Since the personals section of this site seems to be permanently offline, I am wondering if anyone knows other places specifically geared toward making connections.

I'd love to meet fellow guys interested in becoming eunuchs too (or who are already eunuchs), but at the same time I'd like to find intact men who are simply fans. Or maybe they want to be intact but prefer eunuch partners. Is there such a place, that anyone knows?

I have NOT registered on the site myself, so can't say how useful it would be for what you are looking for (a slight negative is that they did not offer 'eunuch' as a choice in any of their gender / interest area questions) but another member here mentioned creating a project to make a list of movies w/ castration scenes on a site called FetLife https://fetlife.com/

They claim on the home page: "FetLife is the Most Popular Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community." and say they are attempting to be a FakeBook equivalent for the 'kink' community, which from their terms of service seems to include pretty much any sort of non-vanilla heterosexual orientation / practice.... They claim to have a strong interest in encouraging networking and meeting other members.

Might be worth trying...

(I personally don't wish to advertise my status, and have not registered because I have many friends / acquaintances that I know are LGBTQ+ and / or kink inclined, and don't wish to indirectly out myself....)

WheelyFixed

Sadly, we've yet to find a software that similar to the Personals, which were unceremoniously jerked out from under us with no warning from the issuing company!

I've looked into it, and expanding the existing VB system for a "Personals" sub-forum simply will not work.

FetLife is a good source to meet people that have the same kinks as you.

Nidaho Rachel (imported) wrote: Thu Oct 19, 2023 5:22 pm FetLife is a good source to meet people that have the same kinks as you.

I suppose FetLife is ok, but you'll need to watch out for someone there who thinks she's the end all, be all, of how to define people like us. If you don't toe the line with her, she bans you, gets abusive, and overall creates problems. Lately, I think she's gone from there, nobody has talked about her for a while now. I think she finally threw her hands up because everyone was over her and not buying her brand of bullshit anymore.

That said, you could go there, and you could also go to a site called Recon. That is a fetish site for gay men. Including myself, I've seen 15 nullos on there, and a good amount of eunuchs as well. If you wish to search by keyword, you'll need to pay for a subscription. But folks like me who do pay (assuming you don't want to) could find you with that keyword search if you put the appropriate keywords into your profile.

They do accept photos, but generally you must keep photos of male genitals out of your main photo gallery, and place them in an adult gallery, which you can create in your profile.

I hope this helps.

I've been on both. I left Recon earlier in the year because it is quiet... Fetlife is also incredibly quiet. Broadly I think that since the early days of social media and dating, the monopolies of sites like Grindr for hookups has drained-out interest-based sites, but you could only write and read member-written introspective and cultural non-fiction literature on a site like Fetlife, which is its advantage.

Something I'd say more generally about looking for testiculated for partners of a (candidate or actually) detesticulated lover, is that whilst the preference/orientation definitely exists, I think the taboo works much more against them that one might realise. Guys are concerned they could be identified as abusers by disapproving others -- possibly drawing from a history (and veterinary present) of forced castration that connects a simple matter of genital load-out with themes of exploitation and loss of agency. That should be fertile ground for play and pageantry in a BDSM context (hence I think the reason we are immediately talking about non-judgemental kink and fetish sites that welcome marginalised people rather than the mainstream)... but I have found talking to intact Dom guys who appreciate eunuch bodies that they are in fact feeling a lot of fear about opening up about their feelings and desires. Those who are out in public still feel the need to pay a heavy and public tax of annoyingly victimising apologising and sympathising with testicular loss, as if to insure themselves against any risk of desiring the taboo people for who they are. The treading on eggshells behaviour I get from people I talk to when I mention my medical issues is one of the worst bits of the whole ordeal.

I wrote a long piece about this on Fetlife, explaining how it helps no-one to create this frosty silence that further stigmatises detesticulated people (of any kind), and folk going through a process of testicular pathology or loss. Stigma kills, frankly. Given the cultural/psychological background, though I hate to say it but the burden of getting eunuch-lovers out of the closet is probably going to be carried by our community, rather than a broader movement or outspoken intact lovers/allies.

I think this is spot on (and quite impressively worded). I've sensed it too. There may well be many more intact men who like the idea -- at least two have "confessed" to me about feeling shame for it. The irony is that I think society has made at least a little progress raising awareness of the spectrum of sexuality, including non-binary states. But I can't say the LGBT+ community is any more accepting of this in reality than the broader world as a whole.

buffonlooker (imported) wrote: Fri Oct 20, 2023 5:10 am I think this is spot on (and quite impressively worded). I've sensed it too. There may well be many more intact men who like the idea -- at least two have "confessed" to me about feeling shame for it. The irony is that I think society has made at least a little progress raising awareness of the spectrum of sexuality, including non-binary states. But I can't say the LGBT+ community is any more accepting of this in reality than the broader world as a whole.

Thanks!

I think there are a lot of gay and bi men who like male and non-binary detesticulated bodies... but it is a bit like issues of classism, racism etc in dating. People who are already facing hardship from their minority sexuality in general (minority stress) may well be deterred by fear and fatigue from making coupling choices that will increase stigmatised intersections and potentially increase that minority stress. If we bust the stigma, they [let's call them C Group] will quietly show up... but likely not in great numbers before. A middle ground is occupied by people who are quite personally resilient to all that and may well signal openness, but in a broad range of romanceable options. The people we get to see at the moment [A Group] are those who are not just appreciative, but thirsty for a relationship with a specific minority... and that is always a narrow number for any group, and often appears to the world as fetish-adjacent.

Anyway... on the 'so far but thus far no further' thing re LGBT+ dating, I think minority stress fatigue will be a long way to an answer. Increasing B Group out of C Group isn't necessarily going to be powered by A Group, because A Group tend to be motivated, higher risk appetite people who can come across as unvarnished (cf. 'chasers' in trans discourse). B Group itself is unfocused and quiet... not evangelical, as it were. ... So... yeah. It will be up to pioneers and good public representation.

I know from experience that both gay and bisexual men can be very attracted to eunuchs. Some love the feminisation that happens to a ball-less boy is not using TRT, others the look of a penis without testicles attached and some just love the very idea of emasculation to name just a few. I’ve always encouraged guys to be open about what arouses them, if a guy says to me it turns him on that I’ve been castrated and can no longer perform as a male I’m perfectly OK with that. I prefer a guy to come out and say it rather than pussyfoot around. From my point of view, I will use my nullification to attract potential dates, if I like a guy I will tell him about my castration, flash him a look and possibly let him feel. A bit slutty maybe but after losing my partner to Covid I don’t feel like wasting time.

Justine xx

justine77 (imported) wrote: Fri Oct 20, 2023 7:54 am I know from experience that both gay and bisexual men can be very attracted to eunuchs. Some love the feminisation that happens to a ball-less boy is not using TRT, others the look of a penis without testicles attached and some just love the very idea of emasculation to name just a few. I’ve always encouraged guys to be open about what arouses them, if a guy says to me it turns him on that I’ve been castrated and can no longer perform as a male I’m perfectly OK with that. I prefer a guy to come out and say it rather than pussyfoot around. From my point of view, I will use my nullification to attract potential dates, if I like a guy I will tell him about my castration, flash him a look and possibly let him feel. A bit slutty maybe but after losing my partner to Covid I don’t feel like wasting time.

Justine xx

It is really fantastic to hear you've had a positive reception from partners. Agreed about the different aspects people can find hot... although that diversity can make a small dating pool even more chaotic, in the sense that there is a vast gulf between someone finding detesticulation hot on hyper-masc guys, versus feminisation being their jam.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss during Covid -- thinking of you, Justine. Embracing your sexuality after that is inspiring.