Ok so I am losing sensitivity in my penis and i want it back I can't cum during intercourse and it really sucks. What can I do? Is it possible that my jerking off three or more times a day is doing it? Also I lose my rigidity mid intercourse only sometimes though what the hell is wrong with me and how can I fix it? I have none of these problems when I masturbate. Help me please.

Buster316 (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 17, 2011 6:39 pm Ok so I am losing sensitivity in my penis and i want it back I can't cum during intercourse and it really sucks. What can I do? Is it possible that my jerking off three or more times a day is doing it? Also I lose my rigidity mid intercourse only sometimes though what the hell is wrong with me and how can I fix it? I have none of these problems when I masturbate. Help me please.

Sounds frustrating. Never having had a penis, I asked my hubby what he'd suggest. Here's what he advised:

Tell us more about your activities and your age. Have you tied rubber bands around the base of your penis or around your scrotum? Applied any substances to your penis? Has it or your testicles suffered any physical trauma? Are you getting enough sleep? How's your general health? Do you have any chronic ailments like diabetes or high blood pressure?

If you're under 40 and none of the things above apply, he suggests you're probably just masturbating too much and/or watching too much porn. On the other hand, he figures he's doing quite well if he can can climax more than once a day, so your expectations may be too high. He suggests that if you haven't done anything to damage your penis or testicles, stopping any attempt at stimulating yourself altogether for several days (and not viewing any porn during that time) may restore sensitivity. The older you get, the longer it takes to reload. He also notes that expecting failure during sex can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Get plenty of sleep before sex. And if you're over 40, get used to not being able to do what you used to. As he put it, getting old is when it takes all night to do what you used to be able to do all night.

Another thing: Some medications can affect your ability to perform. Check with your doctor about sexual side effects if you're taking any.

We're also curious about how adventurous your wife might be. For example, would she be receptive to oral sex?

In any event, don't rush to get a penectomy just yet, even if you've damaged your equipment, as some damage can be fixed. Good luck.

Sandi

Buster316 (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 17, 2011 6:39 pm Ok so I am losing sensitivity in my penis and i want it back I can't cum during intercourse and it really sucks. What can I do? Is it possible that my jerking off three or more times a day is doing it? Also I lose my rigidity mid intercourse only sometimes though what the hell is wrong with me and how can I fix it? I have none of these problems when I masturbate. Help me please.

Just a suggestion or two: first, stop jacking so much and see if that helps. Your profile says you're 22 so that may be difficult. Second, if you are jacking into a tight dry fist then I suggest you change how you are doing it. Apply lube and slow down and loosen the grip. Also, getting some exercise may help as well to strengthen core muscle groups to aid in blood flow. I'm almost forty and diet and exercise restored my erections to twenty-something strength.

Hope this helps.

I am having the same complications as you- loss of sensation and inability to maintain erection through intercourse. Of course I have banded my genitals (both penis and testicles) and even encased it in ice once to undergo one of my modifications (meatotomy). Also had a urethral relocation performed on me.

That being said, I believe many of the arteries leading to my genitals have been severely damaged and I am now looking into having a procedure called "Penile Artery Bypass Surgery". I'll give you more information as I visit my doctor to get more questions answered about it.

My first instinct is have your blood sugar checked with a fasting test AND an HBA1C test.

Any problems with numbness in fingers and/or toes?

I am diabetic, and I do have some loss of sensation in the genitals. Not that I use them for much.

I strongly agree with all the medical possibilities mentioned here. Any of these could be the problem. You might also consider a psychological issue - that the physical and emotional stimulation you enjoy during masturbation is greater than what you experience during intercourse.

When masturbating, you can touch yourself in just the way that feels best. You can fantasize about whatever most turns you on. Neither is true of intercourse, when you are touched by another person in mutual give and take, and your experience is real, rather than imagined. For intercourse to be satisfactory, both you and your partner need to be sensitive to the other, especially the many non-verbal cues about what gives pleasure. You need to be strongly attracted to your partner, who must also find you attractive. Intercourse is a social act, done with another person. Masturbation is the opposite. For some men, masturbation may offer more direct and immediate gratification than intercourse, especially if their intercourse mimics masturbation, i.e., if they are masturbating on someone else's body rather than engaging in intimacy with another person. Take stock of your intercourse. Is it real intimacy, or are you just rubbing your penis on someone? The two things are very different. Both can be enjoyed, but don't short-circuit one by wrongly comparing it to the other.

Again, look at all the medical possibilities first. But if, as you say, you can masturbate several times a day, it seems your penis is working, so psychology may hold the answer for you. Best of luck.

I suppose I might toss in my zero cents worth...

Yes, there might be medical issues at work, conditions that have been at sub-clinical level, yet are now becoming clinically significant, and, if affordable, a decent clinical work-up might be very wisely done.

However, the ability to masturbate three times a day strongly suggests to me another possibility, one grounded in the nature of the physiology of human male sexuality. Genetic diversity exists, and genetic expression diversity exists.

There are studies available on the Internet, including on Wikipedia, about human male sexual physiology. There are spinal reflexes for both erection and ejaculation, some sacral, some lumbar, some thoracic, and these reflexes are, to some extent, under cortical modulation.

One item I found in the medical/biological sexual physiology literature decades ago is of the cortical modulation of sexual reflexes. Under ordinary (non-sexually-stimulating) conditions, the main cortical input to the spinal ganglia which are the spinal reflex centers is inhibitory. This may have a profound effect if, in trying to get an erection or orgasm, the effort of trying results in increased cortical inhibition of sexual reflexes.

Just as there is a sexual clock in typical women, the estrous cycle of approximately a lunar month, there is also a sexual clock in typical men, one driven by hormones and accumulated results of hormone activity (distension of the seminal vesicles being one possibility?), and the male sexual clock is what drives, in many men, nocturnal emissions in the absence of any other way to reset the sexual clock.

Masturbation resets the male sexual clock rather well, at least in my own pre-orchiectomy experience. As a college student, with a challenging test coming up the next day, I found I did a lot better on tests if I got a good night's sleep (meaning one not interrupted by a wet dream), and so, having my main interest a the time being doing well on college class tests, would "manually" reset my sexual clock so as to do better on tests in college. It seems that, if I reset my sexual clock no less often than 4 or 5 days, I got a good night's sleep and did well on tests.

Even in the 1950s, there were college students who talked about such things in "bull sessions." So, I learned that some of my classmates had sexual clocks that seemingly had a cycle of 2 days or less. Biological diversity at work?

Back to the physiology. If one masturbates so often as to never activate the spinal reflex or nearly activate it, that might result in needing exceptional cortical avoidance of sexual reflex inhibition, such that being in the presence of another person could interfere with the degree of reflex inhibition suppression necessary for orgasm and ejaculation.

That would, in my mind, raise the question as to whether such frequent masturbation as you have reported might be of an effort to relieve psychological tension not of an actually sexual nature, in which case, I would wonder whether such frequent masturbation could be a form of psychological displacement (or, to use an emotionally-charged term, sexual addiction) the improvement of which might very well be something usefully resolved with effective psychotherapy.

Keep in mind, please, that all that I have here written is, at best, mere guessing.

Okay, first of all masturbation doesn't numb your penis no matter how much you do it. In fact, in my experience masturbation makes you able to orgasm more easily because you learn how to focus on the building sensations and basically train yourself to orgasm more "efficiently". Orgasm does have a refractory period, meaning it might make it less sensitive for up to a couple hours after, but that isn't a general numbness.

The first thing I would ask is whether you monitor your free Testosterone levels. As people age, those go down naturally (quite a bit) and the lower the T the less sensitive your penis will be. I know because I often take steroids and your penis will become so sensitive with extra T that you can't even walk around without constant erection (I can't even go to a mall or something).

The other things can be seratonin levels. If you are taking any anti-depressant, then what you describe is a common side effect -- most people taking SSRIs experience delayed or lack of ability to orgasm.

The refractory period is caused by prolactin, and there are gland problems including certain cancers that can cause excess prolatin and therefore inability to get erections -- you'll constantly feel like you just orgasmed which might be kinda nice except it means that you won't be able to perform sexually.

Diabetes is another one, although usually that affects a lot of your body -- like your fingers start losing sensation too.