Hello,
I want to become a Eunuch but am scared to tell my family. In a ideal world, I would not tell anyone and just continue to live my life as it is but I feel the physical changes will be abit of a give away!
I've tried looking for eunuch videos on the internet but the only ones I can find are eunuchs who have a desire to dress like a female
I'm a straight male who wants to remain looking the same
how did you tell your family?
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mikemorgan (imported)
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Re: how did you tell your family?
How to answer for a complete stranger? I don't know, but maybe this will help. I got done after many years of urological visits, to be done with pain and discomfort. The Mrs was ok as long as the family pickle remained in fine working order. It does, she's happy, and I have no pain. There's the 2-weekly injections of T, but that's a small price for otherwise being very happy the way I am. I guess the key is you gotta share this stuff, and if the result is good for your partner, then maybe there is not so much to worry about. I am sure my partner acts strange sometimes, and I suspect she thinks the same of me. We're all a little stange in one way or another, and not a bad thing either. Better to share than hide, and address the issues -if they arise at all. Good luck, and find happiness, carefully.
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Re: how did you tell your family?
I never told my family and as far as I'm concerned it's none of their business. Nobody has asked, nobody has said anything, and I won't be saying anything. The last time someone in my family saw me naked has been since the 1980's, at least.
I think you're worrying too much about it because there is no need to tell anyone if you don't want to. The only person/people who should be concerned at all about are your doctor and your significant other if you have one. Nobody else is important when it comes to your being a eunuch, you're the only one who truly counts and you're the one that will be living in that castrated body for the rest of your life. If you're fine with it, then that's all that matters.
--LT
I think you're worrying too much about it because there is no need to tell anyone if you don't want to. The only person/people who should be concerned at all about are your doctor and your significant other if you have one. Nobody else is important when it comes to your being a eunuch, you're the only one who truly counts and you're the one that will be living in that castrated body for the rest of your life. If you're fine with it, then that's all that matters.
--LT
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JesusA (imported)
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Re: how did you tell your family?
Your question is not nearly so simple as you may think....
1) A frequent finding reported over at least the past 2,500 years has been that loss of testosterone in someone who was male at birth can lead to an intense desire for nurturing. In the modern world this can lead to anything from a desire to care for children (one's own or others) to the taking in of stray dogs and cats. You are still young and you need to bank sperm before continuing any further. Odds are you won't want it, but it's better to take no chances and this should be done before attempting even a trial run with chemical castration. You want to preserve the healthiest sperm you can provide.
2) You probably already know adult males who have been castrated. You just don't know who they are as they blend into the general population and generally do not tell friends or family (other than their spouse or partner). Castration is a standard treatment for prostate cancer and there are over 600,000 castrated prostate cancer patients in the United States. There are probably a proportionate number in the UK. That would be about 120,000 men. A majority of them are on chemical castration, though an increasing number are being surgically castrated. A recent Danish study of over 11,000 castrated prostate cancer patients found serious health risks with the long-term use of the chemicals, compared to surgical castration, and surgical is also less expensive in the long run than chemical. The Danish study included 9,204 chemical eunuchs and 2,060 surgical eunuchs. (Jespersen, Nørgaard & Borre, 2013)
3) The most important LONG-TERM problems following castration are depression and osteoporosis. You will need to guard against both, whether you are on chemical castration or have had surgery. PCa eunuchs are about as likely to die of complications of osteoporosis as they are of the prostate cancer once they have been castrated. You may need to consider a low dose of either testosterone or estrogen for bone protection. (PCa patients don't have the option of taking testosterone, though they can use small doses of estrogen.)
4) Getting proper help through the NHS in the UK will not be easy, though you might want to print out and carry with you the recent Trans Mental Health Study 2012. There's a brief description and address to download it posted at:
http://www.eunuch.org/forums/showthread ... -in-the-UK
One of the key findings of the study was that among trans-folk in the UK, 40% self-described as clear Male-to-Female, 25% as clear Female-to-Male, and 35% as a variety of other categories. You could probably argue that you fall logically into that 35% category. Male-to-NotMale is even given as one of the examples, though it was not termed "Male-to-Eunuch" as we've been using here.
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Jespersen, CG, Nørgaard, M, & Borre M. (2013). Androgen-deprivation Therapy in Treatment of Prostate Cancer and Risk of Myocarial Infarction and Stroke: A Nationwide Danish Population-based Cohort Study. European Urology. [Epub ahead of print: doi: 10.1016/j.eururo.2013.02.002]
1) A frequent finding reported over at least the past 2,500 years has been that loss of testosterone in someone who was male at birth can lead to an intense desire for nurturing. In the modern world this can lead to anything from a desire to care for children (one's own or others) to the taking in of stray dogs and cats. You are still young and you need to bank sperm before continuing any further. Odds are you won't want it, but it's better to take no chances and this should be done before attempting even a trial run with chemical castration. You want to preserve the healthiest sperm you can provide.
2) You probably already know adult males who have been castrated. You just don't know who they are as they blend into the general population and generally do not tell friends or family (other than their spouse or partner). Castration is a standard treatment for prostate cancer and there are over 600,000 castrated prostate cancer patients in the United States. There are probably a proportionate number in the UK. That would be about 120,000 men. A majority of them are on chemical castration, though an increasing number are being surgically castrated. A recent Danish study of over 11,000 castrated prostate cancer patients found serious health risks with the long-term use of the chemicals, compared to surgical castration, and surgical is also less expensive in the long run than chemical. The Danish study included 9,204 chemical eunuchs and 2,060 surgical eunuchs. (Jespersen, Nørgaard & Borre, 2013)
3) The most important LONG-TERM problems following castration are depression and osteoporosis. You will need to guard against both, whether you are on chemical castration or have had surgery. PCa eunuchs are about as likely to die of complications of osteoporosis as they are of the prostate cancer once they have been castrated. You may need to consider a low dose of either testosterone or estrogen for bone protection. (PCa patients don't have the option of taking testosterone, though they can use small doses of estrogen.)
4) Getting proper help through the NHS in the UK will not be easy, though you might want to print out and carry with you the recent Trans Mental Health Study 2012. There's a brief description and address to download it posted at:
http://www.eunuch.org/forums/showthread ... -in-the-UK
One of the key findings of the study was that among trans-folk in the UK, 40% self-described as clear Male-to-Female, 25% as clear Female-to-Male, and 35% as a variety of other categories. You could probably argue that you fall logically into that 35% category. Male-to-NotMale is even given as one of the examples, though it was not termed "Male-to-Eunuch" as we've been using here.
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Jespersen, CG, Nørgaard, M, & Borre M. (2013). Androgen-deprivation Therapy in Treatment of Prostate Cancer and Risk of Myocarial Infarction and Stroke: A Nationwide Danish Population-based Cohort Study. European Urology. [Epub ahead of print: doi: 10.1016/j.eururo.2013.02.002]
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Re: how did you tell your family?
I never told my family and only a few of my friends. I was castrated 12/06/97 and all was going well until the Christmas Holiday. My younger sister's dog almost outed me. The dog was visiting with everyone when he got a sniff of my drainage. Two people had to pull him away and placed in the basement. I could tell some had questions but were kind not to ask. I survived the event and never had to share.
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Re: how did you tell your family?
Not that it makes any difference, I told my ex-wife and in turn she told our kids, with my permission. No Secrets, the brutal truth let the chips fall where ever.
It has made it much easier for me as two of my sons have joined the MOM event and look forward to it, good fellowship and good food.
I can understand why a person would want to keep such a secret, I picked a different route, tell everybody, no secrets, no lies.
River
It has made it much easier for me as two of my sons have joined the MOM event and look forward to it, good fellowship and good food.
I can understand why a person would want to keep such a secret, I picked a different route, tell everybody, no secrets, no lies.
River
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Re: how did you tell your family?
If certain family members found out I'd likely not care, I just never felt compelled to tell anyone.
It's kind of like my being gay... I don't bring it up. If someone asks, I'm honest. But if I tell everyone I meet that I'm gay as one of the first things they hear from me then that's all I am to them. It the difference between being only gay/eunuch, and it simply being a trait.
My advice is just be yourself and do what you feel you need to do. You can tell the world, or you can tell no one. It's all up to you. Whichever you choose, life goes on.
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It's kind of like my being gay... I don't bring it up. If someone asks, I'm honest. But if I tell everyone I meet that I'm gay as one of the first things they hear from me then that's all I am to them. It the difference between being only gay/eunuch, and it simply being a trait.
My advice is just be yourself and do what you feel you need to do. You can tell the world, or you can tell no one. It's all up to you. Whichever you choose, life goes on.
--LT
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Re: how did you tell your family?
Many of the older people in my family knew of my testicle issues for years, cause they changed me when I was a kid.Since the actual deed was done, I have not gone around talking about it, and did not send out a mass mailing to all i know announcing it. Some of my closer relatives are aware cause they were around during the recovery process.
Most of my friends know, and it is a moot point. They either could care less, or they ask a few questions, and then it just becomes part of who i am .When I was dating, I did make it known up front, before any sexual activity could come, so that those who could not deal with it had a very easy way to bow out without an embarrassing scene in the bedroom. I have had a few of those, and it is just easier to be up front than do that.
Most gay men do not seem to care at all, and if anything are intrigued by a guy with no balls who gets rock hard. Yes I use HRT and would not give it up. I do accept that there are others who seek not to have T in their system, and that does induce some physical changes , and can cause depression. Nothing so glaring that it is a red flag to the population, but changes still.
Only you know the people that are close to you. You must make judgements about them on an indvidual basis. Some you will be easily able to tell , and others you surely know you can never tell.
Use good judgement, and do what feels right for you
Raymar
Most of my friends know, and it is a moot point. They either could care less, or they ask a few questions, and then it just becomes part of who i am .When I was dating, I did make it known up front, before any sexual activity could come, so that those who could not deal with it had a very easy way to bow out without an embarrassing scene in the bedroom. I have had a few of those, and it is just easier to be up front than do that.
Most gay men do not seem to care at all, and if anything are intrigued by a guy with no balls who gets rock hard. Yes I use HRT and would not give it up. I do accept that there are others who seek not to have T in their system, and that does induce some physical changes , and can cause depression. Nothing so glaring that it is a red flag to the population, but changes still.
Only you know the people that are close to you. You must make judgements about them on an indvidual basis. Some you will be easily able to tell , and others you surely know you can never tell.
Use good judgement, and do what feels right for you
Raymar