Hallo, I am a 50 yr old teacher from Germany. My husband of 45 is a eunuch, castrated recently for a medical necessity. He is very fit and healthy but no longer has any balls. Before he had his castration he was always wanting sex, since his testicles were removed he has no sex drive. For me twice a month would be fine, he liked to have sex nearly every day. For me the mismatch was very demanding, he liked me to dress up as a schoolgirl for him and wear see through g-strings and other unusual lingerie. I am a mature woman with wide hips and I found it embarassing to dress this way but I'm not a prude and happy to do it for him. I want what is best for him but am ashamed to admit that I prefer it now that he is castrated. I don't have to always be ready for sex now, he hasn't asked for sex for over 2 months. It has been a relief but I am encouraging him to take testosterone replacement for the good of his health and to keep his sexuality. I'm afraid he will soon be taking me every day again but I am hoping he will become a more considerate lover now that he is neutered. I would be very interested to hear from other women whose husbands are eunuchs how it is for them and how the hormone replacement worked. Also if there are any eunuchs who are OK about discussing their relationships I would appreciate it.

Greetings, I have been a eunuch for a couple of years and love it. I am married .We have found a way to live and love well.

I rub on a dose of Testosterone every day to keep my endocrine system functioning properly.I have given over control of my T dose to my wife. She decides how much she will apply to my back each day.If we stay with the prescribed dose I am as horney as I ever was.If I am a nuisance I get no T. After about a week or so I start getting hot flushes due to low T levels.Mostly she keeps me on a low dose. Her indicator is the presence or absence of the morning erection.Moderate T keeps me healthy but with no spontaneous erections. I can perform if required but at low T cant be bothered unless asked.Occasionally I get a few days of high doses just for my wife pleasure. Usually after that I am let slip back to a spell of hot flushes.

Take control and experiment with T doses until you have got what you want .

Have fun

Stephen

Thank you stephaniesteve1, I believe your opinion is quite correct. My intention is to look after my husbands testosterone replacement. Firstly I must look after his health but I think that it is time now for me to control his sexual desires. For 20 years I have accepted his kinky requests, now he is no longer a man he should be a sensitive lover for me. Instead of asking me to bend over the table and ramming me from behind for 2 minutes he should practice some foreplay and kiss my klitoris. Excuse me if I am being rude but this is how I feel now.

Hey @sieglinde,

You said you husband was castrated due to a medical necessity.

There are only a few medical reasons to castrate a 45 year old male.

Diseases:

Cancers like prostate cancer or testicular cancer are the most common.

The most aggressive prostate cancers can be treated with castration because testosterone is required for the cancer to spread. The desired medical result of the castration is a very low level of testosterone in the body. So, testosterone replacement would not be an option if he was castrated due to aggressive prostate cancer.

Testicular cancer is almost always only on one testicle. So, only one testicle needs to be removed. It can happen that both testicles have cancer or that one testicle is removed and the other one comes down with cancer at a later time. In that case, there is no reason not to treat with hormone replacement and all doctors would offer the treatment.

Mumps. Adult males can get mumps and the resulting damage to the testicles can require they be removed. Again, any doctor would offer testosterone replacement after the castration.

Injury:

It is possible for testicles to get injured. But, it's most common for the injury to occur in one testicle only. However, it can happen to both testicles. Again, if that was the medical reason for the castration, then testosterone replacement would have been offered.

Why was he castrated and not given testosterone replacement? The best I can think of is it must have been prostate cancer. It's the only common reason doctors wouldn't castrate and not offer testosterone replacement. If it was prostate cancer, giving testosterone would defeat the entire reason for the castration.

Hallo, my hudband had testicular cancer, he lost the left testicle in 2014 to an agressive form that didn't respond to treatment. He was perfectly OK with only one but 4 years later the same thing with the right one. It was removed 2 months ago. He was offered replacement hormones but has only just decided to take it. He is set to start next week.

As soon as he has the T gel you should take control and apply it for him.Start with much less than the prescribed dose and get him close to the minimum T level. Over time increase it until you are happy with him.You need very little T to stay healthy.My wifes test is if I have morning erections I have too much T . My test is if I cant sleep for hot flushes I need some.If I have been a good boy I may get some.

Stephen

I meant to add...enjoy being in control of your husband.As a Eunuch I love having given over control of my libido and penis to my wife.It is liberating .She also enjoys it.

Dear Sieglinde!

Always sad to hear about that shitty disease and somebody involuntarily losing his testicles. I hope everything else will turn out to the good in the future.

As to the control of the testosterone application of your husband, I have a somewhat differentiated view. As nice as the control of the sexual drive of a man by a woman might seem for some people, that clearly is a sexual fantasy, and it should, in my opinion, only be lived out on the base of informed consent and the trust being derived from that. What I mean is: If you are interested in controlling the sex drive of your husband, then he should know about it that you would like to do that, and he should consent. Of course, I do not know how kinky or not your relationship is, what you can do on the base of unspoken meta-consent, you have to judge for yourself.

If you had a problem with the intense sex drive of your husband, I think the right point to start is talking about that, that you have a problem with it, and that you have worries about the old situation coming back. In a relationship with partners caring for each other, there should be a way to rationally discuss these matters and find a solution that is acceptable for both sides.

As to some comments in this forum: I am not blaming anyone personally, but I sometimes have the feeling that some people take delight in manipulating others into doing things they themselves find erotic or sexually exciting, and that might not be the best for people asking here solely for help and understanding.

Greetings from Bavaria, kastranja.

Hallo, I haven't explained myself very well. I'm not seeking to deceive my husband, I'm looking for a compromise. Before he lost his testicles he wanted sex every day compared to my once every 2 weeks. He now shows no intetest at all and has been up to me to arrange doctors appointments etc. I want him to keep good health and avoid osteoporosis for example but I would like him to be a more considerate lover. When he lost the first testicle he was very macho with me, I think to prove his masculinity. I didn't notice any physical change, I wasn't like one testicle could only produce half the testosterone. Without his balls he has gone to the other extreme, I have tried to interest him by dressing up but with no success. I feel it's up to me to take the lead now.

I would add, that whatever the doctor prescribes is exactly what he should be taking. Its not really something that should be messed about with as hormonal balance isn't an exact science. How he feels, and what bloodwork shows will go a long way to making him feel right.