I know that there is no generalization when it comes to sexual attraction but I'm curious to get opinions from any intact gay men on this forum. Over-all, would a gay man be attracted to a Eunuch? I ask because I am on the verge of attempting to revisit the same sex relationships of my youth. I have no testicles or scrotum and a small non-functional penis. I can't imagine I'd be that attractive as a potential male lover. And if I go to a gay dating site I would think that it would be something to bring up immediately to avoid wasting time.

I can't generalize from my own experience alone, but I can attest that my gay lover/now husband was initially shocked when I told him as we were having sex for the first time that I'd been castrated. He liked me and body enough that he became totally accepting very quickly. He now know the ways that sex with a eunuch is different than other gay men. Not an issue for him.

seanthomas (imported) wrote: Tue Jan 12, 2021 10:38 am I know that there is no generalization when it comes to sexual attraction but I'm curious to get opinions from any intact gay men on this forum. Over-all, would a gay man be attracted to a Eunuch? I ask because I am on the verge of attempting to revisit the same sex relationships of my youth. I have no testicles or scrotum and a small non-functional penis. I can't imagine I'd be that attractive as a potential male lover. And if I go to a gay dating site I would think that it would be something to bring up immediately to avoid wasting time.

I don't have any known gay male friends to ask but do have some acquaintances I believe are gay. I am figuring out a delicate way of confirming the sexual preference of one in particular and putting the question to him. I'm not really attracted to this fellow and would be embarrassed if he thought I was coming on to him. Then again, if he did I don't think I would be in a position to be picky about a male lover.

I had similar concerns when i was castrated. I shouldn't have had them.

Nobody will likely care.

This is an interesting thread which has a parallel with my experience of having a very rewarding relationship with a man who'd lost both testicles to cancer as a teenager. He had developed male characteristics whilst he still had his testicles but he had feminine traits as well which I found very attractive.

He wasn't in the least concerned that he could not achieve an erection, nor was I. We focused heavily on kissing and cuddling and he took a passive role to my more assertive approach.

We spent hours rubbing and caressing and he described his 'orgasm' as a mental long drawn-out rumble deep inside. I was actually jealous of his unique ability. My orgasm was too quick, too explosive with a huge emotional 'let-down' when it was so rapidly over.

Sean, I think you will actually offer something more to a potential male lover than you think or he could imagine. Like in all relationships he should be a friend first and a lover second. If I were on your side of the world I'd be happy to make you my friend! Regards Steve

as someone who's firmly enmeshed within gay culture, this is a concern that i share. as my chemical castration progresses, i am becoming more and more femme - even more than i was - and that limits meaningful romantic relationships with other gay men up to a certain extent. maybe i'll find someone who loves the me i am becoming. who can tell? one can only hope.

I can give you one opinion and perspective on this discussion as a gay man who really enjoys extra masculine men.

I ve been around lots of masculine gay men, not as many feminine gay men. Everyone has what they enjoy most and what they enjoy less in sex and socializing preferences. To each his own. I happen to get off best with super masculine men. And prefer them for my friends. I don t exclude or blow off all of the less masculine men. But most don t find me attractive in the long run. Differences do make it tougher to stay close friends or lovers if you are not seeking those differences.

But for castration or missing dicks, it still comes down to whether you like that man or not. A few men are missing one ball from accidents or medical problems. Some older men got full castrations for prostate cancer, but usually those men are shy about broadcasting that or showing it off to other men in locker rooms and showers or gay bars. When gay men find out a man is missing one or both balls, most are very curious and many are sexually aroused by that ! There is an initial flurry of curiousity and wanting him to drop his pants so everyone can see and feel his empty or missing scrotum or his solo ball and scrotum. Men will eagerly ask him a million intimate questions about it. Everything from how it happened, to how did it feel getting cut, to how it feels now, is he on replacement testosterone, and of course the biggest one, Can you get erect and have sex with your cock ? It might seem crass and invasive to ask such personal questions of a new comer. But those are of great interest to all males, straight or gay, who might lose their own balls some day. And those are vital questions to ask potential sex partners and non sexual friends alike. To know what you feel, think, and how much sexual activity you can engage in. Its not meant to be mean or inconsiderate. Its to gain information about you and how we can interact with you sexually and socially. Other men always scout out potential new sex partners by asking his own buddies about him, and asking his target s buddies about him. That is part of gay courtship and hookups. Other men expect you to be able to answer very intimate questions about your buddy s sexual preferences, his body and sex organs, his personality, his likes and dislikes, and his kinks. Its part of being in the gay community. Sharing information about potential one night stands and lovers openly and honestly with each other. It saves tons of wasted time, hurt, and effort for everyone in avoiding hookups that won t work. And it helps to avoid the hard feelings and hurt of rejection when hook up attempts fail. Its advantageous to everyone.

My opinion on the attractiveness of a man who is missing his balls or dick all depends on what I think of him as a man. Sure, ideally for sex fun, the more sex organs he has, the more I can stimulate him and give him pleasure. Pleasure in sex is the ultimate goal. Bonding and closeness as men matters a ton too. I m a top who likes to flip with versatile men. But I m mainly a bossy top by nature. So yeah, it limits my ability somewhat to give him pleasure if his primary sex organs are gone. But it does not stop sex or his desire for sex. Obviously, if he is out cruising for sex or looking for a sex partner. If he is totally non sexual, then he is probably not out in gay bars and gyms cruising for sex. It can be assumed if you are in a gay bar looking, that you want physical sex too. Most gay men will approach you sexually. That s what we are all there for.

I think castrated men are very sexually arousing ! You guys have faced down many males greatest fear and sometimes even volunteered for it ! That s fucking brave and manly ! Its immensely butch and masculine to remain a sexual male after that ! And to get out there with intact men and seek out sex and lovers and friends ! I respect and admire that tremendously. That takes alot of guts and determination and courage to do that. That is mighty masculine, brave, and very sexy ! You didn t just give up and not seek out other men and stop having great sex. You bravely stepped up and sought out what you want. No matter what any intact men might or might not think or say to you about your missing sex organs. That is pure manhood ! For you to take control and seek out your own desires like that ! I admire that and it makes my dick erect like crazy seeing men like you cruising for sex ! I find that incredibly attractive and a big turn on.

Getting you in bed, which I have been with one balled men, I will ask you a million questions and of course, I sure eagerly want to explore your body in detail, especially your sex organs. Then even as a bossy and overbearing top, I ll ask you to coach me on what you like, and what feels good to you, how your sex organs work, and what you can do with your body ? Then we explore together and fully eroticize your missing male sex parts as a rare and exciting turn on together. Seeing what we can do to get each other off the best and with the most pleasure possible for both of us.

Men who shy away or run from you, and some will, are not man enough to deal with you or give you pleasure anyway. They likely have their own fears or limitations which would make you hooking up with them fruitless anyway. Some men might back off in shock at first. Or fear of the unusual or unknown. Be sure you tell them about your body modifications before they take your clothes off. Don t surprise them. Even good men will be shocked and mess up on what they do and say if you take them off guard. Give them fore warning and let them plan out how they want to act and respond to your body mods. Surprising them might freak them out in that moment of discovery. Be kind and let them prepare their best reaction to your body mods. Give them space and time to deal with it inside their own heads.

Even if they bolt at first and take off about your body mods, give them time. Let them process your mods. If they are interested in you, they will come back later, talk to you, try to ask you very intimate questions, and figure out how they feel about you. Give them time to adjust and figure all this out. Let them decide what they want. If they want to be your friend, or your one night stand, fuck buddy, or long term lover.

Most men, even the most intelligent men, will be motivated by curiousity, novelty, fear, excitement, and sexual arousal first. Those guys will get used to you and many might drift away over time. The men who enjoy you, your personality, will stick around for the long run. But you can help them by being open with them. Letting them know that you are ok with them asking you questions and exploring your body as friends or as lovers. If you seem uptight and fearful of discussing your body modifications, men will follow your lead and shy away from what you find uncomfortable or forbidden. You need to lead and coach men on what is and is not ok to say or do with you. Do you want your mods kept a secret or can he answer interested and curious men s questions about you ? And in how much detail ? What should he keep private vs openly share about you with potential suiters ? You need to guide men on what you want and what you are comfortable with ? The more comfortable you are with your mods and men asking you about them, the more comfortable men will be with you. And be allowed and able to warm up to you.

Over time, your circle of friends and sex partners will adjust and get used to your mods and start thinking of you and treating you like all other intact men. Your unique body will fade as your personality becomes what men want the most from you. Your company and companionship is what men desire. They can find dicks and balls hanging on countless other men. Its bonding and close man to man feelings and trust and affection that are difficult to find and grow between men. Those are what we are all really seeking. Fast sex is available everywhere if that s all men want. The men interested in you are not just looking for a dick and balls. They are looking for your personality and companionship if its more than a one night stand. Huge dicks and balls, muscles, money, and handsome faces can win lots of one night stands. But men need to like your character and personality to want to spend non sexual time with you. Anyone can do empty one night stands. Bonding is what really matters. You have that and men want to be around you sex or no sex.

Sorry I talk so much. I just know you men really need worthwhile replies and honest, blunt information from intact gay men. Too few men answer you honestly. I m trying to here. I hope this helps. At least on how one butch gay man sees your body mods.