Hallo from Sieglinde

[sieglinde (imported)]

I'm a 50 year old teacher from Freiburg. My husband of 45 is a eunuch, recently castrated because of a difficult medical condition. My man always had a high sex drive, I could manage when I was younger but for over 10 years it has been very demanding for me. Since his testicles were cut off my husband has no sex drive. I am trying to support him the best I can but am ashamed to say I prefer him as a castrated male. I never had a very strong sex drive and had sex to have children. After my daughters left home I had very little interest in sex, for me 2 or 3 times a month would be OK. For him it had to be nearly every day and he liked kinky sex. Now that he's a eunuch he doesn't ask me for sex, it's a relief for me not to have to be available all the time. I have encouraged him to begin testosterone replacement as soon as he is ready for the benefit of his health, at the same time I'm scared I will go back to being his sex doll again. I would be very interested to hear from other women with castrated husbands how it was for them or from any eunuchs who don't mind to talk about their experience.

[unencumbered (imported)]

I would be very interested to hear from ...

any eunuchs who don't mind to talk about their experience.

I was castrated over five years ago. At the time, my wife had the exact same attitude as you do about sex. I was on a low dose of testosterone to maintain my mental and physical health, and have a low sex drive. It worked for us.

My wife has since passed and my girlfriend is the opposite. Now I take a high dose of testosterone.

I would suggest as his wife you accompany your man when he inquires about testosterone replacement with his physician. Discuss your legitimate concerns, including wanting to maintain the sexual compatibility that you currently now have with your husband. A female doctor might be more receptive to work with you.

Initially, his testosterone level will be monitored every three months or so to determine if he is getting the right dosage. You should be the one who administers the shots. If you find that he is beginning to get too randy for you again, you can easily lower the dosage or space the time longer between the shots. By having control over his medication, he will not be tempted to experiment by increasing the dosage on his own.

I hope this helps.

[sieglinde (imported)]

Thank you, we are going to the doctor next week. I am reading all I can on the subject.

[unencumbered (imported)]

Thank you, we are going to the doctor next week. I am reading all I can on the subject.

I would add that the higher his testosterone level, and considering both your and your man’s age difference, the more likely he might be tempted to stray and look for a younger woman, especially if you aren’t interested in satisfying him sexually to the same degree as you had when you were younger. By taking a proactive role in controlling the amount of his testosterone intake to a level that is good for you, you can both have a mutually satisfying relationship, with occasional sex, and worry less that he might want to look elsewhere for it. Too high a level would easily make him a teen again and his hormones would take over.

[unencumbered (imported)]

When you see his doctor next week, you might also ask him or her to prescribe Cialis, in addition to testosterone, so that your man can maintain an erection long enough to satisfy you and not feel himself to be inadequate if he can’t.

[sieglinde (imported)]

Thank you unemcumbered, your experience and advice is appreciated. My intention is to control my husbands hormone replacement. If I get it right it will maintain his health and he will only require sex once a week or less. If necessary I will dress as a schoolgirl if he still wants that. Now that he is a eunuch I feel I should be the dominant partner and he should try to give me some foreplay instead of just bending me over and ramming me until he comes. Excuse me for being rude again.

[unencumbered (imported)]

You will find him to be a more attentive lover, especially if you regulate his medication. As a eunuch, his own sexual satisfaction will take a back seat. Sexual release becomes less important to him. He will desire sex less often. He will be more want to satisfy you because he knows that he has to try harder to still be considered a man to you. Losing one’s testcles does have a psychological affect. If you understand it, you can take control of your sexual life with him, after years of him having control over you. Good luck!