Hello all

What to first say about me...

I am a new member and first time poster. I am a happily married, bisexual male who, with my wife’s consent, has recently been considering both HRT and an orchiectomy. My first HRT appointment is coming up on 9/15 at Cedar River in Seattle, and my consult with Dr. Nguyen for the orchiectomy is in Portland on October 8th. Hopefully both will go well and I am able to proceed with these procedures. I am excited (and nervous!) about each of the appointments. It will be disappointing if the doctors do not feel I am a good candidate for either.

My motivation for these procedures is twofold. First, my wife and I no longer have similar libidos. I am very sexual and experience intense fantasies constantly and her desires for sex have dropped to virtually zero over the last couple years. Which causes quite a bit of tension, in an otherwise great marriage. Secondly, I have enjoyed crossdressing for many years and while I do not intend on transitioning full time I am excited to experience the feminizing effects of these procedures. Hopefully 39 is not too late of a start(?).

My wife is less excited about the feminizing effects. She knows I enjoy dressing up and has even gone clothes shopping with me before. But it is not the exciting experience, for her, that it is for me. She is however very excited about the reduction/loss of my constant sexual desires and the physical appearance of my having no testicles and a smaller flaccid penis. I am well endowed and often erect which is no longer attractive in her eyes. We have used a CB in the past which I think kick started her fondness of me having a “boyish” and small penis.

I have to admit I have become fond of the look a small, soft, scrotum free penis has… And it will certainly fit much nicer in panties!

There is much more to say and hopefully this was not too much for my introduction post... I will post more about myself in the future while searching for answers to my many questions!

If anyone has any advice, words of wisdom or would like to share their experiences with me please don’t hesitate to reach out and say "Hi!"

I feel fortunate to have stumbled on this forum. There looks to be a huge amount of information and a supportive network of members.

Good luck!

The only thing that I can say is if you have visited any therapist before?

Many have tried first chemicall castration with or without HRT for be sure that living in that way is what they really want to;););).

Welcome EunuVers, You will indeed find a lot of information and support here. My advice to you is to separate your 'feelings' from the reality of low or no Testosterone, the side effects of castration are severe. The younger you are the greater the risk of osteoporosis for example. I am not trying to discourage you. But you need to be sure that this is what you want. The surgery is one time event and they cannot be put back. As Freddyde has said already. Try chemical castration first you can experience what it is like and if it is not what you imagined you can stop and in a few weeks or months you will bounce back.

A sensible person would spend time reading this forum, asking questions and then taking considered steps.

I wish you well and hope you get safely to your destination

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EunuVers (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 13, 2014 11:32 am First, my wife and I no longer have similar libidos. I am very sexual and experience intense fantasies constantly and her desires for sex have dropped to virtually zero over the last couple years. Which causes quite a bit of tension...

Yes, this is the problem in most marriages. Most married men are sexually frustrated because their wives loose interest. The youthful sexual exploration is something of the past and men have to deal with their intense libido's.

No wonder so many men seek castration.

Hi and good luck I think a lot of us on here have had the same sort of problems, I to am happily married but found that I was having to do it my self 4 to 5 times a day I grew to hate my nuts and the best thing I ever did was to get rid of them and the second best thing was to loose my scrotum. I love being a eunuch. We are all on here to help each other in any way we can.