One thing I've noticed is that many (maybe a quarter to half) of all professional dominatrixes have to specifically list on their website that they don't do castration. The fact that so many of them say this, means that they must be asked to do it reasonably frequently. Then there are some who seem open to the idea, although that is pretty rare. In any case, they definitely encounter requests for them to castrate guys.

It can't be a totally rare desire.

On the other hand, what is interesting about fetishes is how we can be so into one type and so adverse to another. For example, I have absolutely no desire to be peed on, or dressed as a baby, or get an enema, etc., and yet these also seem to be common requests to pro-dommes.

My theory is that sexual urges generally need to overcome an aversion. For example, as much as I love pussy I admit that objectively they are a pretty gross thing -- a wrinkly, slimy hole. And sex generally requires you to overcome all sorts of obstacles such as meeting up with strangers, opening yourself up emotionally, risking diseases, spending money (either directly or indirectly), etc. So my point is that whatever turns us on is probably objectively something it might be better to avoid but our sexual urges somehow transform it into an desirable obsession. Then, for some of us, in addition to or in lieu of the "typical" sexual obsessions, we find something else (maybe pain, humiliation, scat, taboos like kids, animals, etc.) and somehow sexualize that. But for all the other things, we still see them for what they are: gross.

i am afraid it is my fault

i have called and emailed every dominatrix across canada and the usa the last 10 year compiling my list

generic9436 (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 20, 2011 12:59 pm i am afraid it is my fault

i have called and emailed every dominatrix across canada and the usa the last 10 year compiling my list

Good answer. Actually come to think of it, I've probably contributed to it a lot too. I've frequented a lot of pro-dommes and tried to steer them towards castration.

Speaking of pro-dommes in Canada, have you ever visited Veronika Harley in Vancouver? -- she's willing to do some serious damage to balls, and when she was a bit younger she was smokin hot although when i visited her last summer the session was great but it looked like she'd had some hard living since I had seen her last. Miss Jasmine in Vancouver is also great, and was willing to trample my balls, but she didn't like the idea of permanent damage and wasn't into needles. But she's very beautiful and great sessions. I'm pretty sure that if you were a regular of Veronika taking some serious damage you might be able to convince her to castrate you over time. I've never quite maintained a long enough relationship to really get to that point. The one thing I'm doing right now is I found a fairly sadistic novice domme who I can kind of trick into doing stuff beyond what she might otherwise do -- for example, I was her first needles client and I also brought some woodworking clamps that she tightened full strength on my balls and she really seemed to like it. She's actually been writing me to have a follow up session, but right now I'm actually waiting to get some surgery to undo the damage she did -- I'm still pretty bruised up 6 weeks after our session. I'm thinking of taking a burdizzo to her and telling her it just pinches the nerves and seeing if she would actually clamp it ... my problem is that for me castration is a fetish and I know I really like being a muscular, masculine, aggressive guy, so I am trying to get to a place in my life where I don't seek any more damage. I'm sure I could live with being castrated too, but I keep waffling on the issue which isn't a good sign. I've been damaging my genitals since I was 9 years old though, so it is pretty ingrained in my sexuality, so I wouldn't be surprised if I do achieve it semi-purposefully.