Way to go on the Mojo..Hehe..I know exactly what you meant by this...

Standing up for yourself in order to get what you deserve...And, you deserve a lot...I love to read your posts...You're so articulate...and I can relate to you and your admirers in many ways...(and..they are admirers..as am I)

smooches dragonfly

I just read all the way thru your thread Danya... You are simply amazing.. The fact that you are hanging on.. Amazing. Yeah, the job market is horrible. Employer, jerk you around. Yet, you are doing marvelous at keep your head held high.. You are doing wonderful girl.. I am very proud of you.

butterflyjack (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 31, 2010 5:32 am Way to go on the Mojo..Hehe..I know exactly what you meant by this...

Standing up for yourself in order to get what you deserve...And, you deserve a lot...I love to read your posts...You're so articulate...and I can relate to you and your admirers in many ways...(and..they are admirers..as am I)

smooches dragonfly

Hi dragonfly,

I am feeling very confident, although I still have occasional attacks of panic. Those are short-lived. I will write more on what is happening soon.

OneBallBoi (imported) wrote: Sun Oct 31, 2010 6:19 pm Thanks for your kind words, as always.

Hugs,

Danya

I just read all the way thru your thread Danya... You are simply amazing.. The fact that you are hanging on.. Amazing. Yeah, the job market is horrible. Employer, jerk you around. Yet, you are doing marvelous at keep your head held

high.. You are doing wonderful girl.. I am very proud of you.

Hi OneBallBoi,

It makes me happy to know you are proud of me. I'm not trying to be amazing. I'll leave any such conclusions to kind folks like you.

What I do know is that, for the first time, I am starting to believe in my heart that I can and will survive this time and will, in the end, thrive. I even feel I will soar, figuratively speaking. This feeling is more powerful than an intellectual acceptance that everything will work out.

It is very much like the time before I decided to transition. I had to let go of thinking through the 'what if's' and go with what I felt in my soul was the right path. I let go of fear then and forged ahead. There were two weekends shortly before my official transition date when I panicked. Friends helped me through those. I was totally calm when I walked into the office as Danya for the first time.

None of this means this time is easy. It is not and I feel a deep empathy for the many people in this country who are unable to find work after extended searches.

A week or so ago, I felt like giving up. I put up with that for ten minutes before deciding to call a friend. Speaking with her dispelled my doubts and fear.

It is likely I will need to find another job soon. Certainly by the end of the year. There are signs this may not be too difficult. Time will tell. The upcoming holidays may delay things a bit. Many people have interviews and are never offered a job. Nonetheless, I will find a way to succeed.

Hugs,

Danya

So glad to hear you're more upbeat and confident... I'm looking forward to your more in-depth post. smooches dragonfly

Danya (imported) wrote: Mon Nov 01, 2010 7:43 pm Hi dragonfly,

I am feeling very confident, although I still have occasional attacks of panic. Those are short-lived. I will write more on what is happening soon.

Thanks for your kind words, as always.

Hugs,

Danya

Danya (imported) wrote: Mon Nov 01, 2010 7:43 pm Hi OneBallBoi,

It makes me happy to know you are proud of me. I'm not trying to be amazing. I'll leave any such conclusions to kind folks like you.

What I do know is that, for the first time, I am starting to believe in my heart that I can and will survive this time and will, in the end, thrive. I even feel I will soar, figuratively speaking. This feeling is more powerful than an intellectual acceptance that everything will work out.

It is very much like the time before I decided to transition. I had to let go of thinking through the 'what if's' and go with what I felt in my soul was the right path. I let go of fear then and forged ahead. There were two weekends shortly before my official transition date when I panicked. Friends helped me through those. I was totally calm when I walked into the office as Danya for the first time.

None of this means this time is easy. It is not and I feel a deep empathy for the many people in this country who are unable to find work after extended searches.

A week or so ago, I felt like giving up. I put up with that for ten minutes before deciding to call a friend. Speaking with her dispelled my doubts and fear.

It is likely I will need to find another job soon. Certainly by the end of the year. There are signs this may not be too difficult. Time will tell. The upcoming holidays may delay things a bit. Many people have interviews and are never offered a job. Nonetheless, I will find a way to succeed.

Hugs,

Danya

You know as always I wish you the very best, hope all turns out well.

River

I've been sort of off line for a while. Working on a variety of things one of which is my relationship with my wife. Therapy can be a good thing!

Liked your comment about antidepressents and them being worth using if it helps deal with problems. I had the same issue with sleep meds. I wasn't keen on taking them but the alternative? Not sleeping? So NOT good that I decided not to loose sleep over them.

Not having a child hood sounds very traumatic. I kind of feel that myself but in a far different way. Older Parents, growing up in a non "family" type area etc. Anyway how did the job thing go? I've been rather discouraged to be still working the part time low pay job I'm at but then I talk to people who have not had any work for year+

Riverwind (imported) wrote: Tue Nov 02, 2010 11:11 am You know as always I wish you the very best, hope all turns out well.

River

Hi River,

It's great to hear from you. Yes, I know I always have your good wishes and I value that. I am confident everything will turn out well, although there still may be some significant bumps in the road ahead.

Hugs,

Danay

mrt (imported) wrote: Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:27 am I've been sort of off line for a while. Working on a variety of things one of which is my relationship with my wife. Therapy can be a good thing!

Liked your comment about antidepressents and them being worth using if it helps deal with problems. I had the same issue with sleep meds. I wasn't keen on taking them but the alternative? Not sleeping? So NOT good that I decided not to loose sleep over them.

Not having a child hood sounds very traumatic. I kind of feel that myself but in a far different way. Older Parents, growing up in a non "family" type area etc. Anyway how did the job thing go? I've been rather discouraged to be still working the part time low pay job I'm at but then I talk to people who have not had any work for year+

Hi MrT,

I was wondering how you were doing. Taking care of personal business is always important, especially when it involves the most important relationship in your life.

'X' brought up my lack of a childhood tonight. I couldn't talk about it for long. It was too painful. When my life is more settled, this is less of an issue.

My current roommate has been out of work for nearly two years. I was unemployed for 10 1/2 months, so I know how discouraging unemployment and underemployment can be.

The phone interview I mentioned went well. I was not offered a second interview, though. This is OK. I will describe more of what's happening in my next post.

Hugs,

Danya

My job is very stressful and, for a time, I thought this was all the proof I needed to pursue another career type based on some of my other skills. My much younger mentor and friend at the company left for another corporation a few weeks ago. He thinks I do great work. He and my close Minnesota woman friend agree that, with a different manager, I may feel much better about my career. I think they are right.

I feel a need for circumspection here, as far as my work life goes. So this is a heavily self-censored explanation of my work situation.

Last week, I spoke with the agency recruiter I work with, who got me in for the interview that landed me this job. She readily admits that anyone holding this particular role, at this place within the company, is in a very difficult situation.

I had hoped that this temporary job would turn into a permanent job. Now, I don't think this would be a good thing at all. A permanent job in another part of the company would be terrific. I'm still applying for those.

For the time being, unless a very tempting permanent opportunity comes my way, I want to stick with contract assignments. My Gender Reassignment Surgery date is a little over five months away. I will have no problem on a temporary job announcing I will be having surgery and will leave with two weeks' notice. If they like my work, I will offer to work remotely after the initial 2 week recovery period.

Even if a good permanent job offer comes along, I may say that I will take the job only if they are fine with my keeping this surgery date. I will not explain what the surgery is.

I am confident that I will be able to keep working at one contract job or another until surgery. I continue to get emails and calls from recruiters, nearly every day, about job opportunities in my field. They initiate this contact, solely because my resume is on several technology job sites. Not all of these jobs are good fits. Some are not only good fits, they also sound interesting and maybe even fun. I have turned down several offers because I would have needed to start sooner than I can.

Hiring for contract workers in my field and in this part of the country has risen sharply. In addition, I am still gaining valuable experience where I am. A fourth recruiter recently told me that the company I am at is great to have on my resume.

After surgery, I will either continue with contract assignments until I find a permanent position in this career or opt for a different career, based on my science, IT and business backgrounds. I am finding that contract work is now more attractive to me.

Tomorrow morning, Sunday, I will go to the botanic garden for perhaps the last time this year. They have not yet had a killing freeze. The location close to Lake Michigan may delay this a bit, but not likely for much longer. I want to walk for at least two hours. It's one of my favorite spots in the metropolitan area.

Things with 'X' are gong well. He's been discouraged with some school work. With additional information from a friend here who knows about such things, I encouraged him to see a specialist. He likely has dyslexia.

Shortly after we met, several things prompted me to ask him if he had dyslexia. As time has passed, my suspicions grew. I am very glad he will see the specialist later this month. He feels more confident now, knowing that there is probably an explanation for some of his learning problems. There are also ways to help him work through most of these.

I will spend Thanksgiving Day with 'X', his daughter, son-in-law, granddaughter and extended family.

As always, good to hear from you, Danya. It sounds as though there are more and more opportunities opening up to you..Maybe it's the economy bouncing back, or maybe it's just you...Maybe both. After your surgery, life should take more rigid bent. You' ll be less stressed with it done and moved toward your goal .( Which I can only surmise)...smooches dragonfly