I won’t use this thread to tell my life story and all the reasons I believe becoming a eunuch is best for me, but one of my reasons is that the desire for my castration is mutual between my wife and I. I confessed my long held secret to her a few months ago and she shocked me by telling me that she would happily support my efforts to be castrated. I won’t write a novel about it, but for her it’s a combination of intercourse having always been painful for her (she has always had vaginismus very bad, we have tried multiple treatments from her OB with no improvement over the years), and a recent confession from her that having a eunuch husband has been a fantasy of hers for a long time. Apparently she developed a fascination with eunuchs reading about them in the Bible and was excited to hear me express a desire to be one because it’s a fantasy of hers.

Anyway, with all that said, I was wondering how many of you would say your castration was a positive thing from your wife’s perspective? Would you say that your marriage has improved? I am looking forward to putting the frustration and depression behind me of the dysphoria I have long experienced of male sexuality and sex drive. Just getting it out in the open and discussing it with my wife has taken a huge burden off me. My wife is also looking forward to the same things, in addition to no more need for intercourse, reduced sex drive (even with the dysphoria I “need” sexual interaction with her way more than she wants), reduced aggression (hopefully, I have found comments on here that this varies greatly from person to person), softer, smoother skin (she hopes), and less impatience during lovemaking when we do engage in touching and stimulating her (I tend to be in a hurry, whereas she wants things slow and gentle).

So, what impact would you say castration has had on your relationship?

I guess I rambled a bit and didn’t get to the point with my question. What I want to know is whether your spouse is pleased with the changes that came with your castration?

Shepherdsflock (imported) wrote: Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:14 pm I guess I rambled a bit and didn’t get to the point with my question. What I want to know is whether your spouse is pleased with the changes that came with your castration?

Yes is the short answer. The details are more complex. I can and do still perform in bed when required but I have to be asked, I seldom need to have sex. I asked my wife to manage my Testosterone usage. Most of the time she keeps me on the minimum needed Sometimes I get a month or more with none so that I am less malefor a while. Yes we are both pleased with my status as a Eunuch

Stephaniesteve

Low T and low libido saved our marriage. In late 2005 I mentioned to my wife that we have not had sex in over eight months. She had no idea it had been that long. That started a discussion about mismatched libido. She realized I was close to leaving but she flatly refused to see a doctor about raising her libido. She asked about lowering mine. I told her I only knew of two ways, chemical or surgical castration. A few weeks later, I joined EA and researched chems. I wound up ordering a three-month trial of Depo Provera.

At first she was not convinced this would be the answer. But, two months later when my libido tanked, she was the one who first suggested we reorder and extend the trial. She had renewed interest in receiving oral. Once my erections stopped, she reached down during oral and finding my flaccid penis, I could feel her whole body relax. I probably would not of extended as the side effects were also kicking in. Every few months we extended the trial. Her support was crucial. After about a year and a half we no longer used the word trial. By then it was a way of life. After two years we switched to Androcur. Funny, she would remind me to take the pills every day.

After four years, she was concerned about long-term hormone use and suggested a permanent solution. I said that an orchiectomy could be arranged, but she said that seemed extreme. I think her guilt was showing. I simply told her I would take care of it. She said she did not want to know details. So, I started a series of ethanol injections. After over three months I told her we no longer need to take Androcure. She said "great" and gave me a big hug.

During ng this process she admitted to never liking sex and did it mainly to have kids. Looking back, this made perfect sense. But living through it was very frustrating. We became closer than ever when mismatched libido was not an issue.

Earlier this year I was having problems overheating. Not hot flashes, but general being too hot even when cold outside. I had to go on HRT. But, like Shepherdsflock, my wife has a lot to say about the dose. We keep it low enough so no overheating but not high enough to trigger my libido unless we want it.

Again, this saved our marriage!

Yes , it has been better since my gelding. I am also a lot happier

Shepherdsflock (imported) wrote: Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:14 pm I guess I rambled a bit and didn’t get to the point with my question. What I want to know is whether your spouse is pleased with the changes that came with your castration?

My girlfriend had a radical hysterectomy years ago. She thought sex was over for her. Then she met me.

As a fixed male, who uses TRT, I usually take a long time to ejaculate. This result of my castration has meant to her that I can normally last until she orgasms. She enjoys sex again, and often.

Yes ours is better as I am not so focused on an ejaculation and can focus on her. She has to get me erect because I can’t myself.

Wow, I just wrote a long post on the same subject. Different circumstances but yes to you question, castration improved both our marriage and sex lives.

Absolutely positive, and has enhanced the marriage.

She finds the absence of scrotum and balls, interesting. I have no idea as to whether this has been shared with her girlfriends. Most are Chinese and so would probably be far from accepting.

As I said earlier and many have agreed, castration has definitely improved our marital relations.

Which brings up an interesting consideration for couples once they have had children and enter or near their fifties. I’m convinced that if the average middle aged woman was fully aware of the benefit of having a eunuch for a husband, most would be clamoring to have their hubbies neutered.

As menopause is nature’s way of castrating a woman, having her man relieved of his balls and testosterone sort of “levels the playing field” as for one, there will usually be more parity in their sex drives. Then she’ll worry less about his running off with his twenty five year-old secretary or that cute waitress he’s always flirted with. He’d be calmer and less likely to get angry over petty things like her spending. He’ll put on those extra pounds around the middle just like her. The list goes on and the positives far outweigh the negatives.

Now there is one peculiar phenomenon in our post castration relationship. Once my libido diminished, hers actually increased. Perhaps this can be attributed to the fact my wife now feels more in control of when and how we have sex. Further, as she has proclaimed, I have actually become a better lover. I’m more attentive to her, never orgasm before she is finished and we both just seem to be more intimate in our lovemaking. While this may not be a universal consequence of castration, it definitely has benefited our relationship.