chilliwilli (imported) wrote: Thu Oct 02, 2008 5:56 pm So I was at the gym sitting in the tub. And in sits this fellow and I talk to him a bit, he seems lonely and I talked to him once before in the tub. Children are playing testing the waters while a class has a session in the therapy pool. I live in a real nice community, not snobby, but rather supportive and nonjudgemental. Anyway, a couple days later I'm on the internet and check out a site which carries the pictures of local sexual predators. This one picture looks familar. I'm slow, but a couple hours later I realize...oh shit that's the guy from the hot tub.

I don't now what the guy did, but I'm pissed off. Mad at him, the system and the gym. Twenty years ago I hung out with murders, dope fiends, buglars and probably a few sexual predators. I don't want those people around me, at all! And if I saw the guy again I would tell him to "GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE" and why would this asshole feel it is ok to sit around a bunch of kids anyway. 'Cause he is "cured" now and the law does not prohibit this behavior. Bullshit!

If I ever saw the guy again, and he did not leave immediately I can gaurantee it would rapidly progress to physical violence! Once a person violates an innocent person, their community/family and any values they may have had...well it's just like jumping off a cliff...it's over!!!!!!!!!!!!! As well as castration they should sport an obvious tattoo of their sexual identity ie rapist, child molester etc.

So I printed the guys photo, took it to the manager. I explained that it was not appropriate for this POS to be in the gym, that I was concerned for the children and that I felt violated having sat next to this person for half an hour. Carl, the manager, is a great guy. He empathized with me and let me know the guy was gone, reported and possibly violated on his probation.

So if I was to harsh, oh well...it was nice knowing you!

Seriously

chilli-

plix (imported) wrote: Fri Oct 03, 2008 11:20 am I'm sorry, but I don't agree with what you did.

You admit you do not even know what he did. How do you know he is even interested in kids at all? He may have offended against an adult who was well overage, and he may have no sexual interest whatsoever in children. Why should he be forbidden from being around children if he has never thought of them sexually and he would never be interested in doing anything to them?

Or what if he did offend against a child, but it was consensual sex with his 17 year-old girlfriend when he was 18? There have been many such cases where people in this situation have been forced to register as a sex offender for life, all for having consensual sex with a girlfriend who was 17 when they were 18. Are you really suggesting that people who have done this should be alienated from and hated by society for life, and beaten up or stoned to death, all for having consensual sex with a 17 year-old girlfriend when they were 18?

You know nothing about this situation, and you irrationally jumped to conclusions. Ignorance like what you have displayed here is exactly what contributes to most of the darker side of humanity.

Then you go on to say that if you see this guy sitting somewhere minding his own business, not bothering anyone, you will physically attack him?

Supportive and nonjudgemental? BS.

You say that this guy seemed lonely when you saw him. He was probably glad to see you approach him, and he probably thought that maybe he would finally make a friend who could love him for who he is and not judge him for his past. If I came across this guy, I know that I would let him know that I understand that people make mistakes, and that I certainly am in no position to judge him for his. I would offer him friendship and let him know that I respect him for the human person he is, regardless of what he has done.

Attitudes toward these people like yours are exactly why such people do what they do. You want him alienated from society, hated and mistreated by all he meets, and then you wonder why he re-offends. Have you ever thought about what he might do if someone showed him a little bit of compassion?

chilliwilli (imported) wrote: Fri Oct 03, 2008 3:02 pm Plix-

I wrote a complete response but kept getting logged off and have to go for a few days.

The guy turned out to be into kids under 13 yrs. Why he felt it was ok to seek redeemtion in a spa with kids jumping around, got any ideas? And I am no man's redeemtion regardless. He could have worked with seniors, rode his bike, or volunteered to clean dog kennels. That's called redeeming yourself.

My father and mother married when dad was 19 and mum was 15. Today I would be the son of a registered sex offender. I have nothing but empathy for young men victimezed by a predatory "justice" system that labels them sex offenders for life when all they did was have an innocent relation with a girl underage...and I know it happens and it breaks my heart!and makes me resentful of the system in place.

But this dude was older, by his age he was either a rapist or a pedolphile. And I'd rather sit next to an axe murderer! And I feel I have a moral obligation to protect those around me within reason. Why? Because I can! If I had tits I would nurse orphaned babies, but I don't ok!

And yes I have "thought about what he might do if someone (I) gave him more compassion". The guy cast his lot the first time round, now he's a registered sex offender, what more does he have to lose? He would barter my compassion for a seat in the hot tub so he could befriend a single mother, become a sitter and start fucking kids!...end of story no doubt in my mind!

I ask someone to please defend me in my absence. I feel I got cut short...but I really am a nice person...until...well..

chilli-