I've studied a bit about the Hijras, I've seen the many topics and the advertisements, and I still need help with this one. I know that Hijras(Indian 'Nullified' Eunuchs), for example, often marry men...

Can any Eunuch here tell me if they have had fulfilling sexual

relationships, that is to say fulfilling interpersonal relationships with a sexually active individual including sexual congress of any sort that meets the sexually active person's needs, following castrations? Slaves serving under an intact master or mistress are certainly included in this definition as is anyone in any relationship with a sexually/genitally intact male or female who is fulfilling their sexual needs in the context of an ongoing relationship. Define 'relationship' in any way that pleases you.

In essence, due to the number of people who seem fetishistically interested in this, I'd like to know if active sexuality actually does exist post-surgically?

Please reply by email if possible. Reply to user name "ra"... Yes, Sun God, Sun God, He's a really fun god... at speakeasy.org.

gwendolyn (imported) wrote: Tue Jun 18, 2002 1:43 pm In essence, due to the number of people who seem fetishistically interested in this, I'd like to know if active sexuality actually does exist post-surgically?

This is another of those YMWV thingies. (YMWV = Your Milage Will Vary.) Those castrated in their 20s and 30s can often be active sexually, even if at a reduced level of activity. As a general rule, the older you are at castration, the more likely you will wind up asexual. The longer you are a eunuch not on HRT, the more likely you will wind up asexual. Your adrenal glands still produce testosterone, although only at 5 - 10 % of pre-castration levels, but after awhile this does not seem to be enough.

In my case, castrated at age 56, I went from masturbating once or twice a day (plus other activities) to total asexualization two months after castration.

I would advise anyone to make their replies on the board only at this point in time.

Thank you.

So tell me, why would you think that one could not have a meaniful relationship just because they are a eunuch?

In our world today many women have had hysterectomies and ooverectomies. This does not change their relationships. It stands to reason then that if your relationship is built primarily on sex then lose the sex and there is trouble.

On the other hand, eunuchs have been used as harem guards in history. It is a documented fact that they retain some capacity for sex. They also had sex with the ladies of the harem unless they were completely nullified. Even then they could stimulate someone sexually if they chose to do so. Of course, no offspring occurs from sex with a eunuch.

I can quote book sources if you are interested. Just ask.

A-1

As this seems to be a delicate subject for some, I'll attempt to reiterate my request in a way that, I hope, will not be quite as disturbing.

I am aware, through my research on cultural history, that sexual and romantic relationships occur with those males who have been physically altered in varying degrees. I would like to speak with a person who is in this position, so that I may finally have a modern example of the phenomenon that does not require me to learn Hindi or Urdu in order to initiate a conversation.(1) I do not seek information on modern male-to-female transsexuals, who's interpersional relationships are well-documented and easily observed by me in person, but instead direct my question to the topic of those individuals who, born male, have undergone a process of modification not including feminization, thus retaining a sexual identity other than that of a 'traditional'(2) female.

If you are within this category and are interested in a brief interview, either by email or on this message board, about a personal relationship within this purview, past or present, then I shall look forward to your response with gratitude. If you are interested in speculating on my undisclosed personal beliefs or the extent of my education, I beg your forgiveness for my lack of participation.

- Ra

P.S. Please forgive numerous errors in language. I fear that I must plead the lateness of the hour and unavoidable distraction.

(1) A reference to the Indian Hijra community.

(2) This was the best word that I could come up with on short notice, and is likely inaccurate. I refer to the modern western european female archtype in this case.

Would you include someone who has been castrated but is now taking testosterone, or not?

IEunuch.

Absolutely, yes, ands thank you for asking.

I'm receiving testosterone injections and have an active sex life. I personally find sex without balls physically satisfying. However, that has a lot to do with the tight package I previously possessed and some soreness in the balls from repeated infections in the epididymis.

I too am taking testosterone injections currently, am in a relationship, and have a sex life.

IEunuch.

If I might be so bold, then, gentlemen, to offer a few questions? These are merely the things that I am most interested in.

- Is this a relationship initiated before castration, or after?

- How did the other person react to the castration, or to being told of it?

- Why did castration occur?

- Have there been any significant pressures in these relationships resulting from differing sexual needs?

- Did the decision to take testosterone have any connection to the relationship?

- Is the relationship with a woman or man?