Page 1 of 4

Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2011 6:47 pm
by NZAndy1990 (imported)
Hey guys!

I'm a 21 year old bisexual male who enjoys thinking about castration, either of myself or of another male, as a sexual fantasy. My problem is, I'm very comfortable being an intact male, but when I come on sites like this and read stories about men who have lost their genitals through accidents, I get very very upset. I feel like I've dealt with a lot of my feelings about fetishizing castration, and I understand why I like thinking about it, and the social and emotional connotations that it carries for me that make it such a turnon, and I feel that I should be able to acknowledge and fantasise about that, but at the same time, when I read about how some men lose their genitals and then lose all hope for life, I sort of put myself in their position and it absolutely fills me with terror.

I also get upset sometimes when I read about guys who have gotten castrated to reduce sex drive. I think it's just because I have a very high sex drive, and somewhere in my mind I'm thinking "Oh god, I'm a real horndog, just like these guys used to be, maybe my life is as bad as theirs was, maybe I need to be fixed." I don't have these thoughts outside of this site, and I'm normally perfectly happy with and proud of my sex drive, but when I'm here and read testimonials they all start. I guess I just am very empathetic and keep trying to put myself in the shoes of the people on here.

I don't know exactly what I'm hoping people will tell me on here, but I think just typing about my feelings and discussing them with people will help. I have a real life friend who I can talk to about this, and she's great and tells me not to worry, but I think having my fears calmed by people who are either just like me, or conversely who are different to me and feel they were born eunuchs, or have had castration for other legitimate reasons, or stories of people who deal with unintended castration and come out the other side fine, might help me sooth this big churning mess of feelings.

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2011 8:10 pm
by JesusA (imported)
Hello Andy,

Welcome to the zoo. Look around; you'll find many others asking exactly the same sort of questions that you have. This is a friendly and comfortable space. Just remember that while everyone deserves an active fantasy life, there is a clear, and necessary, distinction between fantasy and reality. I hope you enjoy your stay here and return often to take part in the discussions.

J.

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2011 9:21 pm
by Cainanite (imported)
Welcome. Believe us, we understand. The fantasy can be one thing, the reality can be something completely different.

Whatever brought you here, you are welcome. We have all kinds here, and if you read and appreciate the stories, then you belong here as well as most, even if that is your only reason.

This is a great site, because it provokes us to see beyond the fantasy, while still embracing the fantasy. I think there have been many days where this site has saved someone, who was about to take the fantasy too far, and do something they'd regret the rest of their lives. Showing someone the reality of something is very powerful, Just as fantasizing can be very cathartic. It is always important not to confuse the two.

I like to fantasize I have the powers of Spiderman. It is an enjoyable fantasy. As enjoyable as it is, I'm not looking for radioactive spiders, or trying to leap off the nearest skyscraper with my home made web-shooter. If I ever went that far into my fantasy, I hope someone would talk me down before I did something VERY stupid.

It is good you know that castration is not for you. It is good you recognize that the fantasy is not the reality. Putting limits on your imagination is no fun. Luckily you can live as rich and enjoyable fantasy life as you wish. You can be castrated in your fantasy as many times as you wish. In reality, you can only do it once. One time, and a lifetime of regret isn't something I'd wish on you.

Stick around and enjoy your fantasies. You're not hurting anyone. The people on this site are fantastic, and kind. We'll never judge you for what goes on in your imagination. We welcome it. We welcome you.

The EA is a safe place for people like you, and people like me equally.

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2011 10:51 pm
by justjustin (imported)
Hello Andy, you sound a lot like me. Exciting to think about, but keep that knife well away, thank you!

I dont get upset reading some of the things here, but sometimes, it is uncomfortable. I've been looking for the milder stories, even some in normally published books, though there's not many like that. And sometimes I just read story after story when I should be doing other things.

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2011 1:26 am
by punkypink (imported)
Not that I want to scare of course, but have you read this story?

https://eunuchworld.co/s5492

It is based somewhat on a true story, and is worth reading.

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2011 1:46 am
by loveableleopardy (imported)
Andy - while it can be greatly argued that there isn't really a norm in society, I think that you would be close to the norm on the EA, so partly for that reason, I think that you can feel very comfortable on these boards. A lot of members fantasise about losing their member (and/or rocks)!

The male sex drive can be a great life driver/motivator for some men; though I don't believe that it has to be alive to motivate everyone. For many men sex or masturbation is the worthwhile reward after a hard weeks work, etc, so I can sort of understand your comment "lose all hope for life."

I really think that it is perfectly fine that you are happy and proud of your apparently high sex drive. There is not neccessarily a great deal wrong with it. I think it depends on the lives we lead, the people we meet. I could be just as proud as you of my sex drive, though I'm not disappointed that I'm not. I am happy with the conclusions that I have arrived at about what is best for me. Most people on these boards believe that everyone is unique; I hope you will be treated as such.

Despite me labelling you as the "norm." Well, I do like to contradict myself sometimes :-)

Use being anonymous (except for to your friend) as a positive. I have found that just rambling out my feelings can help. Try not to feel too embarrassed about anything that you post on here.

I don't read the stories or take part in the chat room (which might be 60% of the EA?), but still get a lot out of just taking an interest in the message boards.

Not that there's anything wrong with reading "story after story." Justin, I should take a leaf out of your book (pardon the pun) and read more fiction.

Cainanite, your message is lovely and I'm sure as warm a welcome as anyone could offer. And there's nothing wrong with spiders or men. Just don't let anyone talk you down when your already half way up the side of that skyscraper ;)

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2011 1:50 am
by loveableleopardy (imported)
What is the title or who is the author of this story Punky? I cannot find it as it just takes me to the index.

But anyway, it gives me an excuse to copy a link to my sole contribution :-)

https://eunuchworld.co/s12926

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2011 3:01 am
by Cainanite (imported)
...
loveableleopardy (imported) wrote: Fri Nov 04, 2011 1:46 am Cainanite, your message is lovely and I'm sure as warm a welcome as anyone could offer. And there's nothing wrong with spiders or men. Just don't let anyone talk you down when your already half way up the side of that skyscraper ;)

Half way up a skyscraper? Leave it to me to choose the one skyscraper without an elevator. I'd be half-way up and need to take a nap. I am pretty far from physically fit. Half-way up and I'd need to call the fire department with their ladder truck myself. Though I admit, I'd be an awesome sight in that blue and orange leotard.

Lazyman, Lazyman,

Does whatever a lazy guy can

Spins a tale, any size,

Catches twinkies just like flies

Look Out!

Here comes the Lazyman.

Is he hungry?

Listen bud,

He's got low blood sugar in his blood.

Can he swing from a thread?

Don't bother looking overhead.

Not at all.

There sits the Lazyman.

In the chill of night

At a drive-through near you

Like a streak of molasses

He arrives eventually.

Lazyman, Lazyman

Friendly neighborhood Lazyman

Wealth and fame

He's ingnored

Sitting still is his reward.

To him, life is a great big buffet

Whenever there is nothing to say,

You'll find the Lazy man!!!

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2011 3:06 am
by NZAndy1990 (imported)
I'm aware that some of you may have seen me lurking down the bottom of the page for quite a while since I posted this, and rest assured I will be replying soon to all of your wonderful and encouraging posts! :)

However, for the next two hours I have to slay monsters in a mythical land of fantasy with my friends. Like a normal Thursday night.

See you all soon.

Re: Hi everybody! New to Eunuch Archive and in need of advice.

Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2011 3:09 am
by Cainanite (imported)
NZAndy1990 (imported) wrote: Fri Nov 04, 2011 3:06 am I'm aware that some of you may have seen me lurking down the bottom of the page for quite a while since I posted this, and rest assured I will be replying soon to all of your wonderful and encouraging posts! :)

However, for the next two hours I have to slay monsters in a mythical land of fantasy with my friends. Like a normal Thursday night.

See you all soon.

Glad to see you're still around. Have fun slaying those monsters. Roll a natural D20 for me, okay? ( Sorry, I'm old school table-top D&D)