• Reintroduction, why I'm still around

Posted: **Thu Feb 15, 2024 10:14 am**

Hello all. I've been around for years, though I don't post very often. I am here, and have been for years because my wife and I are on different ends of the desire spectrum. I am middle aged, married to the love of my life. Wouldn't change that for anything. I would have been castrated years ago to equalize our sex drives, if it were up to me. She has always been hesitant. Says it isn't natural.

A few years ago she started going through a woman's change of life. Her low sex drive got lower. Was driving me nuts. About a year and a half back, we agreed that I should be cut. I was so relieved. I found a surgeon, had a date set. I was in the process of getting my mental health letter and medical clearance when I found I had other medical issues that needed to be addressed. High blood pressure and diabetes. I have worked hard to address these issues and now find myself back at the point where I would like to address my crazy high sex drive.

Once again my wife is hesitant. Problem is, there are very few people who have been where we are, and solved it with castration who can be found and are willing to talk about the results. I have found one man on here willing to talk, he is at the same place I am, but hasn't been cut. I know there are those out there. The surgeon I talked too was very helpful, she said it wasn't uncommon. She averages cutting one straight guy a month, with most of them being middle aged married men.

If you have been where I am, and done what I'm thinking about doing, I would be very grateful if you would send me a message.

Posted: **Thu Feb 15, 2024 4:48 pm**

I'm older, and sought to get fixed more to end the frustration of SCI related inability to perform, rather than libido matching, but it has had that effect to some degree as even if I was able I'm not at all sure my long time partner would want or be able to.... (she has other medical issues that would be a problem, in addition to being post-menopausal) She definitely says she isn't feeling deprived, although she also says she doesn't understand why I wanted to get castrated...

That said, we do now seem to spend more time 'cuddling' and otherwise enjoying physical contact without there being anything overly sexual on either side....

From what you say, I wonder how your wife might feel if you asked her about trying a period of chemical castration as a 'test drive' to see if you both are happy with you being a 'functional eunuch' before going for the big snip... I know that when I first broached the subject with my GF, she was very concerned about the idea of such a big change, and was much more willing to be OK with it when I proposed doing a 'trial' with chemical castration first.... (also worth noting that this is recommended as part of the usual process in the Eunuch chapter of the SOC v8)

WheelyFixed

Posted: **Fri Feb 16, 2024 8:34 pm**

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Thu Feb 15, 2024 10:14 am Hello all. I've been around for years, though I don't post very often. I am here, and have been for years because my wife and I are on different ends of the desire spectrum. I am middle aged, married to the love of my life. Wouldn't change that for anything. I would have been castrated years ago to equalize our sex drives, if it were up to me. She has always been hesitant. Says it isn't natural.

A few years ago she started going through a woman's change of life. Her low sex drive got lower. Was driving me nuts. About a year and a half back, we agreed that I should be cut. I was so relieved. I found a surgeon, had a date set. I was in the process of getting my mental health letter and medical clearance when I found I had other medical issues that needed to be addressed. High blood pressure and diabetes. I have worked hard to address these issues and now find myself back at the point where I would like to address my crazy high sex drive.

Once again my wife is hesitant. Problem is, there are very few people who have been where we are, and solved it with castration who can be found and are willing to talk about the results. I have found one man on here willing to talk, he is at the same place I am, but hasn't been cut. I know there are those out there. The surgeon I talked too was very helpful, she said it wasn't uncommon. She averages cutting one straight guy a month, with most of them being middle aged married men.

If you have been where I am, and done what I'm thinking about doing, I would be very grateful if you would send me a message.

First, I have to say that I was not where you are when I was castrated 3 months ago. But I give you things to consider as I had been married for many years before she just got up and left several years prior to my surgery.

Your wifes hesitancy is understandable, and in a way she is correct. However, gastric bypass surgery for weight loss is not natural but people had that body modification. Both of you may need counseling to better understand the dynamics of you being castrated.

I wonder what your plan is for post castration regarding hormone replacement. Testosterone, estrogen or nothing and I do not know of too many that recommend nothing. Hormones such as testosterone keep you as you are (depending on dosage) but estrogen will cause changes. I am on a low dose of estrogen and am having feminine effects but still have the same mental thoughts and a slight reduction of the physical urges as before surgery. So, what are you going to do if your desires stay the same on T and what is she going to do if you grow tits on estrogen? I recommend finding an Endocrinologist early in the process, even before surgery to discuss hormone replacement.

WheelyFixed makes a good recommendation for a 'test drive'. I would have done the same, but I did not have to worry about my wife skipping out on me, leaving me ball-less.

In the end I found getting a letter and finding a surgeon easier since the publication of SOC V8. It gives better cover for medical professionals, but it may not give you time to make a more informed decision.

Posted: **Sat Feb 17, 2024 8:03 am**

Thank you Friage01 for your testimony. you made an interesting point mentionning that even castrated a man would

Friage01 (imported) wrote: Fri Feb 16, 2024 8:34 pm still have the same mental thoughts.

I read this as we would still find women somehow attractive and nice but with no sex urge. Am I right? I guess so, as in my mind, I think that castration could change the sex drive but do not necessarily the playsure and appreciation of looking and nice woment (or men if you're gay). That said my nest reflexion or question would be: is it not frustrating to still having this pleasure of looking at nice women and not being able to go on? Or on the opposite the pleasure of looking is there, and not disturbed by the sex drive that most of the time end up in frustration. This frustration would be absent in the castrated men who would still appreciate the gook looking woment.

Could it be seen like hte testimonies we see in the EA about men living with their beloved wife (which had no more sex drive) and still in love with her after castration. The feelings (and thoughts) remains the same but the frustration found no ground. May be it could be said that castration could (or would) help some part of yourself but do not change you entirely. Does all that make sense?

Posted: **Sat Feb 17, 2024 5:08 pm**

My SCI left me in the horribly frustrating position of being able to get up to the 'edge' of an orgasm, and then nothing... I called it the 'Marvin the Martian Syndrome' after the Bugs Bunny character that was always lamenting the lack of 'an earth shattering Kaboom' This led me to stop trying, but did nothing about the desire, or the frustration....

Now I find I still like to look at pretty women, (but won't go out of my way to do it, and porn has no added thrills) but it doesn't get in the way of interacting with them as people the way it used to when there was always the present but never acted on urge to make 'inappropriate' actions, physical or verbal going on in the background (almost since puberty)... My GF and I are more physically intimate now, as she no longer worries about my frustration about the inability to 'perform', and I don't feel reluctant to aggravate the frustration.... I guess one way to describe it is that looking at 'Miss Shapely' has shifted from triggering drives to more the same sort of pleasure one gets from lovely landscapes, or cute kids and kittens....

WheelyFixed

Posted: **Mon Feb 19, 2024 2:25 pm**

Thanks for the info guys. Yes, I have talked to a counselor. He recommended a test drive, but based on where I was at, I'm pretty sure he would have ok'd the surgery without one. Other problems took me off this road then. I'ld have to start back down it. Replacement? Low to no T. It would do me absolutely no good to get cut to reduce sex drive only to replace enough T to regain it.

Posted: **Tue Feb 20, 2024 6:07 pm**

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Mon Feb 19, 2024 2:25 pm Thanks for the info guys. Yes, I have talked to a counselor. He recommended a test drive, but based on where I was at, I'm pretty sure he would have ok'd the surgery without one. Other problems took me off this road then. I'ld have to start back down it. Replacement? Low to no T. It would do me absolutely no good to get cut to reduce sex drive only to replace enough T to regain it.

I would agree with the counselor, being of the mindset that you shouldn't do anything irreversible until you are REALLY sure you want it... Nothing will totally mimic being fixed, but chemicals will at least give you some idea...

I do agree with you on the T replacement... Folks should be able to make their own choices, but I admit to not really understanding why someone would want to get castrated and then replace the T lost by the surgery... My docs said no way w/o some sort of HRT given my already high risk for bone health issues, which is why I'm using E instead...

WheelyFixed

Posted: **Thu Feb 22, 2024 9:21 am**

I wish I could understand what goes on inside my wife's head, but that has been the wish of all husbands throughout time I guess. Be that as it may, that woman is the Love of my life, and nothing is going to happen unless we agree. I guess I have her attention, she's working on her end now. Rest assured, this conclusion was not a fast one to come to, and the decision will not be a fast one, and yes, professionals will be involved.

Posted: **Thu Feb 22, 2024 8:31 pm**

TheHavier (imported) wrote: Thu Feb 22, 2024 9:21 am I wish I could understand what goes on inside my wife's head, but that has been the wish of all husbands throughout time I guess.

Isn't it all men trying to figure out what goes on inside the head of all women?

No restriction to just married couples.....

WheelyFixed

Posted: **Fri Feb 23, 2024 4:43 am**

I’m a married middle age guy, who has been cut for the exact same reason you are trying to solve, insanely high libido.

I was done last year as stated in my signature.

I’m currently in testogel, 50mg. / day. My first blood sample after approx one month into TRT showed I was in the med range of men my age in regard to testosterone levels, borderline high on the free T. Next test showed a decline in my T level, but still comfortably in the mid range. I’m going in next month for my next blood sample and consultation with my endocrinologist.

In regard to my libido now whilst on full dose TRT I do feel that my libido has declined, and it’s definitely not controlling my behavior or desire to get off constantly as was the case when I was intact. So my goal in this regard has definitely been fulfilled.

However! I don’t know my current hormone level right now, so the reason behind my drop in libido, can be attributed to the testogel isn’t working as effectively, or I’m not absorbing it as I used to, or something else?

I do hope my T levels are within normal range though, as I very much like my current situation where I’m not affected by my libido, and the extra room between my legs are just awesome ��

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