"Hi, I'm Lee. I am a sex addict. I need help."

"Hi, Lee".

There, I said it. Call it an out-of-controlled libido. Call it hypersexuality. Call it sex addiction. That's what I have.

I split with my ex-wife some years ago. I don't think she ever had a keen interest in sex other than for making babies, but my constant horniness and increasingly masochistic desires probably drove her to loath sex. We had not had sex together in over 10 years. As she had famously said one day when I was encouraging her to seek help for her lack of sexual desire, "Sex is not important".

When I finally moved out, she found my personal stash of erotic videos and magazines, including pages cut from Playgirl showing women dominating men. One of the last things she said to me was that I had a sexual addiction problem and should seek treatment.

I've researched sexual addiction, and I definitely feel I have it. I stockpile erotica. Much of my day is spent thinking about sex and searching for arousal on the Internet. Some days that is all I do. I spend the day in the house, naked, watching videos and searching the Internet. The other day I spent 6, 8 hours on an X-rated site, watching videos of women torturing male slaves. I'm retired, so this is not a problem with my work, but I am getting tired of it, and I can't stop.

I found a website about sexual addiction, and it had a questionnaire. There were a lot questions, and it was scored on a 0 to 20 range. The site said that most men diagnosed with sexual addiction scored six or above; I scored eleven.

Sites I've visited talk about therapy for sexual addiction. Most clinics assume it is psychological in nature, a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and treat it accordingly, with one-on-one therapy, behavioral modification, group therapy. They even administer anti-OC drugs. Only after psychotherapy fail do they try hormonal threapy, ie, chemical castration. A British site I visited says that psychotherapy is based on the wrong assumption - that hypersexuality is psychological - and is ineffective for males. Male hypersexuality, they say, is chemical in nature, due to an excess of testosterone, and psychological treatment won't work. The only effective “cure” is drugs that reduce or eliminate testosterone – chemical castration if you will.

I tried chemical castration (Cyproterone Acetate) starting about twelve years ago. It worked great. Within a few weeks, no more horniness, no more constant sexual thoughts, no more frustration. Just relief and the mythical eunuch calm. And no more problem with hypersexuality (no more sexuality, period); I've never been so happy.

I was chemically castrated for five straight years. I never wanted to go back. But I found out I needed some surgery, so I went off so I wouldn't have to tell them about the chemical castration when they asked about what medications I was taking. After surgery, I was off for another six months, but couldn't wait to go back on. I was back on it for two out of the next 3½ years. I was chemically castrated for seven years in a nine year period, But, alas, castration does have side effects. I developed osteoporosis and had to go off. I've been off for three years now.

My hypersexuality is worse than ever. I really want to go to therapy, but I don't want the phycho stuff. I know it won't work for me. I don't want to sit in a group telling them about my sexual perversions. I just want to stop the craving for sexual arousal. I want to find a treatment clinic that skips the psycho stuff and goes straight to chemical castration for treatment. I hoping for a place that will not only provide chemical castration, but treat me for the side effects of castration.

Does anyone know of such a clinic.

I was chemically castrated for at least 5 years, but did not want to take cyproterone acetate forever. I had myself surgically castrated and that was a transparent process with no sudden change...both quite effective and the chemical process was gradual. I like my approach for that reason. I love milk, always did and still drink a lot. I am expecting calcium rich food and drink will ward off osteoporosis. We shall see. Chemical or surgical castration is available without going to a clinic, and a little research should tell you what to eat or drink to help with the osteoporosis. Or, just consult your primary care physician, that's what they are there for.

I know what you feel. I was hypersexual terribly frustrated lad before chem castration. Never been happier than while I was on a castration drug. Had to drop it when I became unemployed. Have you researched whether there are (chemical?) castration options for men with osteoporosis?

Sounds like you are a good candidate for actual castration. Rather than group therapy you should look for a Dr. that will give you a referral for a surgical procedure. You would probably have to go to a few sessions with just a Dr., but based on your long time use of drug therapy it should be a slam dunk for the procedure. http://forums.eunuch.org/showthread.php ... rchiectomy this is a thread about someone getting it done, if I were you I would take this approach.

Try tamoxafin. It won't cause osteoporosis and low e can kill libido in men as well.

JessicaH (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 11, 2015 6:48 am Try tamoxafin. It won't cause osteoporosis and low e can kill libido in men as well.

Yes, I agree that this is a good option (among othes I will list below).

Okay, my castration interest is also due to my hypersexuality. After years of personal struggle and some decent counseling, I've realized that it is actually our feeling of shame about our hypersexuality that is the problem -- the real solution would be to embrace it. I came to this realization one day watching two Italian older men sitting at a table at a cafe and they were openly admiring the attractive women that went by. From my very political correct culture in the past I would have considered that behavior offensive but then I realized -- it is natural for men to be hypersexual! Our heads all turn when a pretty woman walks by and that's okay. We all masturbate several times a day and that's okay. We like porn and sleep around and that's okay.

So it might be counter-intuitive but my first suggestion is to try to embrace your hypersexuality instead of being ashamed of it. I found it also helps to pursue being more "manly" -- exercise hard, do manly things (watch combat sports, go to strip clubs, etc.). It can even help to take extra testosterone (you can order a really good cream from www.hormonesolutions.com).

I especially recommend intense exercise like martial arts or crossfit. It will change a lot about your feelings in terms of sexuality -- it will help burn off the excess energy, will quell anxiety and lift you from depression. You'll feel better about yourself, including your virility.

However, like all good things it is possible to have an actual addiction -- where you keep doing something that is harmful to you. Sexual addiction for me was harmful in many ways -- I risked my health, my relationships, my job, due to things like frequenting prostitutes. So if you're at that point, a little medication may be helpful.

Before cutting off testosterone though, you need to understand that basically our bodies run on sex hormones. Without them we have less energy, are prone to depression, lose strength, get brittle bones. Basically you're turned into a post-menopausal woman when you're castrated. So castration should be your last resort.

There are many things to try first which are far preferable. The first thing I would suggest is anti-depressants as they have the effect of both lowering libido and generally helping control compulsions. For me Celexa worked well for a number of years. Eventually it didn't work as well, but I would definitely try similar old school anti-depressants.

Next I've found that SERMs (Selective Estrogen Re-Uptake Modulators) can work quite well. I'm not sure why they work but they do -- basically you will still get horny but the horniness is more pleasant and not so much of an desperate for an orgasm anxiety-inducing feeling. They are commonly used by male body-builders to reduce estrogen that is aromatized from excess testosterone, and they are very safe. The trick is that they all work a bit differently and you should only use the ones that keep the bones strong. I recommend Raloxifene as best, and Tamoxifen as also good. You can buy both of these from xlpharmacy.com without prescription. Don't use Femara or Arimidex as long-term use will weaken your bones.

Similar to a SERM is another I'd recommend - Clomid. It is also available from xlpharmacy.com. It is taken by body builders to help keep their testicles producing testosterone (because they will shut down and shrink if you take excess testosterone otherwise). It is also very safe for long term use. You'll read that most guys will feel loss of libido when using it and this also works well for me -- it is the main thing I use currently.

I have been on the edge of castrating myself several times and have a lot of damage done. But I was lucky as I used a moderate dose of calcium chloride when I got injected and I have recovered. The reality is that I don't want to be castrated and you don't either -- you just want to have enjoyable, natural sexuality.

So, again -- first embrace your sexuality and lose any shame you have over it, second be manly and burn off your testerone with exercise and other manly endeavors, third try either SERMs or anti-depressants.

Basically it is my belief that you should only get castrated if you actually have gender identity that warrants it, or I guess if your sexuality has a criminal aspect to it (pedo, violent, etc.). Otherwise, you're a man and will enjoy your life more as a man.

Oh, another really effective one I forgot to mention is SARMs. I mention SERMs above, but SARMs may work even better. Basically they are "peptides" and quazi-legal (they're not considered a drug, but not approved for human consumption, but are available as "laboratory materials" online). I get mine from SARMS1.com. I recommend the LGD-4033. Basically when I'm taking it (like I am now), I have absolutely no urge to castrate myself and very little inclination towards sex (it seems like a chore). It has additional benefit of increasing your strength and muscle pump, so you should take advantage of that effect and hit the gym while on it for heavy strength training or cross fit training.

Definitely try SARMs or my other suggestions above before you try castration.

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