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Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 5:08 pm
by donny collins (imported)
Hi Guys: When I came here I had no idea what I would find. I found men who had gone through the same horrible eexperience and wwho were anxious to help another brother. When you learned about my experience you responded wwith kindness, undertanding and concern. I am VERY greatful to you all. Thank you. I think that I have grown in confidence and knowledge (but a guy can never know enough). For the first time in a long time I didn't feel lonely.

Well, now someeone has written me many abusive personal messages accusing me of being a fraud. I think he means (using the word one of you fellaas used "troll") and that is WRONG. I am not trying to get anything from anyone based on false statements. I respect you all and value your kindness and concern.

Someone wrote a thread called "What Is A Eunuch?" an I can tell you brothers what a eunuch is not. He is not someone who lets others walk all over him. I don't waant to cause anyone unpleasantness so I am dropping out. Guess my self esteem grew with my selff confidence.

Just want to thank you all again. You're a great bunch of guys. Donny

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 5:20 pm
by kennath7 (imported)
it has been pleasant having you with us, and I also know that one should not allow ones self to be walked on

bit I would ask you to reconsider , forward the offending post to kristoff

that person should not get away with it they will just walk over some one else we need to stick together we need you

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 5:32 pm
by Dave (imported)
Aw don't go. Report the troll and then relax. You'll find the EA is lots of fun and quite enjoyable.

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 6:15 pm
by tugon (imported)
donny collins (imported) wrote: Wed Jun 17, 2009 5:08 pm Hi Guys: When I came here I had no idea what I would find. I found men who had gone through the same horrible eexperience and wwho were anxious to help another brother. When you learned about my experience you responded wwith kindness, undertanding and concern. I am VERY greatful to you all. Thank you. I think that I have grown in confidence and knowledge (but a guy can never know enough). For the first time in a long time I didn't feel lonely.

Well, now someeone has written me many abusive personal messages accusing me of being a fraud. I think he means (using the word one of you fellaas used "troll") and that is WRONG. I am not trying to get anything from anyone based on false statements. I respect you all and value your kindness and concern.

Someone wrote a thread called "What Is A Eunuch?" an I can tell you brothers what a eunuch is not. He is not someone who lets others walk all over him. I don't waant to cause anyone unpleasantness so I am dropping out. Guess my self esteem grew with my selff confidence.

Just want to thank you all again. You're a great bunch of guys. Donny

Please do not go and report that member to the mods. They will deal with the issue. We are here for you and please do not let one members emotional issues drive you away.

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 6:24 pm
by Paolo
Send me copies of the PM's if you still have them.

Questioning a member, even a new one, is fine. After all, a lot of us have pretty much "seen it all" and yes, we have flushed out trolls before.

However, to begin an attack with no proof, without going through a Moderator FIRST, is unacceptable.

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:08 pm
by kristoff
I am aware of the situation and who the "culprit" is here.

If anyone experiences abuse, unwanted interference, gets hit on, asked to cut, whatever... Please, send forward to me the emails and/or PMs. Such things will be dealt with, though preferably not on the boards. On the other hand, an occasional alert to others harms nothing.

Donny, you are welcome on the boards, regardless of what anyone says or thinks - at least until I or another moderator has good reason to say otherwise (and that takes a lot).

I am sending a PM with an invitation for a conversation. I would hope you will take me up on it.

Meanwhile, If someone has a concern about another member, their veracity, whatever, please let me or another mod know about it, and let US handle it, please.

Kristoff

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:46 pm
by speedvogel (imported)
I must say that I have found over the years that the vast majority of the people here are supportive and tolerant. My main goal here is to understand and to learn about motivations and desires. I like my balls and my cock, even though they don't work very well. However, I try to be nonjudgmental in any dealings with other members. Please do not let one bad experience turn you away. Perhaps taking a break might be good, but do not leave forever.

Speed

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 8:03 pm
by kenny (imported)
Donny.Please dont quit the site.Their are alot of caring folks here.Dont let one bad apple ruin it for you.Looking forward to your next post.Kenny

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 9:02 pm
by donny collins (imported)
Hey Fella: Thank you for your kind thoughts. I really care about y'all. Y'all are like family to me. I got a message from Krisstoff and I think we'll chat later. I am going to try to stay if you guys will let me. Thanks again for your kindness. I am so touched. Thank you. Donny

Re: Verbal abuse from members

Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 9:10 pm
by donny collins (imported)
Hi: Thanks so much for your kindness. I'm real touchedd that so many folks asked me to stay. Spoke via message to Mr. Kristoff and I will stay if you let me. I am so thrilled by my sense of family and I am greatful to y'all. Thanks again. Donny