Hi, been way interested in castration for years and have finally come to a decision that I need it, just not sure how to start. My libido and drive is at an all time low, just not sure or even how to discuss with my wife, or how she is going to react. I know this is a great step in the right direction for me. Any suggestions to get the "ball rolling"....

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Other's opinion may vary, but I'd say that talking with your wife is probably the best place to start, assuming that you want to stay married I know that other posters here have managed to get fixed by staging 'accidents' that led to removal, but that seems sketchy to me...

It seems to me that you need to talk with your wife and at least get her agreement that she is OK with it, you don't really need her enthusiastic support...

Then I'd start on the medical side by reaching out to your local transgender center and talking with them. There is a new 'Standards of Care' that has just been released, SOC v8, that has a chapter specifically on dealing with folks wanting to be eunuchs, and a lot of relevant bits in other chapters and which makes going through the medical route the best (safest) way to do it these days...

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Hello, and yes getting her on board is a start, we have talked about a vasectomy in the past but this is my ultimate goal, just remove them and let me live in piece.

I have talked about this with my primary Dr and while he is hesitant, he is also understanding so things are rolling just its taking longer then I prefer, thanks for your reply!

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The operation did me good and did not harm my later life.

I didn't have many of the typical illnesses of my peers.

I always looked younger and healthier than them (albeit somewhat weaker in muscle strength).

But, of course, your situation is quite different.

You need to be careful and not rush into radical decisions...

Valery_V (imported) wrote: Tue Oct 11, 2022 7:35 am You need to be careful and not rush into radical decisions...

Absolutely and I am so ready to have this done, been pondering for years and thought I was odd for even thinking this and in finding this forum and able to discuss without some freakish replies, I am not alone in wanting it.

Thanks for the reply

memininm (imported) wrote: Tue Oct 11, 2022 8:32 am Absolutely and I am so ready to have this done, been pondering for years and thought I was odd for even thinking this and in finding this forum and able to discuss without some freakish replies, I am not alone in wanting it.

Thanks for the reply

You get the freakish replies elsewhere because what you're wanting to do to your body is what most men would consider their worst nightmare. Here it isn't, and you are among a group who will understand you, even if their own life experience is a bit different than your own.

You should read the new WPATH Standards of Care 8, chapter 9 on eunuchs, the situation you describe for yourself is documented there. While WPATH stands for World Professional Association of Transgender Health, do not get hung up on the title or where the described path to achieve your goals is laid out - focus on your goal.

You are an IDEAL candidate for hormone suppression therapies, often called chemical castration. The WPATH standards of care recommend you do this for 6 months as a sort of trial run before you continue to the irreversible step of having your testicles surgically removed (castration).

Perhaps you bring this trial period of chemical castration up to your wife and let her know you'd like to try it. Doing this is a reversible step. If it brings you to a state you like, then you could proceed to physical castration/removal of your testicles. Not much, if anything, would change switching from chemical castration to physical castration, other than you'd no longer need to take the hormone suppressing drugs.

Excellent suggestion LT, it sort of matches my experience in bringing it up with my GF... She was more than a bit surprised, but was somewhat on the line of "It's your body" However she also very much wanted me to not do anything irreversible without some sort of test.

I was inclined in that direction anyway, but it certainly seems like a good step and a reasonable way to keep her happy.

I feel like it's important to have at least some degree of consent from one's life partners to avoid breaking up relationships.... If you agree with the definition of love as the happiness of another being essential to your own, it seems that getting your partner to agree w/ your actions is a big part of it. Trying to hide it seems like planting a barrier in the relationship...

WheelyCurious

Losethem (imported) wrote: Tue Oct 11, 2022 4:29 pm You get the freakish replies elsewhere because what you're wanting to do to your body is what most men would consider their worst nightmare. Here it isn't, and you are among a group who will understand you, even if their own life experience is a bit different than your own.

You should read the new WPATH Standards of Care 8, chapter 9 on eunuchs, the situation you describe for yourself is documented there. While WPATH stands for World Professional Association of Transgender Health, do not get hung up on the title or where the described path to achieve your goals is laid out - focus on your goal.

You are an IDEAL candidate for hormone suppression therapies, often called chemical castration. The WPATH standards of care recommend you do this for 6 months as a sort of trial run before you continue to the irreversible step of having your testicles surgically removed (castration).

Perhaps you bring this trial period of chemical castration up to your wife and let her know you'd like to try it. Doing this is a reversible step. If it brings you to a state you like, then you could proceed to physical castration/removal of your testicles. Not much, if anything, would change switching from chemical castration to physical castration, other than you'd no longer need to take the hormone suppressing drugs.

Thanks, this is a very good suggestion, as it will lay more ground work for my removal. Like I stated my Dr knows mu wants, not sure if it will include a mental evaluation....

I would like to try it and see if I can get my Dr on board, now my wife, I don't think it will be difficult to get her on board but just not sure where to start.

Many thanks!

memininm (imported) wrote: Wed Oct 12, 2022 11:46 am Thanks, this is a very good suggestion, as it will lay more ground work for my removal. Like I stated my Dr knows mu wants, not sure if it will include a mental evaluation....

I would like to try it and see if I can get my Dr on board, now my wife, I don't think it will be difficult to get her on board but just not sure where to start.

Many thanks!

I'll apologize for a mistake I made up there as I was writing. I was assuming you were wanting to lower your libido to match that of your wife. At this point my question would be, is your wife desiring sexual intimacy and can you provide it? If her drive is low as you state yours is, I'm really not seeing what her objection would be for your getting castrated other than aesthetics or concern that you'd be having a surgery, of which this one would be fairly minor, assuming you'd only be having your testicles removed.

Now, if her objection is no more sex, than your solution may not be this at all, but instead hormone replacement. At that point castration is still a possibility, but you could take hormone replacement (testosterone) to increase your sex drive to match hers, without removing your testicles. Of course, you could also have them removed and take the testosterone and still function sexually.

I feel at this point as if I'm missing a bit of information on her expectations vis-a-vis sexual relations. And it's also o.k. for you to say you'd prefer not to answer that, but I think the answer would help us, help you, sort the right solution for you.