I want to start by first saying hello and thanks for letting me join, as this could be the answer that I have been searching for quite some time.

I have been plagued since I was 12 years old with a very over active libido and over the last 15 years it had been a controlling factor in my life. It has probably influenced most any big decision I have made in my life. I have been searching for quite some time for some type of herbal remedy that would lower my sex drive to no avail. I am at a point in my life that I would be very happy without this nuisance in my life.

I am married so I realize this is something to discuse with my wife but feel it will have a small impact on her as she doesn’t really have much of a sex drive in the first place. She can go months at a time without and is quite happy with that. I am not really sure on the right approach to bring this up as I have pretty much put my wife thru the ringer in terms of sexual matters and am concerned she will think of this as just another one of my “twisted desires”. I feel at this point in my life that this would be a good thing in general and especially my marriage.

I would appreciate any input on the best course of action to proceed to make this reality.

Thanks terry

I hope you find the information that you seek. I am pretty much in the same boat as you and my wife has been more accepting than I ever thought. Chemical castration drugs can be used to lower libido or eliminate it. Before trying something as draatic as chem. castration, you may want to try taking a SSRI like prozac 40mg/day first. If that doesnt work depo provera injections or androcur will do the trick.

The following link has great information as far as medications and dosage.

http://www.eunuch.org/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=12114

And the following is my ongoing experience with using libido lowering drugs.

http://www.eunuch.org/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=11607

Good luck Terry!

I think in a nutshell most females have a very low libido anyways espically those that perhaps 30ish and up...not sure on younger ones....

Perhaps you should change approach....try romance, a dinner out, fix a dinner for two, a movie, etc....a recent Ana Landers column suggested to one man...make certain your worthy example make sure you clean yourself up, become human, no belching or farting (women don't seem to like those)

In other words don't just think with your 2nd brain!!!!

IbPervert (imported) wrote: Thu Feb 07, 2008 12:55 am In other words don't just think with your 2nd brain!!!!

Is that the one in your head?

Thanks Ramses and IbPervert. I have done a lot of reading including the 2 post you listed and much more. I had to take a brake and give my brain a chance to absorb it. I did find a lot of good information and am leaning toward DP. I had read your letter you had sent your wife and used that as a kind of guide when I talked to my wife and was quite surprised when she said it would be okay. She wasn’t thrilled with the cost however as I am a carpenter and things have really slowed down now so money is tight. I take it from some of the post I have read that as far as insurance is concerned this is a form of ED and is not covered by insurance, is that everyone else’s experience?

As far as treating the wife like a queen and helping her out around the house and tiring romance I have done that and continue to do so and it helps little with her as far as us having sex more (on the average once every 2 weeks sometimes 3 weeks). She has been to the doctor and tried antidepressants but that didn’t help. She has told me numerous times that it isn’t me it, is her and she trys to do it for me but I can tell if she isn’t into it and it really spoils it for me. She told me that over the 2.5 years before before we where married that she could count the times on one hand she felt any real desire for sex.

So I don’t really think Ann has the answer in my case as it involves a lot more than me having sex with my wife. It encompasses all facets of my life and has already taken me places I didn’t want to go.

Thanks Terry

Terry,

You are not alone. There are plenty of us out there -- married men who have lowered their drive. Good luck, it can be a great marriage enhancer.

Don

After more talking with my wife we have decided that lowering my libido would be a good thing for both of us. As long as I am able to function on occassion when she is in the mood. Which isnt very often but thats okay with me. I will ordering DP and will start off with DonFL recomended dosages and see how it affects me and go from there.

Thanks to all who have given me there feedback.

Terry

tr_80504 (imported) wrote: Fri Feb 08, 2008 9:13 am After more talking with my wife we have decided that lowering my libido would be a good thing for both of us. As long as I am able to function on occassion when she is in the mood. Which isnt very often but thats okay with me. I will ordering DP and will start off with DonFL recomended dosages and see how it affects me and go from there.

Thanks to all who have given me there feedback.

Terry

if you have any questions or wish more info, just PM me. If you need more customization, just PM me also. I recommend DP plus proscar for the best libido lowering effect.

Terry, I am glad you are doing this with your wife as opposed to just your decision. Like you, my wife has been very supportive and the "playing field" between us is now level.

Don

As you may have read in my other posts, I tried Cyproterone Acetate 50Mg daily, with my wife's approval I hasten to add. I stopped taking the drug after only a week because I couldn't handle the side effects. I will try it again sometime, but at a lower dose.

I'm glad to hear that your wife is understanding and supportive. It always makes me sad to read about guys who either can't being themselves to discuss this stuff with their wives, or who's wives are unwilling to entertain the idea. My wife and I have always been supportive of one another. She accepts that her sex drive is far far weaker than mine, and although she likes me to give her a good 'seeing to' from time to time, she'd rather go without than know that I'm going up the wall with frustration.