Sexual partners' reactions to orchiectomy and scrotectomy?

[showpony21 (imported)]

I don't consider myself to be transexual per se. I would best describe myself as gender non-conforming and androgynous (but more on the male spectrum). I don't particularly like the term eunuch due to the historical implications.

I don't plan on ever getting cross-sex hormone therapy, transitioning or undergoing GRS. However, I have always felt uncomfortable with my testicles and scrotum. They make me feel more male than I identify myself with (I don't mind the penis though).

I am planning on having an orchiectomy and total scrotectomy relatively soon through a plastic surgeon. I find the look of a thin linear scar where the scrotum once was to be very aesthetically pleasing. The smooth look from the base of the penis to the anus makes it very clear that one is modified (even more so than an empty shrunken sac).

Just to clarify, I am not doing this to fulfil a sexual fantasy/fetish but to feel more comfortable with my body.

I know the risks of castration, including weight gain, fatigue, depression, loss of libido and long-term osteoporosis (obvious infertility). Therefore, I plan on going on a small dose of testosterone replacement to maintain my health and some sexual function.

I know that many members here have had similar surgeries, so my questions are as follows:

How do new sexual partners react to the lack of testicles and scrotum? Is there a difference between male and female partners' reactions? Are most partners turned on or off, or do most simply don't care as long as they like you?

I plan on getting the surgery even if it is a turn off for most people as I am doing it for myself. However, it would be a huge plus if many people find the look as attractive as I do.

Looking at comments on images of scrotectomy seem to suggest many people find it to be a huge turn on but that sample is highly biased (as only those who are interested in the subject search for such things in the first place). Unfortunately, most scrotectomy images are of overweight middle-aged guys with pubic hair (I'm not being offensive but just stating that even if they were intact, they would not widely be considered very attractive body types).

[Begoneboy (imported)]

showponey21: Your opening remark was exactly my state of mind from early childhood up to having those removed (as well as my penis). I had never thought of or considered cross sex hormone therapy nor have I ever considered GRS surgery. Thank you for putting it so well. Nor had I even remotely thought about what others thought about what I wanted as it was for me and me alone. I did find a very good surgeon to take care of my need. And in 1994 that was no small task to accomplish. It's indeed much easier in this current era. In my case the surgeon did relocate where I peed from and I have been ever thankful for that. While what you plan and what I did are slightly different in that you intend to keep your penis. And you have thought it out far enough to understand the need for some dose of hormone to balance your health issues. That is far ahead of my thinking at the time and my congratulations on putting the thoughts together. I unfortunately had not learned enough to put that part into the equation until later and indeed I abused the process unknowingly until it was too late. So I grasped the situation and made the best of it even to this day. I am a male! You also will be a male. Of course you are seeking how others might react to the end result where I simply didn't care at the time nor the years that followed. Not that I really care now because I am just me. Yes, that neat and tidy line between the penis shaft and anus will look good to anybody who sees it objectively. Far better than so many of the botched scraggly unsightly lines seen in so many after photos. I personally like the no hair look as you seem to but remember that many like hair on others so let's not put down a look that so many have a great appreciation for.

Best of luck on continuing with your goal and stay with us and share the experience as it unfolds

[sparkey49 (imported)]

My wife and I still have the same relationship as before if anything better. You don’t like the term eunuch For myself I have no problems with it but am a proud eunuch.

[zeebster (imported)]

Unfortunately, most scrotectomy images are of overweight middle-aged guys with pubic hair (I'm not being offensive but just stating that even if they were intact, they would not widely be considered very attractive body types).

Perhaps you might find a group more sympathetic to your view of things on another forum?

This is in no way a suggestion to stay away and go somewhere else. The post was honest and non political or religious. We all have personal tastes and likes.

[catoboros (imported)]

I don't consider myself to be transexual per se. I would best describe myself as gender non-conforming and androgynous (but more on the male spectrum). I don't particularly like the term eunuch due to the historical implications.

The term "nonbinary" was a breakthrough for me in describing myself to others. Nonbinary avoids the stigma associated with the term eunuch (which I am happy with but use only judiciously), and has helped me recognise that I am transgender without the default assumption of binary and the implication of social transition. Nonbinary does come with the stigma of being associated with ridiculous people on social media, but this is easily quelled with a scary masculine gender presentation (shaved head and wraparound sunglasses do the trick for me). We also have the great Kye Rowan yellow/white/purple/black nonbinary flag.

In full, I describe myself as having a eunuch nonbinary transgender identity. I still have one atrophied nut but just cleared my psych assessment to get rid of it. I am not claiming eunuchhood until my transition is complete, just eunuch-identified. Like you, I will stay on some level of testosterone replacement for health reasons and to maintain some sexual function. I have a long-term female partner and expect little change except improvement due to removal of gender dysphoria. Women seem more accepting of genital and gender variation than men.

After your surgery, please report back on your relationship experiences.

[cboy0815 (imported)]

Was and doesn't matter for my wife.

[zeebster (imported)]

Perhaps you might find a group more sympathetic to your view of things on another forum?

This is in no way a suggestion to stay away and go somewhere else. The post was honest and non political or religious. We all have personal tastes and likes.

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