i need some help/advice/opinions.....i keep finding myself being observed by myself.its causing alot of unhappiness.does anyone know why i am doing this or how i can stop it?

It may be that you are "posing" and posturing for yourself in the mistaken belief that you can create an image or persona that will impress or be pleasing, even attractive, to others.

This is not to say that monitoring one's own behavior is a bad thing, especially if you or others have discerned certain traits that are not conducive to good relationships with others or that you, yourself, are dissatisfied with or distressed by.

As Shakespeare (some dead English guy;) ) has reminded us, life is but a stage, but remember that even actors meet, mingle, and enjoy each other (or not) as just plain folks when the curtain is down and the audience has filed out.

Moreso than most males, I'd guess, we females are more prone to carefully monitor and hone our "image". We fret over hair, dress, skin, nails, posture, grace-of-movement, even the tone of our voice, and some do these things to an obsessive degree. I a fortunate in being 100% happy with, and secure in, whom and what I am but I've known many, many other females AND males who think the cameras are rolling 24/7.

Just understand that you are what you are and if there is a need for behavioral changes, then identify and strive to make them...BUT...don't try to remake yourself into the "perfect person". The only person who ever came close to perfection was a man who died for the sins of all mankind. We can only struggle to emulate him as we progress from womb to grave.

Hang in there!

Yoli

Who does take matters seriously now and then.

Relating to the previous post about Shakespere: He also said Above all to thine own self be true.Think about it.