MacTheWolf (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 20, 2008 4:46 pm The nursing home just called me. This is the fourth call they have made to me in one week's time. Each call involved making a room change on mom. It seems mom has a new problem.

Monday they called to tell me mom had pulled out the feeding tube again. That was no surprise. But it seems mom is doing something different. After she pulls out her feeding tube, she gets out bed, goes to the patient next to her and pulls out their feeding tube as well.

I honestly don't know what to think about that.

That's practicing medicine without a license...

Mac--

Good to hear that you got conservatorship over your mother's assets and, at least to some extent, over her care and her circumstances. If your financial profile is as thin as you've indicated, it's surprising that you were granted the conservatorship, especially considering the usual bonding requirements.

Your lawyer must be quite good at things of this type, so he may already have discussed this with you. But, anyway, I'd point out that you might be better able to protect your mother's assets if you could get them into a trust. I'm assuming that bills for her care at the nursing home are piling up, and sooner or later either Protective Services or the nursing home will likely file suit. If the assets were in a trust before any lawsuits are filed (assuming none have been filed yet) those assets (your house, etc.) probably would be safe. Your mother could be beneficiary of the trust, with yourself as the heir to her interest.

Once a lawsuit is filed, the court would probably block creation of a trust. And, usually, transer of assets to a trust is a bigger transaction than the court overseeing a conservatorship would approve. But, you and your lawyer could always try. Be tough to save the house if the court makes a judgement against you mother and allows the creditors to take her assets

Best of luck, and I'd hope your mother's condition stabilizes. Statutory law probably doesn't give you or her any rights to speak of in the situation, but perhaps there is case law which would give you grounds to file a suit to get her out of the nursing home. She might expire sooner living at home, but she'd probably be happier in the time she was there.

Beau Geste (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 23, 2008 2:03 pm Mac--

Good to hear that you got conservatorship over your mother's assets and, at least to some extent, over her care and her circumstances. If your financial profile is as thin as you've indicated, it's surprising that you were granted the conservatorship, especially considering the usual bonding requirements.

Your lawyer must be quite good at things of this type, so he may already have discussed this with you. But, anyway, I'd point out that you might be better able to protect your mother's assets if you could get them into a trust. I'm assuming that bills for her care at the nursing home are piling up, and sooner or later either Protective Services or the nursing home will likely file suit. If the assets were in a trust before any lawsuits are filed (assuming none have been filed yet) those assets (your house, etc.) probably would be safe. Your mother could be beneficiary of the trust, with yourself as the heir to her interest.

Once a lawsuit is filed, the court would probably block creation of a trust. And, usually, transer of assets to a trust is a bigger transaction than the court overseeing a conservatorship would approve. But, you and your lawyer could always try. Be tough to save the house if the court makes a judgement against you mother and allows the creditors to take her assets

Best of luck, and I'd hope your mother's condition stabilizes. Statutory law probably doesn't give you or her any rights to speak of in the situation, but perhaps there is case law which would give you grounds to file a suit to get her out of the nursing home. She might expire sooner living at home, but she'd probably be happier in the time she was there.

That sounds somewhat encouraging and discouraging, but you have always know this about your situation. You and I are poor people.

Blaise (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 23, 2008 2:24 pm That sounds somewhat encouraging and discouraging, but you have always know this about your situation. You and I are poor people.

What! I'm poor? OMG, I thought I was just middle class dregs.

Mom's social worker called and wants me at her office at 8:00am. She wants to verify mom's sources of income. She believes mom is making too much money to qualify for Medi-Cal (state health insurance).

I guess I was under the misimpression that living in poverty was qualification enough. Silly me.

MacTheWolf (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 23, 2008 2:33 pm What! I'm poor? OMG, I thought I was just middle class dregs.

Not poor.. Materialistically and Financially Challenged.

When I get older and more senile can I have Daughter as my nurse?

Then again, with my luck, I'd look up and see a smiling nun in a Red Habit.

has your daughter any idea of your plans for her:D

Daughter's pretty darned expensive, not so sure you could afford her.... Besides, I don't do dentures, diapers, dishes, spongebaths, or anything having to do with body fluids of any kind. Psychotropic medications and Narcotic pain reliever supplies may steadily dwindle without your knowledge... Hey, I gotta make extra cash somewhere, might as well sell them to stupid suburban kids outside a high school.

Daughter (imported) wrote: Tue Jul 01, 2008 6:17 am Daughter's pretty darned expensive, not so sure you could afford her.... Besides, I don't do dentures, diapers, dishes, spongebaths, or anything having to do with body fluids of any kind. Psychotropic medications and Narcotic pain reliever supplies may steadily dwindle without your knowledge... Hey, I gotta make extra cash somewhere, might as well sell them to stupid suburban kids outside a high school.

In Louisiana, we have a "family values" United States senator who apparently likes wearing diapers. I haven't found a diapers paraphilia but there is a toothless women Yahoo Group.