Dissociation between erections and arousal

[JoaoGenerico (imported)]

My sexual performance erection-wise was never much impressive, but I've never bothered much about this, since despite the non-cooperative dick, I've been able to have a fulfilling sex life.

Nowadays, however I'm starting to wonder if this impotence is a sign of other health problems (since I'm young --- just 30 years old) and if I should see a doctor.

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But the main point of this post is that I've noticed a great dissociation between my erections and my state of arousal. Sometimes I have rock hard erections while not being interested in sex, and often I am very horny and aroused, but completely flaccid.

I find this veeeery strange and I wonder if this happens to other young men...

[speedvogel (imported)]

Yes, I would see a doctor. These symptoms could be an indicator of diabetes or another chronic ailment. Do not tolerate things that can and should be treated.

Speed

[tugon (imported)]

The problem can also be emotional. I had great erections when alone fantasizing but would lose my erection when I was with someone. Events in my childhood and low self esteem would cause me to wilt when someone got near. Sadly I could maintain an erection if I had no respect for the other person. When I loved someone or held them in high esteem there would be no erection.

So yes first look to a doctor for a medical check-up. As mentioned diabetes and high blood pressure can cause problems. Some medications you might be taking could interfere as well as supplements. If you check out medically you might want to investigate other causes.

[coinflipper_21 (imported)]

My sexual performance erection-wise was never much impressive, but I've never bothered much about this, since despite the non-cooperative dick, I've been able to have a fulfilling sex life.

Nowadays, however I'm starting to wonder if this impotence is a sign of other health problems (since I'm young --- just 30 years old) and if I should see a doctor.

* * *

But the main point of this post is that I've noticed a great dissociation between my erections and my state of arousal. Sometimes I have rock hard erections while not being interested in sex, and often I am very horny and aroused, but completely flaccid.

I find this veeeery strange and I wonder if this happens to other young men...

It usually doesn't happen to men your age. As others have said, you need to see a doctor. The problem that I have found is that it is difficult to find a doctor who is even comfortable discussing the subject let alone one who is competent to treat it.

At the National Institutes of Health web site, in the section for doctors, there is a check list of 22 conditions that can cause primary impotence listed in order of frequency. If doctors actually used that list, in the order printed, there would be a lot fewer men with erectile problems. My particular condition (prolactinoma) is the fifth thing down on the list, yet it took my doctors 12 years to diagnose me, and that after some research, by me, on the web that pointed one of them in the right direction. When I asked about the diagnostic check list, most doctors will say," Nobody uses those things." Incredible!

Good Luck to you!

[chilliwilli (imported)]

My sexual performance erection-wise was never much impressive, but I've never bothered much about this, since despite the non-cooperative dick, I've been able to have a fulfilling sex life.

Nowadays, however I'm starting to wonder if this impotence is a sign of other health problems (since I'm young --- just 30 years old) and if I should see a doctor.

* * *

But the main point of this post is that I've noticed a great dissociation between my erections and my state of arousal. Sometimes I have rock hard erections while not being interested in sex, and often I am very horny and aroused, but completely flaccid.

I find this veeeery strange and I wonder if this happens to other young men...

Sounds like it came on suddenly??? Many men have periods of impotence in their lives could be drug or stress related. The "dissociation" could have psychological implications, and also be corrected.

Years of abuse from elevated blood sugars as in diabeties or recurrent perineal pressure, often caused from bike riding, can lead to vascular trauma and damage. Of coarse cigarette smoking can cause temporary and permanent problems. You should be aware of these.

I would seek medical attention if you don't feel you can get a handle on the problem.

Good luck

chilli-

[JoaoGenerico (imported)]

I am still curious if anybody experiment that dissociation between erections and arousal.

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Thank you for the answers ! I'll get an appointment to a doctor. The problem now is to know who? Maybe I should see first my usual GP and ask her about an specialist ?

Chilliwilli: No, it's not been a sudden onset. Like I've said, I've never been much potent to begin with, but I didn't care much in the past. Also it gets worse and better (depending on the position of Jupiter on the sky, I guess, because I've not been able to correlate it to something concrete in my life).

Coinflipper: I took a look on the site of NIH (which is fantastic, by the way) and was able to find information to the public, but not to doctors. Do you have a direct link ?

[Johnmil (imported)]

Can you provide a list of these 22 causes. I can't find it on the NIH

website. Thanks.

[fhunter]

But the main point of this post is that I've noticed a great dissociation between my erections and my state of arousal. Sometimes I have rock hard erections while not being interested in sex, and often I am very horny and aroused, but completely flaccid.

I find this veeeery strange and I wonder if this happens to other young men...

I have the same thing - I can be aroused without erection. And can have rock hard erection without even thinking of sex. How I got this condition, or what causes it - I don't know. I do suspect that it's psychological, but not sure.

[JoaoGenerico (imported)]

Thank you for the feedback, fhunter. Me too, I think it must be psychological, but I find it strange nevertheless...

[graylayer02 (imported)]

This is interesting. My arousal follows kind of a parabolic-shaped process. Like fhunter, the more aroused I get at first, the harder I get. After a point, the more aroused I get, I start getting softer again. When I'm super aroused I feel it all internally and at that point I even hate having my penis or balls touched. I'm pretty sure that it's psychological (I'm a huge bottom), though it turns out that I also did injure my penis pretty badly when I was young. The suspensory ligaments are no longer there and it was fractured pretty badly, so even when hard it just kind of hangs there with nowhere to go. The upshot is, even when hard I can stick it back between my legs; I can have a LOT of fun with another guy (or myself) while doing this. If I could somehow convince a doctor that I'd be better off with it gone, that would be the ideal route. Too bad...you can tell a doctor, but you can't tell him much.

BUT...if you're not a garden-variety gay bottom and you can't actually get hard at all...then something is probably wrong. Do you have morning erections? Do you get hard at all? What are your hormones like? Do you eat tons of sugar or bread or pasta or potatoes or drink a lot or smoke? Overweight? Underweight? Looking for a job? Ride bikes a lot? The problem is that you know a LOT more about yourself than your doctor or urologist does. You'll have to go in there with a few educated guesses and work things out yourself, since the number of things which could be wrong is very large. Good luck!