So a quick background, a close friend of mine is getting his gentiles removed [all of his penis, testicles, scrotum] due to medical reasons in the next few days [infection and blood flow issues from what I have heard, but he isnt talking about it so I do not know if this is the full story], my question here is if you guys could give me some advice about talking about it to him as currently he seems rather crushed/depressed over it [which tbf I would be as well]. More so with this as I only lost my testicles and I have zero experience with loosing anything else.

Again any advice as I want to help, but I dont know what life without a penis would be like. Any tips or ideas or suggestions from the Eunuch crowd?

Being a eunuch yourself, you should be well versed in being there to help the numerous friends you have with unfortunate circumstances involving their gentiles.

I would try to keep him company ...

Then it will be easier for you to overcome difficulties together.

Gentiles?

Not everyone is Jewish

Not everyone is Jewish

But most people still have genitals in place .

Valery_V (imported) wrote: Fri Oct 08, 2021 9:41 pm But most people still have genitals in place .

Sadly yes. But not for much longer!

Hey @chrisbinalman,

I am not a doctor nor therapist. So, take my ESH (Experience, Strenght and Hope) with that in mind.

There is no way you will ever be able to say to him, "I know how you must feel." The shock, horror, embarrassment, and dismay that your friend is feeling is beyond anyone's comprehension. Even someone who's had the exact same medical condition will not have reacted precisely the same way.

Having said that, you can feel for your friend. More importantly, you can tell him that you feel for him. You, too, are worried and have feelings about what is happening to your friend. Tell your friend how concerned you are about his condition. My ESH tells makes me that shortly after you've opened yourself up about being worried, your friend will be seeking to comfort you and assure you that it will all be okay.

Let your friend talk, telling him how concerned you are will open the conversation and that will help your friend.

My ESH tells me that you should not only offer to help - you should just start helping.

Tell your friend that you will give him a ride to/from surgery. Go over and make sure the fridge and cupboard are stocked. Make meals for him to eat when he gets home. Visit him once he is home and make sure the house is cleaned and that he is eating. If he is not eating, make food, put it in front of him, and just have a chat.

Actions speak louder than words and doing things to help him will make him feel secure.

I know with COVID that hospital visits might be difficult but, if he overnights in the hospital, make sure you are on the approved list to call in about his situation. Make sure you tell the nursing staff to relay a message that you called to ask about him.

He might have his cell phone with him. If so, call him and just talk to him.

Lastly, don't be afraid to ask certain questions. "Are you in pain?" "When will the stitches come out?" "Can I help you take a bed bath?" "Do you want me to spend the night?" "Have you thought about an urgent response button to wear while you get better?" "How long will the catheter be in?"

All of these questions will offer your friend an opening to talk about his newly missing bits.

Maybe he will expand the conversation and maybe not. Either way, he will appreciate that he is not going through this alone.

He is lucky to have a friend like you - one willing to suit up and show up for the friendship.

TMFL