I went to mom's nursing home today and learned more about tube feeding. I was called into the Head Nurse's office afterwards where I was told good, bad or middle-of-the-road news.

Mom will most likely NOT get to go home on May 1. In fact, she may be there another 3-4 months. On the plus side, my share of her extra costs would only be $560 a month. Not really acceptable unless I gave up luxury items like Coke, tobacco and my food. HOWEVER, they said if I brought all the utility bills with mom's name on them tomorrow, my share of cost could be reduced to zero for as long as mom is there

Looks like I'll spend part of the day looking up old utility bills.

That really sounds very good for you wolfie.

You maybe getting a break in life for a change.

Wish you all the luck in finding all the bills and that they meet the requirements.

My non-EA buddy Jay and my chat room fellow ops, Wetherman, both gave me something to worry about tonight.

They said THAT nursing home "might" be trying to get mom's Retirement money and her Social Security check. They warned me not to sign anything and especially not to give them mom's checking account number. They will NOT get mom's checking account number from me.

If they try that, I'll either notify mom's lawyer and my lawyer for help and or I will take mom out Against Medical Advice asap.

I do not wish to bring your mood down but what they will probably do is to put a lien against the house. Information I have from someone in the business of Elder Care says that this is almost an automatic action. --FLO--

It may be too late now (and of course I am not a lawyer, and this is not legal advice) but I seem to remember when my dad's mother started going downhill, she signed her house over to him to prevent a lien being placed against it for just that reason. I think he was told that the house had to be in his name for 2 years before it would be protected against seizure.

jane_says (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 30, 2008 9:45 am It may be too late now (and of course I am not a lawyer, and this is not legal advice) but I seem to remember when my dad's mother started going downhill, she signed her house over to him to prevent a lien being placed against it for just that reason. I think he was told that the house had to be in his name for 2 years before it would be protected against seizure.

Unfortunately, my mom has dementia and cannot legally sign anything over to anybody.

I just returned from the nursing home and gave them a copy of mom's utility bills and her property tax payment. Now I will cross my fingers and hope for the best.

Oh yeah, AMR Ambulance company just sent me a bill for $1,610 for two of mom's trips to the ER.

Yeah, that's what I meant when I said I thought it might be too late for that.

Sorry again Wolfie, for all you're going through. I hate it about the new unexpected bill too -- but blood, turnip, etc., right? Tell 'em to get in line!

Something sad happened today but it wasn't unexpected and it will save me money. My 11 year old cat, Cabbot, died today. An hour ago it was looking at me meowing and just a few minutes ago I found it on the couch, eyes wide open, mouth wide open, legs stretched out and stiff as if rigamortis was already setting in.

Cabbot was a great cat for those years though all it ready did was purr, eat, shit and sleep. I miss it already. It had been meowing constantly for days even after I fed it, bathed it, gave it water and milk. Maybe it was in pain or telling me in its words that it was dying.

I won't replace it with a new cat. It'll just be me and Rocky, my german shepherd.

River was right when he said, "dogs have masters, cats have staff."

I really feel very sorry in your very great loss. I know what Cabbot meant to you. I saw your love for Cabbot when we visited you. Words can not really empress how on feels with the loss of a love one. Yes Cats and Dogs are perhaps some of the closest family members we can ever have.

"All it

MacTheWolf (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 30, 2008 1:42 pm did was purr, eat, shit and sleep

". Sounds like the ideal house cat to me. --FLO--