Gay, Straight, Single, Married, Domestic Partner, or just living together.

If you grew up and through puberty and experienced the physical and mental effects of sex, and

If you are now living a life without any sexual desire and sexual activity, with someone else or with yourself:

Is this by choice? Y/N

What brought this about?

Accident, castration, medical condition, drugs, alcohol, or simple celebacy, etc?

On the Unhappy to Happy scale

-10 meaning you are very unhappy with this

0 meaning you are neutral about this

+10 meaning you are elated with this

If your life better, bearable, worse without the craving for, need for, thoughts of or engagement in sex?

This is not a clinical study. I am just a eunuch wannabe who has experienced hypersexuality and has been both desexualized and resexualized (via drugs).

Having experienced and re-experienced both sides of the fence, for me, both life with and life without sex has its drawbacks. But for me being desexualized (via drugs) provides me with an overall better quality of life than when I was re-sexualized (via drugs).

To each their own of course, so no answer is right or wrong. This is not a conservative/liberal republican/democrat religious/non-religious kind of question. Just wondering about your experiences and thoughts, wishes, and desires.

I am not sure where on your scale to put myself. I would say its around a +8, becasue a greatly enjoy that sex no longer controls my life. but i am also not completely sexless. I am not the motivating source of sex in our relationship, and it doesnt happen often at all, but wow when it does its amaziing. I dont ever become hard, but the experience last along time and when i do reach orgasam, it takes along time even though its mostly dry.

So I thinkg as a castrated (in my case chemically) male the reduction of libido and sexual urges is amazing, but that once and a while sexual experience with someboedy you love is the best. I have had the best sex in my life since reducing my T to the low 50s.

Mine is not totally by choice although it is more appealing each new day. I'd rate me as an 8 or 9 plus on your scale.

I would reply that when I was living with low Testosterone and pretty much asexual life was about a -8. I was going to say lower but I am assuming that having cancer and barfing 24:7 is a -9 and -10 is being in a concentration camp. Neither of which I have a clue about.

Being on "drugs" to have a sex drive and being able to perform has helped make my life a +8. Again I would have rated it higher but I assume having money and maybe being a bit better looking and having super models bouncing on a trampoline would be a +9 or +10 but again I Have NO experience with that either!

I am anxious to reply to the comment on having sexual drive "control" you and I don't disagree that there is a factor of "control" in having a sex drive. It does tend to motivate you to act and behave a certain way. When I first went on HRT I felt this "control" and like some of our f2m transexual friends I worried that testosterone would turn me into an "asshole" or a roid raging nut. What I learned (for me) is that it flipped off the things that made me feel depressed and moody and I was capable of being a nicer guy to be around. Of course the sex part was a plus for me. I'm in a pretty conventional relationship and I don't have any qualms about satisfying my sexual needs with Mrs T. And thankfully she is more then open to that as well.

I understand that obsession about sex can be a bad thing. I understand that some people focus on some really unhealthy fetishes about sex and would happy to be done with that. I don't even disagree in some cases. However I think its always of value to really talk it out (Preferably with an expert) and find out if there is not something that can be done short of castration.

Mine was not by choice either but because of a medical condition. For the years when I had no T in my system it was much harder on my wife than on me. Then when I was put on hormone replacement all I though about was sex and that caused us problems after a while to. Now on very low replacement we have a very good sex life. We don't have sex as often but when we do it very good. Having been as you say on both sides of the fence I would have to say my quality of life is better now than before. I'd rate it a +7.

I have had no partner for years.

Since wife became alcoholic and schizophrenic and made me a Psych nurse.

Who would want to have sexual relations with, "that"?

We are now separated and after a year I dream of women.

The sweet smell of an ovulating lady.

But, without the maintenence.

It makes me wonder, what would be so terribly wrong with a sociaty that allows such ladies to sell their relief as I desire?

Frustrated Beta Male

Moi

My wife and I have been together over 30 years and I have been a Eunuch for over 20 of them. Needless to say,I have been unable to have sex with her but we both have been able to accept what I am and move on. Being younger than I, she has my blessing to be with other men and for whatever reason, this seems to have brought us closer together. Perhaps it's the understanding of each other that we share. She as a Woman and I as a Eunuch. Perhaps there is more about love than just sex. Just my opinion.

I've never had much of a sex life. I can live without it quite easily.

twaddler (imported) wrote: Fri Jan 01, 2010 1:26 pm I've never had much of a sex life. I can live without it quite easily.

Becomes easier the longer you go without it.

Mac (imported) wrote: Fri Jan 01, 2010 1:41 pm Becomes easier the longer you go without it.

Amen to that! I asked someone once what would a guy who hadn't had a woman in twenty years be called. They replied, "He's either gay or a Eunuch".

Smart person.