How normal is it for me, as a straight identifying male, to realize that I am becoming more "obsessed" by the male form? I'm attracted to the ladies. But, my Instagram is beginning to feature all male body builders in its suggested search -- and I'm always clicking on the posts and checking out the guys. I admit I admire hard, smooth chests and six pack abs. I'm also embarrassed to admit I think a lot of them are pretty cute and yeah I do check out their bulges.

Here's my dilemma. I'm straight, always have been. So why am I looking at these guys and having these type thoughts? Is it normal for straight guys to look at other dudes like this? I mean I'm not planning on having sex with them but I know my gf would think I was gay if she ever caught me checking these guys out.

maybe bisexual, curious, gender fluid or simply a lover of the beauty of the human body, for women is common to admire (and envy) other girls,either they are cis or trans gender, either they are straight or lesbian, I think many men admire other male bodies but they don´t show or talk about this as women do

Frida G Cavic (imported) wrote: Thu Dec 31, 2020 4:17 pm maybe bisexual, curious, gender fluid or simply a lover of the beauty of the human body, for women is common to admire (and envy) other girls,either they are cis or trans gender, either they are straight or lesbian, I think many men admire other male bodies but they don´t show or talk about this as women do

Frida G Cavic your right he is most likely one or all of the above.:)Ernie of Maine

The Maintaner (imported) wrote: Thu Dec 31, 2020 8:40 pm Frida G Cavic your right he is most likely one or all of the above.:)Ernie of Maine

or maybe no one, or maybe any other variation of the spectrum with no name. Finally each one knows oneself

Relax. Enjoying and looking at men is not gay. Having sex with only men is gay. You sound busy with your girlfriends for your sex life. And not yet bedding down with any men. So that is not gay. Its not even bisexual without actual sex with men.

You are probably just getting less brainwashed about fearing being gay or bi. And that allows you to enjoy attractive men and their male bodies which are unquestionably attractive, even to staright men. Lots of str8 men watch sports and enjoy seeing male athletes in very revealing sports clothing and performing feats with their bodies. Nobody is embarassed by how brief and revealing so many kinds of sports clothing are. You know from wearing speedos for swim team that everyone can clearly see if you are circumcised or not in most speedos. They can clearly see both balls and dicks clearly outlined in full 3 D contures and sizes and shapes. Its almost being naked in front of everyone. Most wrestling singlets are similar to speedos, especially since lots of wrestlers recently stopped wearing jockstraps and hard nut cups during matches. That team bonding that happens in locker rooms and showers with sports is definitely sexual with everyone naked. But most str8 men deny getting thrilled by being naked around lots of handsome, athletic, naked men. Just enjoy it and know that you need to have sex with only men to be gay and both men and women to be bi. Without any sex, you are just curious and enjoying the view.

Having an admiration of attractive men is not gay. Becoming obsessed with topping your record of giving head at the local glory hole every Saturday night, might be gay. For the record, I stopped counting at 300.

rogerwpbfl (imported) wrote: Thu Dec 31, 2020 4:14 pm How normal is it for me, as a straight identifying male, to realize that I am becoming more "obsessed" by the male form? I'm attracted to the ladies. But, my Instagram is beginning to feature all male body builders in its suggested search -- and I'm always clicking on the posts and checking out the guys. I admit I admire hard, smooth chests and six pack abs. I'm also embarrassed to admit I think a lot of them are pretty cute and yeah I do check out their bulges.

Here's my dilemma. I'm straight, always have been. So why am I looking at these guys and having these type thoughts? Is it normal for straight guys to look at other dudes like this? I mean I'm not planning on having sex with them but I know my gf would think I was gay if she ever caught me checking these guys out.

Rog,

You are a very secure straight man. My experience is that most men with a normal level of hormones find many things sexually exciting.

I often identify as 95% gay. But, in reality, I am gay. That doesn't mean that I've never had sex with women and it doesn't mean that I can't be impressed by the nude female body. Looking at pics of nude women and fantasizing about them doesn't make me straight - it just makes me normal.

In the same way that you have a type of male you find interesting, I have a type of woman that turns me on.

Think about your life experiences. You, as the ultra-hunky VGL stud with the biggest dick in the locker room, were most likely checked out by every other guy in gym class and on the swim team.

You were the focus of admiration (and envy) by the other guys. Keeping that in mind, it makes sense to me that you would also find checking out the competition a fun thing to do.

If you wonder how the jocks you admire would have sex with hot women, then you are way seriously straight. Straight porn, by its nature, requires that there be a penis and a vagina involved.

If you wonder how the guy's plump lips would feel to kiss or wrapped around Ranger, then you are a straight man willing to sacrifice yourself and let a gay guy enjoy blowing Ranger.

If you wonder how their nipples would taste as you slowly and with expertise lick and suck them, you are noticing that a man's smooth chest also has nips on them.

If you wonder what it would be like to kiss them after you spooge in their mouth .... um, well, geez, I might not be able to help you with that one.

Oh, and would you please pvt message me your Instagram account link? You know solely for research purposes.

Thank you everyone that commented, and @TopManFL you know me so well.

I think I look at these guys with envy not necessarily lust most of the time. But there are a few I wouldn't mind seeing full frontal or backside. I think "bi" may not be a stretch, but I'm not planning to act on it so maybe that just means straight with a "bi curiosity"? Definitely not something I'll be talking about with my gf but maybe there's one in my future where we can share our most off fantasies. Relationships grow with new discovery afterall.

Happy New Year everyone!!

I would say you're at least curious. But from my experience, and not knowing you well, when going the opposite direction as a gay man, I've found I can appreciate the female form (think from an artistic perspective), and have had a fleeting thought here and there, but I am definitely gay.

So the question is, are your thoughts more than fleeting, or might it be something more? That is a question only you can answer, but at the end it's going to be fine, no matter where you end up on the Kinsey scale. Just do you.