I'm in wonderful four-year relationship, but I really want to be castrated and can't get the nerve to talk to my husband about it. We have a good sex life, and and a wonderful marriage. I've mentioned my "fascination" with castration and eunuchs, and how it really turns me on, but I've never shared my very personal thoughts that I just want to be castated. I'm almost certain that my better half would be supportive, but I fear rejection. I'd prefer to continue in a happy relationship than be castrated, but the best case scenario would be to have both.

Any advice on how to get the nerve to ask "I want to go to Dr. Arnkoff and be castrated, will you support me in it"?

I am not sure if there is a warning about taking relationship advice from tugon but there should be. If you are castrated and do not take HRT you may lose physical interest in your partner. He may find himself less attracted due to the changes you will go through. I had a relationship that had failed three times through the years. The last time we had talked about trying again I was a eunuch. He commented that I was not "as hungry as before". As a eunuch he thought I would have the same physical desires but had no idea of my new emotional needs. You may change in ways you can not predict and what you tell him may happen may be different than what does. I think the important questions is what do you value most your relationship or being a eunuch? Wish you the best.

Tell the Partner? I think you must. Is it comfortable? Probably not, but as partners, you're not worth much unless you can. -Or shelve any idea of being a eunuch for ever.

We are a little different, maybe, as I am usually on regular TRT, and so I appear and function much as my spouse would expect, even if there are no nuts. My spouse has been with me before, during and after losing the nuts, so there are no secrets.

I can't imagine any way but to share; she even knows how I am when TRT was stopped for a while, and still she stays around!

Choosing the partner is more important than choosing the nuts. Hope it's good for you.

Hello dvdbll,

I've followed your posts on the Calcium Chloride thread.

It would seem from your postings that your balls are dead. Wouldn't your partner already be aware that you've changed physically?

While I'm not currently in a relationship, I found it quite easy to speak with my ex-partner about my own journey toward losing my balls. Mine are dying in the sack. We've remained close friends and he's been very supportive of me wanting to lose them.

Relationships change over time. The only constant, in my view, is honesty.

R.H.

The problem as other people have said is the fantasy of castration and the actual effect on your body and mind are very different. The main problem is already being mentioned, there are all sort of reasons while you and your partner may separate, how do you explain being a eunuch to another potential partner.

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Ricky177 (imported) wrote: Tue Dec 31, 2013 1:51 am ow do you explain being a eunuch to another potential partner

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In a heterosexual relationship, I would say that although I have no balls, I can still satisfy her sexually when she wants it. Most older women don't care if their man doesn't have balls, especially if his penis still works. As a matter of fact, many older women would welcome a man without balls since it means that he would not pester them for sex all the time and that they will never have to face his getting prostate cancer. Often for older women it's the relationship that matters and not the sex anyway.

dvdbll (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 30, 2013 6:45 pm I'm in wonderful four-year relationship, but I really want to be castrated and can't get the nerve to talk to my husband about it. ...

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From r1honour's comment below, it seems that you already have physical issues with your testicles. I would tell your spouse that you have health concerns about them and want to have a urologist take a look at them to see if anything's wrong. That might be the first step.

i spoke to my wife and she is quite happy with that idea , she even wants to talk to the urologe and supports me right though. i am in a chastity belt at all times , her and my wish , after castration i can leave my belt for good she says .next moth is our appointment with the urologe ... reg. GWENY

It sounds to me like you have little to worry about. I killed mine off with vodka then they were removed for medical reasons, because it was for medical reasons (she knows nothing of the vodka) my wife was fine about it and has supported me all the way with some ups and downs, I take a low dose of T which keeps me on a very low libido almost nil but again that's fine for both sides. I wish I had the courage to tell here the truth at the start but we are now both very happy with the out come so no harm was done.

Good luck.

Hi unencumbered,

I really liked your answer. '

unencumbered (imported) wrote: Tue Dec 31, 2013 7:30 am Often for older women it's the relationship that matters and not the sex anyway

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Perhaps that's what we are all looking for in are own way, acceptance for what we are.