for the same reasons I have expressed? If so, what was the outcome as in your current state of being?

Thanks,

Don

donsteitz (imported) wrote: Fri Jan 24, 2003 4:15 am I understand that all the benefits of castration are not positive on an emotional level. Can someone please tell me more about this? Also, has anyone here ever had the procedure preformed for the same reasons I have expressed? If so, what was the outcome as in your current state of being?

Thanks,

Don

Welcome. We have eunuchs of all types here, castrated for various reasons. I am one of those who wanted to eliminate my libido, and have done so.

As for the consequences of castration, here is an excellent resource...

Sherry’s web pages

Is Castration right for you?

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The Effects Of Castration

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Surgeons who perform castrations

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to deal with your frustrations with relationships other than think about castration? Like you, I'm quite comfortable. Also, I make a fetish sometimes out of romance. However, I'm amazed by your posting.

Not feeling sexual is a strange way to be a human being, even if Andrew makes a strong case from his own experience to eliminate sexual desire. :lightbulb Modeling for children how to live for the children under one's care involves great human skill. Not having sexual desires seems, to me at least, an odd way to model.

I frankly would pity children you might adopt or take under your wings were you to eliminate your sexual desires. Whether you want to live without libido is your business, but this is an awful--again in my opinion--vision to inflict on children.

I have plenty of experience in this area. A whole lifetime of such. I did not say I would volunteer this information to any children of mine and I would not. This is something that is particular to myself as my intense desire for the female furnace eats at the core of my soul 24/7. Instead of focus to matters of supreme importance, I live in a prison, captive of my own desire to feast on the pleasures of the flesh. This is to such an extent, and my desire is so strong, that I am unable to focus in times of betrayal.

What have I done?

Not too much. In fact I have had the ability many, many times over to cheat and betray myself. I do have an extreme sexual drive, and despite this, I have always been loyal and nobel to the extent of avoiding penetration. I have nevertheless faultered twice during my committed life as an adult. Once I licked another woman's breasts (naturally I also engaged in kissing), and another time I embraced a woman. Neither time did I become aroused as love was void. As much as I adore the ole' in out, in out; I seem to regard the act as something akin to sacred. I strive to be a icon of a companion, yet I am always left wanting and looking toward a pointing finger of accusation. I figure this to be due to my dynamic performance - "How can he be so loyal with such a demanding labido?" is a possible reflection of my lovers.

I have a great sense of responsibility as I feel myself to hold some sort of "special purpose" in this plain of our time on Earth. On betrayal I always revert to a dismal state as I have constant reflections on what possible faults have lead to my romantic demise. This lament is so severe to myself that I feel castration is a viable option worth exploring. I am not in a tizzy to hack off my goobage. In fact in all honesty I dread the thought. Yet, I always strive to "think my way clear" to all problems in life I may encounter. This one by far is the crux of my life. Jesus had his cross. I have my balls. A selfless sacrifice.

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Blaise (imported) wrote: Fri Jan 24, 2003 3:59 pm Not feeling sexual is a strange way to be a human being, even if Andrew makes a strong case from his own experience to eliminate sexual desire.

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Hi Old Softee,

I think you are right, it is strange way to live. It is strange because it constitutes something outside of what we are taught; get married and have children. It is still the mentality of my generation - those in their twenties - and the idea of diminishing that abiliy to breed is beyond the constition. What about homosexuals? Homosexuality is become more or less acceptable and naturally banishes the homegrown teaching of starting a family, but wait... they can adopt or implant their sperm in some woman.

Bollocks is all I have to say. They can if they want but if they don't. 'Yes you are right society i wouldn't be kind to that child,' was my mother's reply when I told her - she thinks I'm gay because I've never fucked a woman and have no intention to do so, unfortunally I also find women so attractive as well as men - bisexuality? -

The fact is some people just don't fit into family life and differently don't want to start a family and few understand because it is outside of the natural need to procreate. Is this a reason for castration? No. Does this mean you are asexual? maybe, but what is sexuality? Does sexuality simply mean wanting children? No, because homosexuality is a part of sexuality. Does it been having an orgasm? Too many yes, but what about the the sensory delight of being canned in a bdsm scenerio? Is this sexual?

For the sake of definition, eroticism is the best term to describe this kind of experience. The slave revels in the sensation, in the same manner as stimulating the prostate or the urethra does. It isn't sex, but it is hardly doing the washing up. This is the sexuality that socialogy does not explore. 'You didn't come what is the point?' is the mentality. 'But it was better, the bliss lasted, it stays with you.' 'Bollocks.'

How does this fit into castration? Kill the urge, the impulse to orgasm, to shoot your load, what are you left with? The sensation, the moment of joy and the feeling of nerves rippling. Is this such a bad way to express sexuality? Not for me, but the majority? Probably.

I hope this is in some way this makes some sort of sense. If not, bollocks.

All the best,

Leon

For a decade or more, I've basically lived a eunuch life. I understand the calm--the serenity of that life. At the same time, I have missed the other side of life. However, you and Andrew make a lot of sense.

Certainly, eroticism does take many forms--the is a vital aspect of its importance to us. Thanks for responding to my somewhat polemical post.

Why not give all you have to a charitable organization and keep your genitals? That way you would not be the target of anyone out to get your money and you would keep your sexuality.

Any woman who falls in love with you would have to love you for yourself. Of course, you can still fall for unatainable or inappropriate women if you want to follow that course of action. Remember that romance is always an illusion. It's a mechanism designed to get men and women together to reproduce. The force of illusion is a wonderful force if you moderate your responses to it.

At the least, won't you miss mastubating? That is a great pleasure and enjoyment in life. :redbounce :redbounce

Do you think that castration is a treatment for depression?

If you've already got a depression problem, castration is the LAST thing that you want to do.

Well, you might WANT to do it, but it's not a good idea. It's a fact that the falling hormone levels contribute to depression. And it doesn't matter HOW your levels fall, either.

Physical castration, chemical, or just a medically related lack of production of hormones (hypogonadism) will all cause it. The degree of severity varies from person to person, but it happens. Iwould imagine that everyone who has experienced it will say the same thing.

It's something you have to watch out for.

Like the old saying goes, "There's no free lunch." Everything has a consequence or side effect.

Old Softee, when you were living your life as a eunuch of sorts, did you have any sexual/erotic encounters? If so, how did they differ from before you lost your testosterone?

All the best,

Leon

I've opted to keep the goobers...I was only on a slant. I think going all out is something I would regret...in a very big way....thanks guys!