Mac (imported) wrote: Sun Feb 21, 2010 8:50 am
That is great in theory. However, at any of those ages, you have to get your parents to agree with the treatment. How many do you think will agree?
When you and I were kids, not many parents would have accepted it or even understood it, but seriously, times have changed. Today, I do believe many adults, who are the grown up gen-x-ers who got to see first hand the hypocracy of a lot of the baby boomers, are now thinking quite differently.
Mac (imported) wrote: Sun Feb 21, 2010 8:50 am
I would have liked to have prevented many aspects of male puberty. However, I would not have even dared to suggest it to my parents.
Again, I tell you times have changed. I had a short, sweet and simple talk with my son a few years ago. I made it clear to him that he never needs to keep a secret from me, but if he wanted to keep somethings secret I would respect his privacy. I also made clear that whatever he thought of his own sexuality, straigh, gay or bi, or gender, male, female or any other thing, I would accept him, I would never condemn or condone anyone elses personal choice in such a private and personal area. Did your mother or father ever speak that way with you? Mine sure did not.
Mac (imported) wrote: Sun Feb 21, 2010 8:50 am
Also, other boys can be very cruel at that age. If you don't develop at a rate which they consider to be normal, You will get teased as sissy, girlie, or even other more demeaning terms.
Uh-oh, I know I am beginning to sound like a broken record here. One more time, "times have changed." There will always be the bullying sort of brats in schools, and with the apathetic and lethargic school administrators and teachers there is actually very little being done by them to improve that situation - but there IS something that is very effective that is being done by others to greatly improve that situation. Who? The people who are really guiding our children today, the so called "pop icons" and such. Compare for example, Elvis/President Nixon/Arthur Godfrey or even The Beatles versus Michael Jackson/President Obama/Oprah Winfrey. Would President Nixon have ever appointed any transsexual to any position in his administration? Yet President Obama just did that very thing. These men and women do greatly influence our children.
Mac (imported) wrote: Sun Feb 21, 2010 8:50 am
Do the girls do the same to other girls who develop slowly? How do girls react to slow developing boys? How do boys react to slow developing girls?
From what little I know of it, it seems to me that girls are even worse than boys about ostricizing and scorning the ones they don't like, girls are generally not as physically confrontational, but are in my opinion much more cruel and unforgiving... So I suppose that a female to male transitioner would have to face some cruelty as "she" left "her" feminine past and became masculine. So do you think that just because, in our current climate the transitioning youth would face a lot of troubles, we should just let things continue as they are?
I stand by my first post, where I suggest that puberty arresting therapies and desired gender hormones should be made available to younger transitioners as a rule, and NOT the exception. If anything, I think that even younger ages should be considered. From what I have read, seen and heard, nearly every transgendered person knew very well that they were transgendered at a very early age, most by the time they were six years old. Forcing a transgendered youth to try to "live up to" the incorrect assumptions/expectations of others is just wrong and cruel. If I were to forcibly raise a non-transgendered girl to live, dress and act like a boy, I would be quite clearly guilty of child abuse, same thing if I were to forcibly raise a non-transgendered boy to live, dress and act like a girl. Equally, I believe that it is clearly wrong and abusive to force, or even to compel with shame or guilt trips, a person to live or dress in the gender that does not suit them, even if the person is young, and even if it appears to me that the person is only indulging in a passing phase of gender identity experimentation.
When I was a kid, I knew several "sissy/girly" boys and a few "tom-boy" girls, and sadly, these sort of children were cruelly teased by the other children, it was NEVER the right thing to do. In our very ignorant and backward thinking at that time, we justified this sickness by telling ourselves that we were doing good to "toughen up that sissy boy!" (I still shudder with nauseating shame when I remember the way I thought and acted back then!) It was wrong, very wrong and just plain sick to think that way, but that is what our popular icons of the times seemed to be telling us to do.
Times are changing, and in this arena at least, things seem to be changing for the better. Let's keep the change going in the right direction.