Losethem (imported) wrote: Mon Jul 21, 2014 10:43 am I'm basing it on their own statement. How can a person in one breath say they're not homosexual and then say they want to engage in homosexual acts?

It's a contradictory statement. At the least it makes them bisexual.

Sexuality is just more complicated than that. "There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy." Some straight men want to perform specific sexual acts with other men. For some there may be a BDSM aspect. For some there may be a penis thing. Who knows. Someone who makes a statement like that clearly isn't quaking in fear of looking different, so they should probably be taken seriously.

For me sex of other people is realy boring.

And doing sex is boring too. A bit relaxing, yes, but I think more importes things while doing this ... e. g. is the dish was done ...

I am currently intact, 35 years old and have only ever slept with women till recently, I started experimenting with a gay friend and while I was happy to suck his dick and receive anal I couldn't kiss him or give anal as it didn't feel right, but when I think about post nullification life I see myself with a dom male, an ultra sadistic ladyboy would be my preference

Hmmmm. This is fascinating ! I have always believed there is no such thing as a "straight" guy. Why would i say that ?

I'm 54 yo intact male. My first true sexual experience was with a male at 16 ( not including playing doctors and nurses etc as a 10 yo kid with a female cousin). I enjoyed it. First time with a girl, a little later, enjoyed that too although fantasy was more gay than straight. I wasn't confused as both seemed "natural". At 22 had my first long term relationship with a girl and got picked up by a male minor celebrity in the UK who introduced me to the joys of receiving anal sex ( he's now in jail for pedophilia). When I left the uk for a new life in Australia, my very straight best friend ( sporty jock beer drinking type who played rugby & cricket etc) stuck his tongue down my throat and pressed his hard cock up against me as we said goodbye and confessed how he wished we'd got it on together (ok me too ! But we never did). Interesting........

Life in Austraila was different. Met my first wife. She didn't "enjoy" sex she told me, but gave the most amazing blow job I've ever had. At this time I also discovered the delights of cruising public toilets and glory holes etc. hmmm......

Jump 2 years and I'm separated from wife no1 and meet the most gorgeous 19yo girl ( I'm 29). She's drop dead sexy, fantastic body, articulate and intelligent. After 6 months she's wife no 2 and during our two and a half years together we had sex at least once a day, every day. During this time we ended up having a threesome with my very "straight " best friend and business partner ( married with kids) many times. We enjoyed mutual oral and kissing but penetration was only hetero with my wife. He tells me that I'm the most sexual person he's ever met.

Anyway the best friend moved away to live in the bush and then one day the wife and I decided it was all over ( I later discovered she was bulimic and anorexic but never knew during the relationship). Ok, so make a new best friend who just happens to be gay and thinks I'm 100% straight. It doesn't take long for him discover this isn't quite true and we have a 3 month relationship. He's a total top so therefore I'm on the bottom! He is also very well hung so this aspect takes on a whole new level. Meanwhile ..... I decide that while I really enjoy gay sex, I don't want to live with a man (denial ?).

After a couple of months I meet ( yes you guessed it !) wife no 3.... She is sweet but sex is never really great. By this time, my fantasies are 80% gay and I have the occasional gay hook up, but not often.

Skip 16 years. We have two kids and a house, dog etc etc. I decide that we're just "going through the motions" and actually hate each other, so on new years eve I tell her so. She does hate me now ! I tell her it's all for the best for all of us including the kids, who only ever see us fighting and never see any affection.

I move out on my own close by to the family home and then I meet this girl.........

Oh god, I'm infatuated. Of course she is much younger than me, smart, sexy and independent. Sex is awesome ( I'd nearly forgotten how good it could be). I'm hooked, but after what seems like a month of mutual obsession, she starts to pull back and tells me that she is trouble and that she's no good for me. Now I'm in hell and it takes me 12 months to get over her, but it does introduce me to a new concept- online dating and hook ups.

I have no luck with women but find out its much easier with guys ! This is how I discover that most (not all) of the guys on these sites who are "straight" just want to get f____d and suck c__k ( not sure if I can write that on here so hence the censorship lol). Of course most cannot "host" or want to meet in parks etc as they're all in hetero relationships. I call myself Bi at this stage while I have numerous experiences with all types/ages of guys and my experience broadens.

Then I go on a short holiday to an Asian island.....There I meet a local guy on Blendr/Badoo and we're inseparable for five short days and I think I'm in love ! (great sex also helps) Holiday romance ? Unfortunately yes, and whilst we keep in contact for months I can't handle the long distance relationship.

Sorry if I've rambled on here for too long, but as I said at the beginning of this post, in my experience (maybe limited) I'm not sure there is such a thing as a 100% straight guy ( I can't speak for other genders, so won't ). Labels are important on medicines but not necceasary for human beings of any gender. I guess we're all looking for something and some of that maybe self determination or identity.

But as we all know, male sexuality is dominated/defined by our gentitals, which is why we're all on here in the first place, looking for answers.

I've always been gay but fought my feelings for far too long. I have had gay friends but have always felt more comfortable and felt I fit in better with my straight friends for the most part for whatever reasons. However, being the romantic that I am, I was always falling in love with straight male friends over time, as we got to know each other. I probably don't have to tell anyone how frustrating and painful that was. I never seemed to able to find gay single friends to just hang out with and fall in love over time. Actually many of my gay friends didn't believe I was gay because I wasn't ready to hop in the sack with any and every gay guy who came along. So over time I guess I would have to say that I became somewhat of an asexual, having put aside thoughts of finding Mr. Right. Ironically, after my orchiectomy I find that I have a renewed interest in finding Mr. Right. However, living in a small town in the rural deep south makes the odds of me meeting someone to date and fall in love with worse than they have ever been. While I am open about my sexuality, am accepted and have many friends here, any other men who are in this area that are interested in men (and there surely must be others) are staying in the closet. Anyway I'm happy that I have many friends and finding someone would be frosting on the cake.

A-1 (imported) wrote: Sun Jul 20, 2014 7:35 pm do Straight women enjoy watching Gay men as much as Straight men enjoy watching Lesbians?

Has anybody ever asked?

In my experience with multiple girlfriends and wife, none have been interested in watching gay sex. Most said it was gross. Not sure why it doesn't match guys fascination with lesbians. When asked why I like watching lesbian porn, my answer is "what's better than one beautiful, naked girl having orgasms? Two (or more) beautiful, naked girls having orgasms..."

I think one of the reasons is that guys in gay porn have that "gay vibe" whereas most girls in lesbian porn seem like straight porn girls. In fact when I find porn that contains "real lesbians" it isn't nearly as interesting to me. It is a vibe thing in my opinion.